Ok, I have just gone through an ugly divorce and my kids still hate me. Well to top it off I am pregnant now with the man the kids hate( he really is a great guy, but they wont give him a chance)This was unplanned BELIEVE me! lol My kids live with their dad (he is better off financially, the kids dont see it but he is "buying" them and has turned into super dad to turn them against me) OK, anyway, how do I tell them that I am pregnant? Other than "I am an adult and I can do what I want to!" lol I guess I could just come out and say it, but I am hoping for some other advice.
2007-03-01 07:54:20 · 6 answers · asked by Kristi S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is NO easy way to do this - the kids are going to hate your man because he's not their dad, and now they have another reason to hate him, regardless of how good a man you think he is. They probably don't hate you; they're just hurt and angry, and now they are going to feel like you are trying to replace them. You DO need to tell them, and you need to realize up front that the news is going to go over like a lead balloon. I'm sorry I don't have better advice other than "give them time." Hopefully when they actually see their new sibling, their hearts will melt and there will be no jealousy - but alot of that will depend on how you and your ex husband get along between now & then too!
You and your ex should NOT be playing one against the other with your kids - it's not fair to the kids, and they should NEVER be put in a position to feel like they have to choose between their parents.
2007-03-01 08:13:26 · answer #1 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear God this is painful to read. You are going to thumbs down me to death and tell me I don't know anything, but from what you just wrote (lol) you don't give a rat's rear end about your kids so long as they like you. Whatever pain and misery they are going through you feel they are not entitled to because YOU are happy.
You "just got through a divorce". I don't know how recently, and I don't know why, but to them their world is ruined. As if they weren't miserable enough, you go get some new boyfriend and get pregnant by him.
"You are an adult and you can do what you want to". Yes you can. And they have every right to be as happy and unhappy about whatever you want to do.
Right now you honestly think your kids should be happy just because you are happy. By that logic, shouldn't you be miserable just because they are?
No matter how you tell them, they are going to flip. I would too. Sorry.
2007-03-01 08:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you hit the nail on the head. if you are happy about the pregnancy and are in a good relationship they should just be happy for you. you dont say how old the kids are but if they are teens they should be happy that you are happy.
2007-03-01 07:59:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just tell them the truth before he does so you come out ahead. and dont tell them it wasnt planned some things just dont need to come out.
2007-03-01 08:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by swimmyfishy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look just come out and say it.....simple
2007-03-01 07:58:56 · answer #5 · answered by Joanna - Harry Potter Fan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem trampy.
2007-03-01 07:59:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋