Friendship or Love......What would u do in my shoes!!!!.......?

Question

I have a girlfriend. We are both going thru divorces (prior to knowing each other) but she tends to put her friends ahead of our plans to be alone. Example: We agreed to go away alone for her birthday. It has now turned into a group road trip with HER friends. Every weekend that we spend together without our respective children, one day basically needs to be spent with us being with HER friends. Sometimes I think I am always "compromising" to be with her friends just to make her happy! She admits that her friend are ultra important to her and that is understandable. We live 45 minutes away from one another and I have made midweek trips to see her. However, the ONLY times she has offered to see me midweek was not about US, but also involved one of her friends and her job. Not just a simple "seeing me" visit. Am I stupid for believing she loves me or does it even sounds like she loves me as she states that she does? Or should I let her be so she can enjoy her life with her friends???

Answer 1

OK, here's my take on it: These are probably the friends she has had for a long time, and they are helping her through her divorce. She wants you to spend time with them so they can let her know what kind of guy they think you are. It may be that she has learned through her divorce that men come and go (no disrespect intended) but a good friend will be there for you always. Hopefully, once the friends are convinced you are OK, you'll get some alone time.

Answer 2

As harsh as it may seam, and as much as you don't want to do it, it's probably best if you leave her alone.
It sounds to me that she is more concerned about having friends, and may have placed you in a position to just be a friend of hers.

Let her be. She'll either decide that her friends aren't as important as a relationship with you, or she'll leave you alone as well, which gives you the oppertunity to find someone new.