how do i get my husband to spend mor etime with me im 5 1/2 months pregnant and i just wanna spend time with him and he always wants to do things with out me and with his friend josh what can i say what do i do please help he also dont wanna help me do anything around the house? please help me
2007-03-01 08:09:38 · 15 answers · asked by kylie 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I think you need to sit down and have a chat with your man. Tell him about the changes that your body is going through, and explain to him that you need some more help around the house. Guys seem to be unthoughtful when it comes to pregnancy because their body is not the one changing. Try not to nag too much though or it will just push him farther away. Tell him that it's okay for him to go out sometimes but just dont neglect his woman at home. And thats You!
2007-03-01 08:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya I understand how you feel. Just talk to him explain that you need his support and love around now, and say you don't mind him spending time with his friends but could he put a little time aside to spend with you too. Maybe you could come to a arrangement where you are both happy.
Hope all goes well xx
2007-03-05 05:51:50 · answer #2 · answered by Missy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't nag him. Spend some time alone with your friends and show him that you can be fun and interesting, and have fun with them.
Constantly reminding someone and complaining that they need to be with you, doesn't cause them to WANT to be with you.
If you want him to want to be with you, be happy, fun and in general a great person to be around. He will want to be with you if you do this. Your great attitude will be good for your child also.
Be so sweet, fun and interesting, that he will fall in love with you all over again.
About the help around the house. Just ask him to do what you need. If he doesn't do it, then, just do it yourself and forget about it until he matures more and will help you. Don't nag.
2007-03-01 16:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try packing his stuff up in a box and putting it in the corner. So when he comes home and he sees it and asks you why you did that. Tell him he has to choose between you or his friends. Then tell him he needs to start helping you clean the house or his stuff will really be out the door. That's what I would do!!!
2007-03-05 16:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by wetcat2009 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's time to go baby shopping, and that the baby is just as much his as it is yours, so he has to go ad not one of your girlfriends. Also remind him of how exhausting it is growing another human being inside of yourself, and that you need help with housework. This is really immature, but tell him if he wants to spend so much time with Josh, then maybe he should have married him instead.
2007-03-01 16:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by Rosie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he just start doing this since the baby? It could be that he is having problems realizing the responsibility.
Unless he was always this way. It sounds like he has always hung out with Josh, and that you are the one that is more "needy" and not him.
2007-03-01 16:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by pnk517 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and talk to him ask him if he's ready to be a dad make a special dinner talk about things you guys have in common. make him feel like he's part of the pregnancy I heard that some guys get jealous of a pregnant woman because they have more of a bond with the baby than her having with him. the best thing to do is talk to him.
2007-03-05 13:55:03 · answer #7 · answered by darla s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant make him do what he doesnt want to do, only thing I can suggest is to make yourself busy too with your own friends and stop doing stuff for him all the time he dosent deserve it - your baby comes first not him. Remember that!
2007-03-01 16:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by ponytail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe when you have the baby yall might get to spend more time 2gether.
2007-03-01 16:15:00 · answer #9 · answered by mellell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell em that you want to do things with him and explain to him that you feel left out... and if u have in the past... really put your foot down this time... dont let him have his way without you speaking your mind first...
2007-03-01 16:16:22 · answer #10 · answered by c t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋