Pregnant and want to be intimate with husband, but there are problems....?

Question

For starters the actual intercourse hurts me. Another problem we have when we do try to do sexual things is that my husband totally forgets about me, he is so into himself. For example, he can turn me on really good, then as soon as I start to touch him he completely stops what he is doing with me or doesnt pay attention to what he is doing to me (does that make sense)? He usually gets an orgasm and then just stops completely with me. He always says I thought you wanted to stop because you kept moving my hand (well the reason why is because he wasnt even touching me in the right spot) What do I do? I am wanting to be intimate with him, but it never works out right when we do anything. Please help

Answer 1

Talk to him! Tell him you need more than he is doing. Tell him exactly what you need him to do, and how you need it done. He needs to be more sensitive to your needs, and not worry so much about his own. Communication is the key. If he won't listen, or is not willing to do it, the best advice I can give you is to take matters into your own hands, and solve the problem. Less than ideal I know, but the way things are, those are about the only options you have. Congrats on your pregnancy by the way.

Answer 2

That can be a problem especially for couples that are young and/or inexperienced. Learning what each other's likes and dislikes are is a matter of taking time and communicating. Impatience can be a big factor here. Instead of waiting until it's time to jump into bed, have you tried talking to him about what you can do to make your time with him more enjoyable? When you start the conversation by asking him what you can do to please him more you open up a communication that you can use to tell him what would make you happy. Let him know what you want or enjoy and where you like to be touched(remember - moving his hand doesn't let him know where to put it he can't read your mind). Oral sex can be a big advantage in dealing with intimacy problems during pregnancy.

Answer 3

hun, the problem is a lack of honesty...this is your husband you need to be able to talk to him and let him know how you feel first emotionally. for some reason not all men were born with the ability to understand the kind of people females are...we need special attention especially during pregnancy. Explain to him how it feels when you guys make love (meaning the pain you feel ) tell him what you would like to do and ask him in advance to touch you. for him it's a new experience too and he's probably scared to death he might hurt the baby...let him know its safe to and he will not hurt the baby and they baby won't be scared when it sees him coming either? just be candid in a conversation without being accusatory..

good luck and have a safe pregnancy and child birth

Answer 4

I typically bring my wife to orgasm before my pecker gets wet. I feel lousy if I leave her behind, and if I start getting mine too early sometimes I am not the gentleman I'd like to be.

Ask your man to satisfy you with his mouth, fingers, and any toys you use, before he gets a lot of attention. Women typically stay aroused even after climaxing, whereas he will find it hard to continue in earnest once he's done.

You may want to try a 69 position with you both lying on your sides, with one leg straight and the other draped over your partner's back.

For penetration you could place a pillow at the side of the bed for your abdomen to rest on while you stand next to the bed. You can adjust your hips to meet his by changing how far apart your feet are.

Answer 5

COMMUNICATION

I have done everything to and for my wife when she ASK! If you want us to read your minds you will never be satisfied.

TELL HIM, my guess is he loves you and will do anything sexually for you!

I loved sex when my wife was pregnant! Later in the pregnancy deep penetration did become uncomfortable so she would be on top and control the speed and depth etc...

Real late in pregnancy the Dr. told us that sex can start the labor! So with our third she wanted it all the time the last week (but just to get our son out not because she was in the mood)

Answer 6

When you are not doing the intimate thing you ned to talk to each other and tell each other what you want. Then when you are doing something you need to ask each other to do these things. A little talking will take the two of you a long way.

Answer 7

Just tell him things are difficult with the pregnancy, and ask him to get you off first, then get him off.

If intercourse hurts, do other things. Since he'll have allready gotten you off, you can really work on making the 'other things' good for him, in terms of positions, lighting, what you're wearing, whatever.

Answer 8

the first step would be to tell him - somewhere other than the bedroom - things that would feel better. Not what he is doing wrong, but the slight corrections that would feel better for you.

As for his selfish nature, you need to tell him that it feels that way sometimes and that kind of takes away from the moment.

Most of all, you have to acknowledge that what you think are blatent hints towards what you want / need aren't being ignored, they are just not being communicated.

Hey, you were the one who decided to fall in love with someone who couldn't read minds, now you have to deal with it and try talking about it. :-D (said with a smile)

Answer 9

I had to teach my husband too. Give him what I call "Sex and Pregnancy 101". Tell him that you want him to do what you want him to, nothing else, of course he will be turned on. Men like when a woman is aggressive and tells them what they want. Play with him. Make it sexy. Grab his hand and say " I like it when you touch me here, or when you touch me like this." Tell him what to do. He won't know he's crappy unless you tell him. Don't be mean, but be playful and sexy. It won't take you long to get an orgasm and he'll be satisfied too. Good Luck. (From one wife to another)

Answer 10

its time to talk to him and tell him that you are not his booty call but his wife and you want to enjoy it too tell him to slow down and tell him you want to role play with him have a night of touch only then kissing you have to show him what intimate mean if not go get a egg timer put by the bed and leave your shoe on good luck and you are right sex is to be enjoy by both