Good choices?

Question

I'm a 16 year old boy,and my girlfriend is 15 years old.She's going to come down from maine in the next week to visit me,and she wants to loose it to me,and i want to loose it to her.but she doesn't want me to wear a condom,when we do it,and she wants to get pregnant by me,should I wear a condom or not?I love her with all my life,heart and soul,and everything.so feels the same way about me too.and she wanted to have a kid by me.but should I?

Answer 1

Don't be stupid,you 16,you know your not ready for a child,and either is she.It won't make things better for you guys,your girl is wack!!

Answer 2

If you really love her and she loves you you should save yourselves and see if you last a lot can happen over time especially through all of high school. If the inevitable happens(meaning you have sex) which I have a feeling it will please use a condom. If you really love her you shouldnt let her get pregnant by choosing to not use a condom even if she wants to have your baby.If she feels that strongly you two should wait and mabye in the future plan for a child planning is very important when It comes down to when its a good time to have sex or get pregnant. Believe me I know you might like the Idea of you two haveing a baby together. First try picturing her pregnant the young women you say you love going through morning sickness and going through terrible painfull labour to have your child. Can you picture yourself being a teen father at your age? helping change diapers or not being able to go out with your guy friends anymore or your girlfriend having to put her whole future and life on hold drop out of school, get a job, not finishing high school thoughs are all real life possiblities your signing up for if you decide to have unprotected sex.If you dont think you could handle it make the right choice

Answer 3

This is your life. Highschool love is great. I remember loving my B/F from Highschool the same way, but I'm 24 now and I have a 3 yr old. It's difficult. not to be a parent because that comes naturally. But to support. There is childcare which can run any where from 400-600 per month, plus if you want to live together at somepoint, that is about 700 per month depending on where you live. Groceries 150-200 per month, and transportation. You will have to provide food, clothing love and support. Are you really ready to do this? If not than explain to your g/f that you can "Lose" it to her and that may be a special thing, but having a baby is a lot of work. Tell her to remain calm, and patient. When you are in college, you will thank me for this advice....Be careful tiger..

Answer 4

NO WAY! Obviously, if you have to ask that question, you're too young to be having sex, much less to become a father. Wear the condom. Don't make your life more difficult... if you and she love each other so much eventually you will get married and THEN you can have plenty of children. Why not wait? Enjoy your teenage years, without the responsibilty for a kid. You dont know what it's like.

Answer 5

Definitely wear a condom. You dont want to be having a kid at 16 especially if you guys live far apart. Tell her you both are too young to be having kids. Tell her you wouldnt mind being the father of her baby but ask her to wait a few years.

Answer 6

TO YOUNG TO SOON. As a boy do not spread your seed around lightly. Do wear a condom. It is better to wait nothing is wrong with being a virgin until you tell all your associates your sexual affairs which should be personal. I wonder about Miss, Missie who wants to get pregnant only 15years old what kind of job can you get at that age. Pampers alone with make you think. I hope you do not expect the public to paid again.

Answer 7

Where do you see yourself in 19 years? Do you have it all planned out? Babies might sound ok now but you have to continue to raise them. They are ALWAYS there. With a baby at 16 your girlfriend will more than likely be pregnant with a second baby before she's 18. Now you're supporting 4 people before your done struggling to finish high school. If she wants to have kids with you and she LOVES you, than she'll wait. It's that simple.

Answer 8

its completely up to you. if she loves you she still will if you choose 2 wear a condom. i would try and persuade her 2 change her mind softely. i badly wanted a baby a few months back, now i realise that iv changed my mind, if i had a baby by now, i couldnt go back. it sounds dramatic but the rest of your life is on that desciion. in the end its up 2 u. and u have 2 do whats right for u in the long term. dont let her pressure u into having a baby that will never go away for the rest of your life unless you are happy with it!! good luck! xx

Answer 9

Do you honestly want to become a father at 16? Do you think it would be fair to the baby to have teenage parents who live far apart from each-other? What are your hopes for the future? It will be difficult to reach your goals while supporting and raising a child. If you two are truly meant to be, than in ten years she will still want to have a child with you, and than both of you will be in a much better place to provide a good upbringing for a child.

Answer 10

Wear a condom or risking throwing the rest of your life away! You're too young to have a child. Think about all you will missing out on in your youth if you have a child.

She sounds like she's too immature to have sex.

If you're not ready for a child or an STD, then you're not ready for sex because one of those things could always happen.....

Answer 11

Wear a condom or don't have sex. The both of you are far too young to be having children now and it really does a big disservice to your kids to have them when you aren't mature enough to handle this huge responsibility. And don't let her pressure you - I'm sure she doesn't realize the degree of time, energy, money, and responsibility required for kids.