I am 18 and so is my man. we have been together a month and I am already pregnant. we are talking about marriage and I still feel shakie. I know I want ti be with him, and im sure he wants to be with me to. Our idea is to go get married at the court house and then after we have the baby and get our life together have a wedding. What do you think?
2007-03-01 09:25:26 · 21 answers · asked by Shayna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My best friend married young exactly the way you described it, at the court house, with hopes of a bigger wedding after having a child. They seperated 2 years later. They are still legally married but have both moved on and have children with others. They have been wanting to get divorced for years, but it's expensive. Now, I'm not saying you two won't work out, but I would definently hold off on the wedding. Spend at least a couple of years together. Get to know the good and the bad of each other. And once you know all his bad habits, and he knows yours, ask your self, "Is this man, irritating quirks and all, someone I can spend the rest of my life with. This is why the divorce rate is so high. People fall in love, and rush into things. Take your time, get to know your partner. Just enjoy each others company for now.
2007-03-01 09:48:34 · answer #1 · answered by My_Amira_Will 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is the right one then he will still be right a year or two down the road. Just because you are pregnant does not mean you should rush into a marriage. You still need to take the time to learn more about each other. I was a little older than you, but I was 21 and got pregnant after dating someone for a month. I thank God everyday that I did not get married to him. He turned out not to be a good person. I am not saying this will happen in your situation, but I still think you should wait to get married. Plus most people who plan on getting married and then having a bigger wedding later, rarely ever actually do this. Don't miss out on the wedding you want, wait, and plan the wedding you really want. Good luck!
2007-03-01 17:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by ~*Live*~*Laugh*~*Love*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait. At 18 and after only being together for 1 month, I don't see how you can really know that he's the one. And since your shaky and unsure, that's a definite reason why you should wait. You don't need to get married to raise your baby. It's better to be a single mother then divorced at 19.
2007-03-01 17:31:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good god just wait!
You've already made one life altering decision don't jump the gun on the other. Doing it just because you're pregnant is irresponsible, think about what it means. If you two truly are meant to be, Marry each other when you get your life together and it'll mean more.
Next time, use protection! One month is too soon for sex, a baby and thinking of a commitment this binding. Best of luck!
2007-03-01 17:31:15 · answer #4 · answered by ProudArmyWife2005 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your having any doubts, than dont do it yet. Plus you want to make sure that he can provide for you and your baby before u decide to spend the rest of your life together. Alot of people think that when they have a baby it makes there relationship better, it doesnt. My sister is 17 and had a baby a few months ago and her and her man argue alot more now than they did before. You should think this through seriously, its a major decision in your life
2007-03-01 17:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by vbolden88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever... what difference will it make? It would have made a difference if you had dated for a while first before getting pregnant. Two inexperienced people wanting to be "together" after a month? Sounds like a recipe for trouble to me. Getting married at any particular time will not avert the trouble.
2007-03-01 17:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a decision only you guys can make.A month is a very short period of time to be w/ someone and be sure that you are going to want to be someone forever.Adding children to a relationship can sometimes also make things tough.I personally would hold off,before I made such a commitment,but you have to follow your heart and do what you think is going to work best for you and your new family!!
2007-03-01 17:32:06 · answer #7 · answered by molliehollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not 100% sure, don't do it. Each partner needs to realize what a big commitment marriage is. It takes a lot of work. A baby should not determine whether you walk down the aisle!
2007-03-05 15:21:02 · answer #8 · answered by BamaBelle810 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very noble of your boyfriend to take responsibility he is truly a young MAN i say go get married now so your child has a chance of a stable home environment. Later have some form of ceremony. It wont be easy being married so young but it's very important for your child.
2007-03-01 17:33:49 · answer #9 · answered by Bruce B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your young, slow down. Being pregnate doesnt have to mean marriage. Sorry, one month doesnt mean anything. Your heads are still in the clouds at one month. Your plan sounds like some young fairytale, life isnt like that. I know you think you have it all figured out, but you have no idea what your in for
2007-03-01 17:32:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋