(his family is telling him regardless of how he feels he is meant to be there for his kids. Is this right?!)
2007-03-01 09:30:37 · 11 answers · asked by mommysgirl78 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He can take care of his kids without being in the same house. In fact, living with their mother and being in love with some other woman is a more confusing message than if he didn't live there and only visited. What the hell are the kids supposed to think about family and marriage and relationships when mommy and daddy hardly ever talk and daddy is always leaving with some other woman right in front of mommy? That's some weird sh*t that will surely warp the kids' mind. Tell him to move out on his own and schedule regular visitations.
2007-03-01 09:38:20 · answer #1 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man can definitely have a life with his children and their mother and be in love with another woman. Before I say anything else a man can also pretend he loves you but really just want some fun and excitement on the side. Beware of that. If this man really loves you then he can't truly be in love with his wife. There is a big differnce in love and being in love. If he isn't in love with her then he is not being fair to anyone in the situation. The children can since when there is tension and unhappiness in the home.If he loves you he should leave his wife and be happy with you. Maybe then she too will find someone to love her the way she deserves. As far as the children go and they are the most important. He can still be an excellent father to them. All they need is his love and guidance. He won't be leaving them he will be leaving there mother. He'll still see them regularly and they will know he loves them and they will also have you to love them.In the long run their father making himself happy will teach the children not to settle for anything less than true happiness in there lives.
2007-03-01 17:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by starrynight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im actually in this situation myself...dating a man in a relationship with the mother of his kids, but he says he doesn't love her he is only there for the kids.
There is no yes or no to this question, I think it depends on the situation
2007-03-01 17:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by cmitchelle71@yahoo.com.au 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the main question here would be: Is this man married to the mother of his children?
I think that maybe he is emtionally checked out of the relationship. Perhaps the mother should attempt to rekindle the love they once had.
2007-03-01 17:38:26 · answer #4 · answered by Penny's from Heaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he can, but after awhile the man will get resentful of having to be where he doesn't want to be. lust is a feeling, love is a decision. personally i would not want to live with a man who loved someone else. chances are its just lust, and not love he is feeling for the other woman. and once the honeymoon stage ends, and it always does, he will be finished with her, unless he leave his family for her, and his wife ends the marriage.
2007-03-01 17:37:50 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i think he can still be with his children and not live in their house. and plus it might be better if he moved out to avoid stress. but it sounds like your the other woman, and so i don't totally trust your story.
2007-03-01 17:36:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is living exactly where he wants to, with the women he wants to...anythjng he says about it, is just meant to string someone along......period.
2007-03-01 17:50:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
certainly one can live with one person but yet love another--if children are involved don't expect him to dump them for u
2007-03-01 17:43:59 · answer #8 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is meant to be there for his kids not her..he needs to move on.
2007-03-01 17:36:24 · answer #9 · answered by mikentammy76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this could happen more often than you know.
2007-03-02 01:56:41 · answer #10 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋