How do you unbrainwash kids after a divorce, thanks to their mother?

Question

My children were ripped from my arms by the local deputies because my former wife has a severe pathalogical lying problem. She somehow got temp custody and is completely brainwashing my kids. Is it possible to reverse these affects after I regain custody? My kids are 4 and 2.

Answer 1

yes the will see your love for them and will forget,kids are great unconditional love at that age good luck to you and your babies

Answer 2

This is a question that should never have to be answered- but people are so bitter that unfortunately more often than not it is the case when divorces occur- the sad thing s that the children suffer more than the adults- in your case- the fact that the children are young is in your favor because they may not totally understand what the other parent is trying to do- NEVER resort to the same tactics that were used against you- just shower your children with love and NEVER badmouth the other parent- remember the old saying "if you don't have anything nice to say- don't say anything at all"- in time the children will see who the one is that is causing all the chaos and dissension in their lives- and they will love you for the fact that you didn't use them as pawns in your "war". If the other parent continues to be negative and nasty all the time the children will not want to be around them- if the children tell you about what the other parent is saying or doing then tell them you don't think they need to be concerned over it and that they should just remember that you still love them no matter what-and you don't know why the other parent would say such stuff- I would bring it up on court also- lots of states have parenting classes- though they don't always help- the judge can make the negative party go- and maybe they will realize it is the children they are hurting-

Answer 3

You need a lawyer, to get the temp customer. But the real answer is you may need some counseling to help you cope with the anger.

The 2 yr old will most likely not remember anything, but the 4 yr old could. You should just be the best dad you can, be an excellent role model, and make sure that your anger for the mother isn't making the kids be in the middle and have to chose sides.

Answer 4

Many of the problems you may be facing could be just the tip of the iceberg on what is really happening in your marriage. I dont mean to scare you but many problems when they either first show up or if they keep reoccurring could be just whats showing from a larger problem that either you or your spouse cannot even see. One of the only things you can do to help is to talk honestly and openly with each other in the marriage. If things become more serious more serious options need to be looked at as possibilities. I have a blog that has more information on some of what I've been writing about. If you feel like checking it out I would completly suggest it. Read here https://tr.im/q3oea

Love is a choice that is made everyday when you wake up and every night when you go to sleep. Some days you may not feel the original feeling but love isnt a feeling or an emotion. Its an action a verb. Falling out of love may just mean you need to spice things up a little or that you were never in love in the first place. Don't just get out of a marriage just because you don't think you like the person anymore.

Answer 5

WOW! Something made the deputies get involved now you have to do what the judge suggest. If the children are with her how can you stop her, by showing them you are a good dad. Do not forget birthdays, holidays, hugs, love. You might need a lawyer. Court Family counsel is free they like to keep families together. This is very important i do not know what you did to cause the mother to take action against you. Ask her what you can do--If nothing your children will grow up and learn the truth or fight for your rights. God help the children

Answer 6

unfortunately this is well documented. its called PAS (parental alienation syndrome) where one parent brainwashes the child against the other, useful and informayive website search for families need fathers, i think its www.fnf.org , fathers4justice have some good informative help on their website too. dont be afraid if she starts also making vile sexual allegations against you either if and when you have contact, make sure someone is with you all the time, if it gets as bad as it can do, it will be out and out psychological war, try and stay away from her, make a local contact with the police, someone that you can talk too about the problem so they are forwarned what is likely to occur and tell them you will of course assist them in any way you can but have a potential nightmare problem waitng to happen. meanwhile show you kids nothing but genuine love and affection, they need to see their dad in the way the always have, whatever happens now will have lasting effects on them, time will catch her out - as the kids grow they will work things out form themselves. (ive been there and back) . my advice , stay strong inside, keep your dignity at all times, stay calm and level headed, the authorities and the courts wont believe she is lying at first, you'll need to show them again and again she is lying before they'll begin to accept it, so when you aget areested and have to spend your weekends in jail like i did, do it with dignity and explain to the police that you understand they are just doinmg their job but ask them to understand that you are the victim of malice on her part, then when you keep getting the cops call on you, they'll say 'hey i remember this nice guy, he's the one with the crazy b itch of an ex' they'll respect you and your kids will to if you keep loving them and being there for them . watch Mrs Doubtfire, good luck brother

Answer 7

It is possible but you cannot do it alone, you will need to find a therapist for them. Look for a good play therapist in your area, they basically play with the kids while talking to them. That way the kids are more at ease. My ex wife was and is very physically and emotionally abusive to my son, I even took her to court but the judge let her keep visitation anyway. So I have to deal with this problem every time he comes back from her home.

Answer 8

first off, remeber this.....love conquers all! Just show ur kids lots of love and respect, do not talk bad about their mom. If ur child asks u about certain things ur wife has said....u answer very softly....people say things bad about other people, when they r mad or upset or scared .....all i can do is show u the real me, by loving u and protecting u and being the best dad i can. Just give me time to prove myself to u. Give them all the time in the world , they will soon realize the truth..kids are smater think!!!

Answer 9

Funny how theirs two sides to every problem. She thinks your a pathological liar also. Your both morons but that isnt the point. I dont think shes "brainwashing your kids", you hate her guts and thats what you want to think. The tragedy is these poor kids have such losers as parents. Why do people bring children into a crappy marriage? thats my question to you

Answer 10

actions. just continue to consistently be a good father and you will prove her to be the liar without saying a word. and dont badmouth her back. it just makes you both look crazy.