I guess because I am a loving person, I seem to always make friends w/ women who use me. I really don't like having friends because of that reason. Seems like I bend over backwards for someone & they just use. I have a female friend that I've know for 9 yrs. When her sister & her were fighting and she was on the streets I was there for her. Now her sister is back in her life, I call she blows me off.
How do I go about telling her how I feel? I don't like hurting peoples feelings. My sister said that's the reason she stopped dealing w/ her too. Should I be straight forward and tell her I don't appreciate her being a "fair weather friend" someone who deals with you when there's nothing better to do? Ask her why she's acting like this? Or should I do like I have for the past few days & not speak w/ her. Her ex is coming out of prison tomorrow. I'm sure she'll be calling to complain about him. Should I blow her off like she does me?
2007-03-01 09:12:02 · 2 answers · asked by FrancoAmerican! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't think she does realize she does this. Her life is a constant drama. Maybe that's why she's that way? I do know that others have mentioned that same problem w/ her. Maybe noone has ever told her that she's not being a good friend. I thank the young lady for her comment, ThisBrit- LOL! You make me laugh! I'm a female by the way!
2007-03-01 10:06:56 · update #1
If someone doesn't have time for you, you have every right not to have time for them. Friendships are a two-way street.
If she calls up just to chat, feel free to do it. But if she calls to whine about something, just put a stop to it. Tell her that you're not able to give her problem the time and attention that she thinks it deserves, and that you wish her all the best with figuring it out, but that you're not going to dump your energy into her like that again.
Maybe she doesn't realize yet that she does that -- your words could be the wakeup call she needs, to stop being self-centered.
2007-03-01 09:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by Jarien 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound to me as if you are very good at picking people to be friends with. Friendship is a 2 way thing and BOTH are meant to get 'nourishment' from the interactions, whether they are concerts/books/chatting or whatever. If it is all onesided, you are sure to feel 'used'.
You have got to get more 'healthy' friends. Her ex is a con? Maybe she also has trouble picking friends. Get a grip, man.
2007-03-01 09:29:31 · answer #2 · answered by thisbrit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋