My stepdaughter wants to go to the movies for the first time by herself with her friends and a friends boyfriend. She's a good kid but pretty guliable and book smart but doesn't really have a clue when it comes to street smarts. Should she be allowed to go?
2007-03-01 08:30:11 · 50 answers · asked by Samantha L 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
12 yrs old.... its really chanceable.. but you should really go over the streets smarts as to what they should or shouldnt do.... but they have to learn sometime.. and as long as they are in a group she should be ok....you might wanna show up early just to see how they react w/o seeing you .... ya know like kinda spy on em when they are outside!!
2007-03-01 08:34:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
12 years old is a good age to let her start doing things unsupervised with her friends. I wasn't allowed to do this until I was much older, but I did it anyway and didn't tell my parents. So you'd might as well just let her go, she can get the feel of being unsupervised a little bit. It's like a butterfly. You hold the butterfly tight in your palm and you're actually crushing it's wings. And when you eventually let go, the butterfly will fly away as fast as it can never wanting to come back. But if you hold your palm open, the butterfly will leave when its ready, undamaged and come back because it enjoyed its stay with you. Hope that made a little bit of sense.
2007-03-01 10:29:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A movie is generally a good place for your stepdaughter to socialize with peers without direct adult supervision (you know exactly where she will be for 3 hours and poor behavior will be quickly put down by employees and other movie-goers).
That said, it would be wise to have a talk beforehand explaining to your stepdaughter that this is her chance to prove she is mature enough to engage in such activities. Let her know that poor behavior during this "trial" will force you to keep her under adult supervision until she demonstrates the proper maturity.
2007-03-01 08:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by Irish Eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just the right age. I'm 13 and started going to the movies with a group of friend, with cell phones, at age 11
2007-03-01 10:01:33 · answer #4 · answered by Dancin' HOTTIE!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, this is one big thing that parents dont get. Ok, if your child is a good kid, smart, good grades, gulible, well im 13 and when i waz 12 I was aloud to go with my friends all i wanted. it was really fun and the only way your daughter will ever get street smart is to go out and watch the movie and see alll of the people and observe them.
2007-03-01 08:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by ohh babyyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's fine. Maybe you can sit in the back or if the theater is at the mall, hang out in the mall while the movie is playing. I'd let my kid go at that age, but I wouldn't leave the area where the movie was playing (ie I'd see another movie, shop in the stores around the theater, etc)
2007-03-01 08:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by happymommy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes she can go by herself, as long as you and her feel comfortable in the area the theatre is in. In my town kids go to the movies at a pretty young age it seems. Mabye you can let her borrow your cellphone( if she doesnt have her own) and make sure she has a ticket and she know where you or her friends parent is picking them up...im sure she will be fine! Good luck!
2007-03-01 08:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by katie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course i live in brooklyn NY and i was going to the movies since i was 11 just tell them to travel together, don't let anyone see there money, and if someone is trying to talk to them for any reason just tell her to walk away. Don't worry about her being raped if she has at least 2 friends and don't worry plus if u live in the suburbs don't worry just drive her to the front of movie theater if u are and don't go in with her total embarssment
2007-03-02 08:33:29 · answer #8 · answered by Daniel .S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no actually ur the gullible one if u think she's so innocent she's not bad but she's at the age where she wants to experience grown up things i'm 15 and if my mom let me go to the movies with a friend and her boyfriend chances were that her boyfriend had a friend for me. and i started making out and having sexual experiences when i was 11 not because i was bad but because i wanted to see how it felt i was book smart and gullible to. be smart mom. good luck
2007-03-01 09:55:48 · answer #9 · answered by headbanger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was 12 me and my sister and our other friends (all girls) used to go to the movies every week by ourselves. We would walk down to the theater and then walk home. I guess it depends on the child. If you think she is mature enough then I would say she should be able to go. If you are worried about the other kids taking advantage make sure you only give her enough money for a ticket and popcorn then they can't ask her for money. I hope this helps
2007-03-01 08:37:45 · answer #10 · answered by mamaof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋