If you had a daughter...?

Question

This sounds so dumb but just thinking of a way to tell her. So if your daughter wrote a "runaway" or "suicide" letter and wrote at the bottom she was pregnant and than came back a few hours later would you be angry she was pregnent. This is my only idea so far?

i am 15

Ok so guess this is a dumb idea

Answer 1

DONT WRITE A SUICIDE LETTER!

Write a letter something like, well:
Mom I am on drugs, I had to tell you some time...I am smoking weed,pot, marijuana, and Im failing school...Dont worry mom, none of that was true, I am pregnant....That is true, I just wanted to remind you that there are worst things than teen pregnancy. I am over at (insert friends name here), call me when its safe to come home!

Answer 2

Firstly if I found a suicide or runaway note from my daughter, my first reaction would be great fear and anxiety and I"d call the police to find her.
Once she was found then I would be relieved that she was alright and unharmed. Once I got past that. I would be angry that she felt the need to write a note and runaway without actually coming to me and talking first. Hopefully when my girls are older they will know that they can speak to me openly and honestly without fear of anger or judgment or reprisal.
Then I would hug her and sit down and have a good talk with her about what happened, who with, what she feels, what are thoughts about the baby. And just let her know that I love her and am always there to suppourt her no matter what.

If you are pregnant and thinking of doing this then dont. Your Mum will be scared out of her mind finding a suicide note or evena note about running away. ALl we care about is our childrens safety. And it would be so horrible to put her through all those emotions rather than just talking to her.
I think she may respect you more if you act responsibly and just sit down and say look Mum, I'm pregnant, I'm scared and dont know how I feel or what to do. If you arent able to do that, then write a note about whats going on and how you feel. Hand it to her and then go sit in your room and wait for her to come and talk to you. She will have so many feelings and it may take her a while to come to terms with them all. So you may hear her scream or cry or just be silent. Then she will come and talk to you. But be prepared to tell her everything.

Good Luck and please dont scare your Mum or give her a heart attack by writing a suicide note or running away.

Answer 3

No I wouldn't be angry if my daughter was pregnant, [she is 25 after all] but if she were a minor I would not be angry i would try to understand that she made a bad judgment call and support her in what ever she chose to do, although I do not agree with abortion I would support her decision to do so. If she decided to keep it then I would support her decision as well, but she would have to support it.

As for suicide and or runaway I would have a sit down with her and talk to her to try and find out what was wrong and why she felt that way, then I would get her the appropriate help....see I love my kids and there isn't a problem too big or anything they could do to make me stop loving them! I will always be there for them even if I don't agree with their lives or lifestyles.

Answer 4

Amy, I have been answering your questions over the last couple of days, and I am glad that you have though of a way to tell your parents, because they need to know.
But don't do it like a runaway thing, and definately not a suicide thing...just write a letter like this

Mom and dad,
I have done something I know you aren't going to like. I am writing this letter so that you have a chance to react to this news before I see you, because I know this is going to disappoint you.

I am sorry I have got into this situation, and I am coming to you both for help and understanding, not for lectures, because I know what I have done is wrong, but I am willing to accept whatever punishment you feel necessary. My problem is that I am pregnant and my baby's father does not want to know. I feel alone and sad about this, but I want to prove to you how I can cope. I wish to keep my baby but I need some help.

I'll see you in about half an hour to talk about this.

Please, I know I have disappointed you, but don't be angry with me...I need you to understand that I am lost, and really need to know you are here for me right now...please.

Love from Amy.

You can use this letter if you wish, or you can tweak it and make it your own...but please don't threaten anything like suicide or running away.

You can just wait in another room while she reads your letter.

Answer 5

i have a daughter she is pregnant but she is 20 im over the moon

if she was 15 id be a little upset that she didnt wait to have sex as i think 15 is young and feel your still a child at 15 though most girls mature more

hun being pregnant isn't the end of the world,there is no way suicide should enter your head,you have your whole life a head of you, yes it will include a baby ,the baby should be the most important thing that matters now, not how your mum feels, even though she will be upset, may shout at you call you all sorts, but your her baby having a baby and she should love and support you no matter what


good luck

Answer 6

Being a mom of a daughter I think I would be more hurt that she didn't come talk to me about what was going on in her life. I would also be more angry about the suicide/runaway note than anything, there is nothing worth that, a mom loves her daughter too much to let anything happen to her.

Answer 7

I wouldn't be angry that she was pregnant ever. However, I do think it is a stupid thing to do to write a note like that coz all you will do is cause your parents major worry. I think it would be best if you were just straight with them and tell them you're pregnant. Sit your mum down on her own and tell her straight. Let your mum deal with your dad. Trust me, its better if you're just honest. Also, it will show your mum that you are adult enough to deal with a baby (I know that sounds odd but thats the way mums minds work!) Good Luck.

Answer 8

You did an adult act now you are pregnant don't do something so childish and a runaway or suicide letter thats just wrong if you want your mother to treat you with respect you need to respect her sit down and talk to her like a grown lady that's what you want isn't it. Try it you may find that maturity will get you further.

Answer 9

I have a daughter and thankfully have never had a days worry over her she is 27 in July, I think it would be very wrong to write a suicide note, if you are too scared to tell, which you shouldn't be, then leave a note saying your pregnant I wouldn't be happy if that was done only as someone else answered you can't changed whats happened so deal with it.

Answer 10

i was 15 whaen i got pregnant and i thought my mom and dad would be so angry,, but when they got over the enitial shock they were really supportive... dont run away just tell them they may be angry at first but if u are pregnant what can they do its already happened and u need all the help u can get i know i wouldnt of coped without there support good luck hun hope all goes well xxx
ps... im 29 know if u need any more advice pm me my user name is michelleredblue

Answer 11

Amy, the pregnancy is going to hit her hard enough. Do not add a runaway or suicide note to the situation, as it will only make things worse. I agree with writing her a letter to tell her about this, and leaving it for her to read when you are not around, but you will need to return to the house and face this together with your Mom. Good luck, and God Bless.