My friend of 3 yrs (same age as me: 21) is a sweet gal. We don't have much in common but I truly care about her, and so it really troubles me that I no longer feel comfortable bringing her around any of my other friends. She is very depressed and self-conscious, has very erratic and socially unacceptable behavior, and acts like 5 yrs old in normal social interactions. She becomes sexually suggestive anytime we are around a male, flirting and talking about her sex life. She gets very loud and always brings conversations back to her own interests, and becomes annoyed and sometimes self-destructive (will threaten to hurt herself) if she feels no one is paying attention to her.
This is very problematic because I know she has mental health issues, but she has always been there for me. But I can't stand to have her embarass me when we're out together. She has so many problems and I hate to destroy our relationship but I just dont feel comfortable doing things with her in public anymore :(
2007-03-01 07:39:49 · 5 answers · asked by Ammy W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You admit that she has mental problems. You can inform her of what she is doing that is emberrassing you, however I doubt she will be able to control herself much. Mental illness is not something that just goes away because you have pin pointed the problem. It's a deteriorating disease that eats your mind. She doesn't know that her behavior is our of control. Maybe you could talk with her parents so she can get some professional help. Medication might be all that is required. The problem is, no one will know until you make it known. She threatens to hurt herself for attention, that is reason alone to seek help for her. Thank you and good luck.
2007-03-01 07:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She truly is not a true friend to you, you are to her.A true friend would never embarrass her friend.If she has mental issues,let her be.If she goes around telling you she will hurt herself, then she is needing a mothering figure,don't be it.Why have it where you blame yourself for her behavior later,cut it off now.You surely can find people that are more like you to hang out with.You know the ole saying you are known by the company you keep.If you are her only friend you know why.You're young, enjoy life,it is short.....
2007-03-01 08:23:59 · answer #2 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tough position to be in. I would try to avoid being with her in public. It's the only thing you can do. If she asks, then I would try to tell her as gently as possible that she says and does things that are embarrassing to others. Maybe she needs to be on medication. I would hate to say she needs etiquette classes, but sometimes the truth hurts.
2007-03-01 07:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah if ya'll are friends you should beable to talk to them and tell them anything
2007-03-01 10:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by quickster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she just likes to have sex with different men !
2007-03-01 07:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by Doctor_Ashley_proctologist 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋