I have 2 Teenage friends that are having babies......and they are only 15 years old.....and I feel like they don't care about life. and will open there legs for any guy who tells them he loves them. now they don't know what to do......they help. I need some opinions on what 2 do with this situation. and both want 2 abort. and I'am the only 1 STOPING them from doing it.
2007-03-01 08:55:48 · 17 answers · asked by SeaBiscut08 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Tell them how adoption is the best thing they can do right now. That having their babies will make someone really happy and they will not have to live with the guilt that they killed an innocent life. Boost up their self esteem.. that is why they did the things that got them in this situation in the 1st place. Point out all the good in them having these babies.. encourage them to talk about how they are going to put them up for adoption.. it can make them feel proud of themselves. My biological mother was 16 and she was NO angel.. she did drugs, drank, was a runaway and was passed around to many men..and when she found out she was pregnant she straightened up long enough to have me and put me up for adoption and afterwards she even joined the Army.. lol. But to this day she says that I was her proudest moment in life.
2007-03-01 09:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Look you shouldnt be stopping them from doing anything. It is their choice about what they are going to do.
They need to tell their parents so they have some supoourt and help in making the right decision for them. You sound a bit nasty for a friend " they dont care about life and will open their legs for any guy who tells them he loves them" have you ever thought that this behaviour is brought about by a lack of love and caring or maybe abuse or some other type of problem in their life. These girls obviously have issues that need to be dealt with and trying to force them to keep children they are not prepared for is cruel. The issues they have need to be worked out and they need help in deciding what they are going to do with their lives and their babies.
If they choose to abort then it is not your place to stop them. If as you say " they dont care about life" then what kind of life would their babies have? And adoption isn't a great option for everyone. As growing a baby inside your body for 9 months is hard both physically and mentally, plus the trauma of birth. Then having to hand over your baby to someone else. Some women just cant do that. I know as my Mum was going to adopt my little brother, but I wanted to see him and we went and saw him and he had been crying since he was born and wouldnt settle or eat, so my Mum had to feed him and she couldnt adopt him as he just wanted his Mum.
plus I've known young girls that have had babies, and they do well for a while and as the babies gets a bit older, they go out and party and do drugs and drink and bring bad people into their lives. Which is not good for their children and is endangering them. That really isnt the best life for a child.
If you are really their friend then you will sit down and talk to them without judgement (you sound very judgemental) and talk to them about how THEY feel and all the options they have, pro's and con's. And remember each decision has great mental and physical tolls, whether its abortion, adoption or keeping the baby.
Get them to speak to their parents, a school councelor or someone else (adult) that they trust. This is a really hard time for them right now and as a friend you should be there to suppourt them and love them NOT judge them.
2007-03-01 09:47:58 · answer #2 · answered by Monkey Magic 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please get them to tell their parents or another responsible adult. That is a lot to deal with at such a young age. Abortion is not the answer. There are so MANY people out there that want to have a baby and can't. Your friends should be so glad to have such a wonderful friend as you seem to be. Encourage them to think of there baby and stay healthy.
Oh and by the way, those pictures on that horrible website were very disturbing. Anyone that could do that to a child is sickening.
2007-03-01 09:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yea they will abort and then watch , a year from now both will be pregnant again.
More then half of teens who get pregnant and abort end up pregnant again before they are 18.
Your friends wanted to be so grown up and have sex and on top of it be stupid and not use protection so it is there own fault they are pregnant and need to take responsibility for it.
I can tell you right now if they abort and it gets out at your school they are going to have a lot of hate coming there way, I had a girl at my HS get an abortion and she dropped out a few months later because people were beating her up and calling her a murderer and saying stuff like she should go shoot herself because she did not deserve to live. People are very hateful when it comes to someone killing a innocent child
2007-03-01 09:34:51 · answer #4 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I feel that it is very sad. Some kids (girls) have sex because they lack the loving father role at home so they try to get it elsewhere. I don't think they should abort because I am against it but I do they they could look into adoption. Give it to people that cannot have kids and can raise it well. Sounds like you are a good friend but we cannot change them all. GOOD LUCK
2007-03-01 09:03:52 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Nikkee D ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally would never abort but I also would never raise a child outside of marriage. AND 15 is WAYYYYYY to young to do either. These young ladies do not value themselves. It is probably best that they do not have these babies. AND if they are going to continue to engage in this behavior they need birth control.
2007-03-01 09:07:20 · answer #6 · answered by professorc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is your place to "stop" them from having abortions. Clearly these girls should not be having babies at age 15. They need to handle their situations with their parents and make better decisions when it comes to relating with boys and sex. Bringing children into the world now, when they can't even make the right decisions with regard to having safe sex, is not a viable option. Frankly, I don't see where you come into this equation at all.
2007-03-01 09:10:56 · answer #7 · answered by artemisaodc1 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Try to remember you can only help and assist situations in YOUR control. These situations are NOT in your control. All you can do is be there for them when they finally realize what they have and will do.
2007-03-01 09:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by snowman68 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say that they should not abort. True they are kids but if they had sex show them it comes with responsibilities. it's their own fault they are pregnant. If they are aloud to abort they will only do it over and over again.
2007-03-01 09:02:40 · answer #9 · answered by Gypsy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your a good friend for not letting them have abortions. Maybe, they could give them up for adoptions if they can't handle the babies.
2007-03-01 09:05:07 · answer #10 · answered by baby girl#1 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋