husband works shifts, i work the opposite shifts got a little girl and we are always 'too tired'!!!!!
2007-03-01 08:25:57 · 15 answers · asked by leslie anne c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
go away for a romantic weekend...you might have to plan ahead and work out the schedules, but you need time for your marriage too.
2007-03-01 08:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by mlock123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both need to start putting yourselves first from time to time. I realize you both work different shifts and have a child but there's no reason you can't find time for each other sounds like your letting other things take priority which a lot of working couples do now days. You should make a date night a couple times a month. Have your work schedules fixed to where you have the same days off, get a sitter and go have a night to yourselves.
2007-03-01 08:33:24 · answer #2 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you have to ask yourself what is more important the job or the marriage the two of you seem to have forgotten why you got married in the first place and your poor child how must she be feeling sad i bet mummy and daddy always tired you need to make time for the family what is the point donig all these shift if the two fo you can`t enjoy it cut down some of those hours and buy some sexey nightie and bring back the good old days
2007-03-01 10:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by tubby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A job is not more valuable then your marriage and your life. I had a problem with this, I was working 70 hours a week and she was working full time. I realized how quickly our marriage was going down hill. We almost divorced several times over small things. I decided to start looking for a new job and found one even better. And I work a much easier schedule. My health improved as well.
2007-03-01 09:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by mac_attack_51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your job to suit each others needs. Its the only way otherwise you will always be passing ships. Your daughter will love to have a proper family life where she has a mum and a dad that work and play at the same time. It may mean a pay cut but your family life it worth the sacrifice. I know - been there.
2007-03-01 08:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by JJ88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the real world. My wife works some off shifts. Her sleep is real messed up. I go to bed early a bit and get up early am. Say sweet things to each other and if posible when out doing things stop by and see the one at work. Let each other know that when one comes in from work that they can wake the other up somehow very nicely. If the wife is working it is easy for me to stop and hang out for a few minutes on the way to or from work depending on what shift she is on that day. If she is in town and wants to swing by she calls to see ifin I'm not busy and can meet her at the gate. From time to time let your daughter spend a night at grandma/pas or a cousin of hers. Meet and go out for a bite after who ever is working the evening shift. Just understand to make time for each other when you can that the gras cutting and dish washing can wait a few days if need be.
2007-03-01 08:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even working different shifts, there has to be one or two nights a week when you're off work at the same time. Make one of them family night so your little girl gets quality time with BOTH of her parents, and make one of them "Date night" for the two of you - and stick to it! If nothing else, use some vacation time to make it happen!
2007-03-01 08:31:02 · answer #7 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely need time to reconnect. As unromantic as it sounds, you may need to schedule dates with your hubby. My husband and I have a "date" every Friday night. The kids are gone or up in their bedrooms and know we're not to be disturbed unless it's an emergency. Sometimes we go out and sometimes we just rent a movie and watch it at home. Whatever we do, it's just the two of us focusing on each other.
2007-03-01 08:32:31 · answer #8 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious one of you has to change jobs or suffer as you are doing but surely the both of you can't be too tired to try'n rekindle the flame of passion.
2007-03-01 12:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by richiesown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet up as a surprise, not only is it bringing back the spontaneity but it'll entice a "quicky"....say over lunch? Be creative...if you want it bad enough, anything is possible!
2007-03-01 08:36:08 · answer #10 · answered by ProudArmyWife2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋