i need help?

Question

im very shy and have few friends. i was wanting some advice whow to make friends and be more interpersonal.

Answer 1

You need to find a way to be more confident in yourself.
The truth is most of us are like this - some of us just find our confidence sooner than others.

#1 - Look in the mirror. What if someone just took a quick glance at you - what do you think their impression of you would be? Now think metrosexually. Would highlights help you? How about trimming bushy eyebrows? Posture is important - are you standing straight? When you make contact, do your eyes say "Hello!" or "please don't look at me"? How about my teeth?

Write a list for yourself and get to work!

#2 - Wardrobe. Let your mantra be "what would David Beckham wear". Maybe his scarves are a bit much, but he's right on everything else.

#3 - Body language - yours and everybody else's.
Back to being confident. How do you sit...walk...enter a room. Can you tell when it's time to stop talking and listen - and vice versa?

Best wishes to you!

Answer 2

Start deligently improving yourself all around. This will not only teach you jow to develop your character and to become less shy, but it will build your self esteme and self awareness. You will gain confidence as you grow.
Some good books I recommend are:
The Real You, Become the Person You Were Meant to Be by Kevin Leman
The Road Less Traveled and all the M. Scott Peck books
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Start with the first one. It is dead on for what you are trying to do.

Answer 3

i don't have many friends either, but i don't really care, because the friends that i HAVE got are true friends. some people may seem popular but really they only have true friends - true friends count. maybe you could join a gym, or something you like doing, and when you're in the changing room, say something like 'the weather's been awful today, hasn't it?' to someone and be cheerful a little bit. this makes you seem a bit more approachable. also, ask questions about THEIR life. e.g if you said the thing i mentioned above, and they replied, 'yeah, awful getting my kids to school this morning,', ask them about their kids, e.g how old they are and their names, then if you know someone the same age as them, mentioned them, e.g 'my cousin is that age, and she's really cheeky! she does anything and always gets what she wants! we spoil her, really'. This gets the conversation rolling.
Also, when you get really friendly with this person, maybe swap phone numbers and arrange for her kids to meet your kids or something. This is really good for social events and then ask her/him to bring along their friends, too, so you can meet alot more people. But don't just say nothing - do the same thing you did like i mentioned above, asking questions about Them.



Hope this helped xx

Answer 4

I can relate to you because I am a shy person especially when i am put in a place where noboby knows me. trust me I know how it feels to be rejected I'ved moved nine times and each time is as hard to make friends as the first time. Just try to be your self. Don't let anyone put you down

Answer 5

I knew someone like u.and u know what's the real solution???
get involved in any group activity.
like coral,sports,acting,art,volunteering...anything that will may u in a direct contact with a huge number of people with differant types and personalities and i can guarantee u that u will have tochange into a social person and have more self confidence.

Answer 6

i'm shy to but i have friends in high places i know because well just be yourself and people will like you for who you are

Answer 7

Find some one you would like to be friends with and talk to them find some thing income in.

Answer 8

K, my advise would b to realax n just b urself, b funny, n b som1 that people would WANT to hang out with!!!

Answer 9

Just be yourself and you will attract people.