I have this friend who I really don't want to hang out with, but it's really hard. I kind of live in the same apartment with her and I find myself sneaking around just so she won't attach herself to me. She's like a leech and I don't know how to get rid of her. She's really boring and she has no other friends. I don't want to hang out with her and I don't want to move.
What should I do?
2007-03-01 08:33:39 · 21 answers · asked by Blah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If she is your friend - you have to be honest with her. Just talk about it.
2007-03-09 03:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by troys wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You used the wrong word. She maybe a friend to you but, you are not a friend here. I think you are very mean, why not help her to be part of the crew and tell her where she is going wrong so she has other people to hang out with. No one wants to be alone. I am sure she senses that you are avoiding her but it is sad that she would rather be miss treated then be alone. It's a shame way you are behaving to someone who is only looking to be a part of something.
2007-03-08 04:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try being honest with her. Ask her why she is like this. If she cannot make an effort to change how she acts then tell her she needs to move. And at the same time did you ever think she has complaints about you. Mabey you are just too bold for her and she doesn't know how to act with a friend like that.
2007-03-09 00:46:29 · answer #3 · answered by laceywat1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL it sucks to u, i mean, ive been in that possition many many time, it just means your a good person, but if u want to get rid of the farker, try this.
Slowly drift away as in try not to become close u know hang out with other people, try to make her not like you as much as she does now. Find her a boy freind/Girl friend cause leeching her on sumone eles is probley the best way with out herting anyones feelings.
If worest come to worest DITCH HER...HIT HER, or KILL HER lol (not reccomended..acutally bad idea dont kill her)
2007-03-06 20:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not friends, you are roommates. There is a difference. You should learn to be honest and tell her straight up that although you would like to remain roommates, a friendship is not what your after. And not gonna happen.
If you were her friend you wouldn't say the things you said in your question.
I have a question for you, how do you "kind of" live in the same apartment?, either you do or you don't.
2007-03-01 08:43:15 · answer #5 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well,,First of all you said YOU have this friend so, she must have been YOUR friend at one time or the other. (or you just played like she was because you needed a place to live and a roommate.) That is why YOU don't move because it was probably her place first or you can't afford a place by yourself. Yea...I think you should be honest this time and tell her just what you said to us.Or just keep living in a lie and put up with it or YOU might be living by YOURSELF. She probably wouldn't want YOU to be HER roomate knowing that feel that why about her. I know I wouldn't. No one likes to be used.
2007-03-08 20:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her first and foremost. You pretending to be her friend will only hurt her more when the truth comes out. Just tell her how you truly feel about her. Just remember you are not obligated to be her friend, if you have nothing in common and/or can not tolerate her. Just confront her and tell her where she stands. Then if she is adult enough she will understand and appreciate your honesty, if not oh well, you tried. Good luck
2007-03-09 05:33:02 · answer #7 · answered by Reese G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be honest with her and tell her the truth. No more hiding and lieing. Tell her that you don't want to hurt her feelings, but that you don't think you really have a lot in common. Evidently, she thinks you are her friend and that is why she is hard to get rid of.
2007-03-07 13:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by teacher sub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off .... if you really feel that way about her then she is not your friend . 2nd .. if she has no other friends then why be mean to her and do the things you are doing . 3rd .. if you don't want her around you just tell her the truth ... stop hiding from her . things will only get worst . best of luck
2007-03-06 19:35:35 · answer #9 · answered by patti_buffkin2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in basic terms say "we could take a wreck" the comparable kinda component got here approximately to be. clarify to her what your prolem along with her is, and set far between you 2 for like a month. It helped me, and my buddy realised how she became performing and altered. in basic terms positioned some area between you 2 for a whilst, and loaf around with different acquaintances and kin that make you chuffed, then social gathering for a loaf around or sleepover or something and communicate approximately it. See if shes fairly replaced, if not, you gotta enable her bypass.
2016-10-17 01:10:25 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her how you feel.I know it be heard to but ask her if she wants to hang out with you and your Friends.Show her what fun is then if she don't like it then maybe she would understand why.
2007-03-01 08:48:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋