is it a normal tendecy? or i m afraid i m cheating my husband? do any of you have similar problem? what shall i do? if he knows it? help!
2007-03-01 07:33:36 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yeah i'm facing teh same problem. I was feeling so much guilty. But u know wat we feel that we r getting attracted but probem is in our home. May be ur hubby is not able to give u time or anything. B'coz my hubby is so busy that we spent very less time together but that is quality time. i'm free for whole day. i met this guy on net n got attracted towards him. gave him my no. and started talking, shared pictures n all. Silly me i have told this to my hubby too n he said its ok it happen sometime just forget him. then too i was not able to leave that guy but now after 2 months i think i'm not attracted towards him. I take him as a gud fren only as in the starting he was very eager to know me, my nature n everything abt me which my hubby can't do as he know me very well. ater marriage hubby n u don't have anything to speak to. n if a guy is howing interest in u, he is eager to know u, u feel special. But know u know wat that net man know me very well, know i feel bored with him as we too don't have anything to talk.
I just mean to tell u tis is the phase of life, if u will come out of this phase, u will be save, as a gal u have to save u from so many things rite. don't feel guilty it happen. This is the phase of life. Try to spend more time with ur hubby and shower him with gifts or anything u want to do, when u will see his expressions u will feel good.
All the best lady!!
I hope u have got ur answer do let me know wat u think??
Eagerly waiting for ur answer.
2007-03-01 16:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by sanna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love your spouse, you are not(repeat not) attracted to anyone else. It is not normal! You may have married without knowing what love really is, you may have married too young, you may have married for the sake of being married, but you definitely shouldn't have married a man that doesn't make you feel as though he is the only man you desire for the rest of your life. If you can't put that part of life behind you then you had better seek a divorce immediately before you tear your husband's heart out. It is unfair to share a life with someone letting them give you total committment while you are not doing the same. If the roles were reversed and he was feeling the way you do - would you want him to be honest with you? You're not the one that will hurt the most by this. Be honest with him and and let him know before it gets worse.
2007-03-01 07:50:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people have feelings of attraction towards other's of the opposite sex it's the not acting on those feelings that come into play. You are married if you felt that you couldn't be true and faithful to your husband then you shouldn't have tied the knot
remember your vows shall love,honor,and cherish all the days of your life. Get some counselling if this is severe problem, but if you feel like you may cheat let your man go first it is easier to except divorce then someone cheating on them. But really did you understand the meaning of marriage when you got married?
2007-03-01 07:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not normal tedency. Just befriend and talk as u talk to a neighbour. Don't even think of crossing the limit. Don't
talk about him in front of husband too much and never disclose that u r attracted to him. Don't look back any more and thought of future. Talking terms should either be open or should not exist at all. No secret relations please. If it's not possible, bury that, forget him once for all. After all your marriage is to be saved. Be religious a little bit, at least.
2007-03-01 20:11:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your love life needs to be spiced up. Apparently your husband isn't doing enough for you if you are sexually attracted to another man. Talk to your husband. That's the first thing. Maybe he can think some stuff up and improve your love life. If that doesn't work, and he seems to be open minded, ask him about a three-way. You and this sexy guy and your husband can all have sex together and that will satisfy your lust while keeping the relationship with your husband intact. But the most important thing is to TALK to your husband! Good luck to you!
2007-03-01 07:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be attracted to someone else is not a good idea, you can think someone else is attractive, both sexes do this, but to think beyond that, approach that person, become obsessed with being around them, start treating your spouse like crap because you have this other person to talk to and lean on, these are all signs that its heading in the wrong direction. It could lead to cheating. If it is making you wonder, then your thoughts have crossed the line already, make the right choice!
2007-03-01 10:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we have temptations to deal with everyday in our lives, but once u cross that line the guilt will kill u, and u will never feel the same about your husband again. the thing u describe is infatuation or lust. just an illusion that is fleeting, doesn't last long. stop thinking about the other man,, u already have a life and a marriage. be thankful for what u do have, don't go looking outside the marriage because of lust, or just to get a thrill, as it will come back to u, and destroy your life. yes it is kind of normal but don't fall for it.
2007-03-01 07:53:25 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what everyone thinks of someone else at some point. You can look as long as you don't touch. No harm in it your problem is completely normal and you probably haven't considered this but your husband probably thinks that a few girls are hot or sexy. As long as you two trust each other you have no worries.
2007-03-01 07:41:09 · answer #8 · answered by Ali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal tendency and abnormal in married life
every one get it into this situation. if you respect to moral values you forget all those and stay happily with ur hubby
if you dont some you have to attract some one not you by others ok
forget him and live happily with your husband
take care
god bless you
i cannot tell how you suppose to be i am just like you on this
please think and take decision
hope you do the best to be with ur hubby with no above said thoughts
2007-03-01 13:42:16 · answer #9 · answered by The Prince of Egypt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin'...Chill. If you weren't naturally attracted to other men, something would be wrong with you. I have been married for almost 20 years, and I still look, find men attractive, flirt outrageously, have even made mention of some of them to my husband. He just rolls his eyes. And yea...have had some nasty thoughts about a few...lol
Your not cheating your husband, your cheating your husband when you actually act on those thoughts, then you can worry about it.
And, if it doesn't bother him that you find other men attractive, then don't worry about it. Just don't take offense to it if he does it. Whats good for one, is good for the other too....
*****
Yea, Yea, Yea...I can hear some of you women now, hollering.."I don't look, I don't find myself attracted to other men..." Yea...uhhumm, save it for someone who will believe it....
2007-03-01 07:48:09 · answer #10 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋