Who's jealous, threatened, and challenged by you (especially since they know they aren't the center of your world, and know you know that they are not who they pretend to be, though they know they can "use their status" to be believed.) They talk bad about you causing others to stay away from you, having a way of making others believe whatever it is they say about you, even though of course you can't prove it-though it is very damaging to your character. Though I don't work around them, I do cross paths with them from time to time. How do you "turn the tables" on them so others can see it's them, and realize THEY ARE the vindictive manipulative one who should be seen as such and avoided. They are working professionals ( without integrity of-course) I included that because people believe if someone has a good education and public recognition, that they are automatically trustworthy and credible- and that just isn't so!
2007-03-01 09:21:58 · 7 answers · asked by Lady 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
the fact that this draws attention to you is a good opportunity to let other people see what kind of person are. don,t waste time trying to disprove the accusations about you but use it to make yourself look goood because you are in the the spotlight. take the lemon and make lemonade.
2007-03-01 09:48:11 · answer #1 · answered by george h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can change a person. You will have to remove then from your life and thoughts.
If you work with this person, Id be looking for another job, Or just completely ignore them. I wouldn't give them any of my thoughts.
Don't try to get back at them. The truth prevails, and will come out eventually. Most people like this are making their own bed and wind up lying in it, if you know what I mean.
2007-03-01 09:33:21 · answer #2 · answered by ladybugjan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do, except avoid them when you can and deal with whatever they throw at you as they throw it and hopefully your reputation and integrity will eventually glow bright in spite of all the assasination attempts. Just know that your conscience is clear and good people will know it too.
2007-03-01 09:32:20 · answer #3 · answered by beetlejuice49423 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. Take a breath and be yourself. Letting yourself get caught up in this is giving that person success.Take the higher ground and you will be noticed. Good Luck
2007-03-01 09:32:02 · answer #4 · answered by .G. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 01:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first thought was, " ... with a shovel?!" Seriously, I wouldn't stoop to his/her tactics. What goes around truly does come around. This person will get theirs, but don't let it be by your hand. You stay "clean" and you'll be happier for it in the long run. They will hang themselves and when they do, don't gloat just be glad you weren't anywhere near them when their "house of cards" collapsed.
2007-03-01 09:37:24 · answer #6 · answered by Dino 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what I have done and honestly it worked, I kill them with kindness. if i saw them i would smile and say hello and walk on, surprising this made that person look really bad in front of others and they left me alone after that. people will see them for what they really are.
2007-03-01 09:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by tammiekae2002 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋