I have a son, he is 16 and he is very nice guy, maybe too nice some times, How can he be more assertive, more decided.
2007-03-01 08:16:24 · 11 answers · asked by SUAVE38 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Try "School for Scoundrels" it's just a movie, but maybe they exist in real life?
Don't worry, I'm sure once he's out in the real world and suffers real consequences he'll toughen up. But if not, the world sure could use some more nice guys.
2007-03-01 08:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by crazymugal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take every opportunity to get him to make his own decision on something. I was this way my whole life, used to being a follower, and doing the things people told me to do. When I got married, this frustrated my husband because he did'nt want me only doing things because he wanted to. He wanted me to have my own mind.He started using every opportunity to get me to make decisions. We would go out to eat, and he would ask where I wanted to go. If I said I didn't care, he would stop the car until I made a decision. The same with going to see a movie, etc. I eventually got the hang of it, and it became easier every time. This really helped me be more assertive, make my own decisions, and be more confident in the choices I made. He really helped me out alot, and now I'm comfortable doing the things that make me happy because I know when I am happy, the whole family is happy. I feel comfortable telling him I'm not in the mood to watch a movie tonight, when before I would have just done it to make him happy. I'm more confident in myself and can make a decision quickly based on what would bring me the greater feeling of happiness. But of course don't ever make him feel like it is wrong to be a nice guy. I'm still an extremely nice person, and respectful toward people, I just know now what I want in life and how to get it.Try it out. Good luck!
2007-03-01 16:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsey H 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure my dad would have preferred that his sons were a little less assertive.
What I know is that he never made me feel stupid, never told me I was wrong, supported me, even in things that he didn't want me to do. All and all I think I became assertive because I didn't know any better.
2007-03-01 16:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by Ernie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Testosterone shots..good stuff. He may just be the kind soft effeminate kind of boy. Regretably that won't get him very far at his age especially not with the ladies, maybe tell him this and the hormones will get the better of him.Otherwise go with the judo and a knife strategy
2007-03-01 17:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by sd d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you can not worry about it. The more you try and make your child do something, the less confident they get. Let them decide when they want to get assertive; it only takes one bee sting to learn not to poke the hive.
2007-03-01 16:22:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
niceness is a strength not a weakness but anyway do guy stuff with him....like for e.g. play footie with him.....attend boxing classes with him and then soon his personality will start becoming more assertive and he will know when to say no and stuff.....
is his mother very nice? maybe hes like that cos of her?
2007-03-01 16:28:23 · answer #6 · answered by Joanna - Harry Potter Fan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him be... this is a difficult period in his life, and he's trying to figure out his identity. as long as he's not getting into trouble or hurting himself or others, why not cut the kid a break and be more supportive of him and his choices. surely that would give him some confidence.
2007-03-01 16:23:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take Judo
2007-03-01 16:25:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all in the genes!!!
You can just teach him to be assertive
2007-03-01 16:19:43 · answer #9 · answered by dancingdoll 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he has to want the change.
2007-03-01 16:19:59 · answer #10 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋