ok, well 2 of my best friends ever just told me a couple days ago that they r bisexual. one a boy. and one a girl. the boy has been like my brother with me through thick and thin. the girl has helped me so much when i feel depressed and lonely. well the boy told me he also has a boyfriend. the girl told me she was kinda more into boys than girls but still liked them. i dont want to be rude to them and not talk 2 them cuz i dont know what to say so can anybody please help me? i really need the help because i want to support them in whatever they do but its hard when i dont know what to say. thank you guys who help me soo much. im sure you will be a big help.
2007-03-01 08:59:08 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
maybe i confused you guys. maybe you are thinking "she should accept them how they are." and i am doing so. but one of the people who told me thinks i hate him now because he told me. i have tried to tell him im not but he doesnt really listen. and now he wont talk to me.
2007-03-01 09:24:23 · update #1
There's no reason not to talk to them about it, but I wouldn't bring it up if I wasn't comfortable talking about it. They know you are straight and aren't hitting on you, I am sure, so there is no problem there. If they have a problem they want to talk to them about, you listen and think of ways to help, or you say "I am really sorry that I can't help you with this, I just have no idea what to do" and just let them talk - sometimes that is the most important thing. To listen and not judge.
Peace!
2007-03-01 09:05:37 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are still your friends then let them always be your friends. Nothing will change between the friendship as long as they don't form a crush on you. You need to talk to your friends about if they might or do like you more than a friend. You also need to tell them that it will take getting use to it for you. So if you ever freak when you say something about bisexuals or gays they don't like then if you just tell them that you still need time to get use to it because you weren't expecting it to happen so suddenly. Just don't let everyone know not even if your playing truth or dare. Just DON'T!! Okay that will make them both offended and insecure about their feelings.
hope i helped.
2007-03-01 09:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Jess ♥ I dream, I wish, I love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and say that you really do like them and want to support them, but this was a REALLY big surprise and you are not sure what you are feeling. My question is why this is so uncomfortable to you.... Are you worried that they will become a couple and not have time for you? Are you maybe uncomfortable because you think one of them might like you, and you don't like them back? Doy you like one of them, and are worried now that you can't have them? Or are ayou worried that you might be bisexual yourself, and this is what is making you nervous?
If they value your friendship, then they will want you to be honest with each other. Friendship means being patient with each other.....if you can't work though all of this, then it was never really a friendship.
2007-03-01 09:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to support them as friends then do so.
Why would you react at all? What does their sexuality have anything to do with you? They probably just told you because you are a friend.
So be one.
You don't have to approve of gay or bi lifestyle to still be a good friend.
Have they asked your approval? Have they asked for your opinion on the morality of it?
Then you need to ask yourself if you can overlook or deal with their sexuality and remain a True friend.
Here is a hint...a True friend would know the answer immediately.
2007-03-01 09:12:11 · answer #4 · answered by Papa Mac DaddyJoe 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't say anything, act like they never told you anything. I think you need to deal with whatever is bothering you about them telling you this.
Do you like either one of your friends? If not, no big deal. Be happy you have them in your life. All friendships change over time.
2007-03-01 09:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know the guy friend and his boyfriend or have you met them ever?
If you have ever considered being more than just friends with him and like his boyfriend maybe there could be something more here?
Either way, if their just your friends than just be there for them probably since they are the same people before they opened up about themselves?
2007-03-01 09:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont react. They obviously trust and love you alot too because they shared their secret with you. What really has changed? This is a big step in their lives. Be there for them like they have been there for you!!
2007-03-01 09:06:04 · answer #7 · answered by D.Allman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend (female) who recently told me that she is bi-sexual. At first, it shocked me, but I gradually accepted it, because I didn't want to lose HER friendship with me. By remaining quiet on this subject with her, it is showing her that I love her, and want to be her friend. It is up to her, on who she sleeps with....and that is her business. I'm sure that on the final judgement day, she will have to explain a few things, as will all gays and bi-sexuals.
2007-03-01 09:31:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you still are friends with them, through thick and thin. Let them know that you accept them and see nothing wrong with them. Just be there for them.
2007-03-01 09:34:30 · answer #9 · answered by Busta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody really needs to make a big deal out of it. Just go on being their friend like usual.
2007-03-01 09:07:40 · answer #10 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋