Why are people so Mean?

Question

I mean this honestly, why are people so mean? I have a lot of friends and stuff, but all thse guys in my class are being so mean! They call me fat and chub chubs, and crater face. I'm NOT fat! (if you think I am then say :-) ) I weigh 115 pounds, and am 5-4! I dont think I'm ugly either, I have big blue eyes and a ski slope nose with pink lips. So why are people so mean? I understand about people being mean and stuff, but kicking me, and calling me fat is mean! What should I do? Or could you tell me why people are so mean?

everybody BTW my friends arnt doing this 2 me (my friends r amazing) the peopel in my class are!

1 last detail! i have good skin. thank gosh or they wud prob. call me the red elephant or something :-)

Answer 1

115 pounds & 5'4" is NOT fat - it is slim. Still, whether you were attractive or not, please try to remember that when people say & do such mean things to you, it is because it's easy for them to do so & because they think so poorly of themselves that they have to make someone else feel bad so that they "look good" by comparison. It really is pathetic. As for me saying it's easy for them to be mean to you, what I mean is that you might be a nice person who does your own thing & wouldn't hurt someone the way these people are hurting you. When an insecure bully finds someone who is nice, then it is like easy prey on them. They know they can be mean to that person because the person is likely to put up with it. It's kind of like when a lion goes hunting, it picks the baby or the old animal from the herd because it is easier to chase down.

What you need first, is to not believe the lies that these mean people are saying. They are full of it. Second, realize that by their behavior, they are advertising to you & everyone who witnesses their behavior, that they have low self-esteem. That is so pathetic. It's one thing to feel poorly about themselves. It's quite another to tell everyone around them that they feel poorly of themselves by being mean & hateful to someone else & laughing & gloating over their pain, just to make themselves feel better & avoid the pain that they themselves feel inside.

The next thing you need to do is to take away their fun. Don't react to them if possible. If you can't ignore them, then don't let them see you upset or hurt. Hold your head up high, look at them like you wonder where their brains went (you know the look, it's that "what are you talking about, Fool?" look). Then say something like, "your pathetic attempts to hurt me are really getting tiring. All you are succeeding in doing is looking like an immature, insecure person. Have you NOTHING more clever to do than that?" Then give them a bored look (roll the eyes) & walk away. It might work - it might not. Still, the way to put an end to this without involving the help of teachers or school staff is to deny them the chance to enjoy what they are doing. There is nothing more aggravating to a bully than to be put in one's place & to be denied the fun of victimizing someone else.

For the record, I was teased mercilessly when I was in school. I was very thin & was called "toothpick legs" & "chicken legs", & I too had the occasional acne (not much, but enough to be self-conscious). I did not dress stylishly because I was too self-conscious & shy to draw positive attention to myself. I was teased & bullied also. I finally started ignoring these people because I lacked the courage to "tell them off", but still, they stopped the teasing. Now, I am 45 & still 5'4" & slim. I have been told that I not only look good for my age, but that I look younger than my age & that I am very attractive. Some of the guys who teased me are now fat & bald (nothing wrong with that, but they teased me about my looks) & the girls who teased me are struggling with weight issues. It's all about what goes around, comes around. The object of their teasing grew up to be the swan, & the tormentors became the ugly ducklings. Hang in there. Don't believe that you are unattractive just because some idiots are telling you that you are. Remember that they are lying to you & to themselves, because it is really them that has the problem, & they are just trying to make you feel bad so that they will feel better. It's good that you recognize your attractive qualities. Remember that - don't listen to these bullies. Hang in there. Blessings to you!

Answer 2

Why Are People So Mean

Answer 3

You're not fat-you're thin! I moved in high school and all of a sudden was treated like I had leprosy at the new school. It was the worst 3 years of my life. I was ignored for the first year at my new high school, which was better than being spit on or beaten like other kids were who had lived there all their lives...I could see no reason some kids were picked on, and why some kids were popular, and why some kids were ignored. It was the twilight zone as far as I was concerned. I went from being a normal, self-confident, smart, good-looking person to being totally insecure and feeling ugly (I still got great grades so I wasn't stupid). After the first year I had a couple of friends-but I still hung out in the music room at lunch since I didn't have anyone to sit with in the lunch room. I also got away every summer working at camps so I could be around normal people and could be treated like the smart, good-looking, nice person I was. It's not you, it's them. There is no logical reason for people being mean to you, I think it's pretty random and the kids are psycho half the time. You have to decide if it would be worth it to tell your parents, or a teacher, or the guidance counselor. In my case, my family was being attacked by the community as well, so no one cared what happened to us. I moved away the day after I graduated from high school and never went back. My brothers and I once in a while mention how much we still despise these sick twisted people.

Good luck!

I just read what someone above me said..I'd be careful about ignoring the teasing..sometimes it works, but other times it can cause the teasing to escalate since they don't want to stop until they see a reaction from you...

Answer 4

I easily have chanced on maximum British human beings to be extremely well mannered and fairly exciting. i'm an American, the son of a Scotsman, and if there became into ever a human beings to dislike the Brits, it is going to the two be a Scot or an Irishman. becoming up, I spent a minimum of sooner or later a week enjoying soccer with foreigners, because it became into no longer a nicely widespread recreation returned then. the alterations in our cultures clarify loads of ways we p.c. out them as such, yet once you get to be responsive to the human beings, you will discover they are rather a exciting loving bunch and make as plenty exciting of themselves because of the fact the do others. this is totally practically a British comical cultural ingredient. They make exciting of each and every others' popular communities, plenty as we do, yet their form of humor comes in the time of somewhat "off" by utilising our standards. So, in simple terms attempt to realize our cultural alterations are what makes us see them because of the fact the "severe and powerful, self-righteous assholes", (that and the indisputable fact that we beat them for our independence and various are nonetheless bitter approximately that.)

Answer 5

That has to do with their insecurities. In this society we are bombarded with ads, TV, etc in which everyone is perfect. Real people and life isn't, and when you compare yourself with the unreal image on TV you feel inadequate, not good enough. Some people grow and understand what is fantasy and what is reality but other don't. And instead of trying to work on their own growth and take it on others. Feel bad for them, not for you.

Answer 6

Based on the info you gave you are not fat. The reasons for meanness are many and varied. I am often very mean and also often nice. I hate my enemies (those that are a threat to whom and what I love) and I love deserving family and friends and allies.


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Answer 7

Some are just not worth it. So,the best way is too just ignore becuz sooner or later,they won't bother u dat much....

Answer 8

Mean people are insecure. They have to put down other people who they view as inferior to make themselves feel good. it's sad, really. It's not worth it to be one of these people.

Answer 9

It's a mean world out there, any body that says any different is lying or selling something, grow up and get some thicker skin.

Answer 10

This definantly smells like law enforcement trying to set someone up.
But if it's not, If the people you are calling friends are doing this to you, they are NOT your friends.