I had sex with my best friend's dad. Well he is acutally her stepdad and they dont get along at all. Since it happened things have gotten akward. He tells me he loves me and wants to leave his wife for me. I feel the same way he does but I dont want my best friend to know becuase I know she will be upset.
2007-03-01 07:30:20 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would not be breaking up a happy home. His wife has cheated on him several times and neither one of them is happy in their marriage. I am 19 and he is 37. He is also not using me because although we continue to see each other we are not having sex. We have decided to wait until we figure things out before we have sex again.
2007-03-01 07:47:10 · update #1
Why did you get yourself in such a big mess? Are you really looking for trouble? There is no positive way of doing things in your situation.
2007-03-01 07:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by Odessa Fraser 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
WOW!!!! This is bad. Either way you lose. If you tell your friend she is going to hate you. If you keep it up with this guy, you are breaking up a happy home and just when you think you have him to yourself he is going to do the same thing to you. This is really really bad. What were you thinking? Leave this man alone, and tell your friend. Better for her to hear it from you then to hear it elsewhere like from the step father that she really does not get along with. You're probably gonna lose a friend, but at least you can be honest. There is no good way to this. If you keep lying and hiding things they WILL EVENTUALLY come to light. Stop the madness now.
2007-03-01 07:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by nikkid6910705 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be stupid!! How dare you break up your BEST-FRIEND'S home. Even if she doesn't like him, you should keep your sh*t to yourself. You gotta tell her, if he's planning to leave and the reason is you, she'll find out sooner or later. Your best-friend's dad should have been off limits to start with. And then he's married? What kind of future do you expect? He cheated on his WIFE, with his STEPDAUGHTER'S BEST-FRIEND!!! You couldn't possibly believe that because he says he loves you that he really does!! He stood before God and a minister/judge and professed he loved his wife, but as you can see that meant nothing, so what do you think he thinks of you? I can't believe you're even telling people you did this!!!
2007-03-01 07:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by lamonross80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OUCH!! If you value your friendship, then you need to come clean with your best friend. You are aware that all hell will break loose, but it's better to get it out in the open as opposed to running around and covering your butt. In addition, how do you know this guy is going to be faithful to you? He had no problem cheating on his wife; it's just a matter of time until he does it to you. Many blessings.
2007-03-01 10:34:02 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But isn't it her right to be upset? You know she will eventually find out sooner or later anyway and the longer you allow time to pass by without letting her know, the worse it will be! Be honest with her. Whatever happens, atleast you know you tried for your friendship. Odd's are she might turn on you to be honest so be prepared. After all. Even if she doesn't get along with her step father, he's still her mothers husband. A coward and a hero have one thing in common. Fear. Face yours now and be prepared to deal with the consequences . Good luck.
2007-03-01 07:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by daisyduke070 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your best friend. I'm sure her mother has no clue of what is going on. You are doing something that is wrong for a lot of reasons. If you are having sex with that man, stop and see just how much he loves you then. If you are old enough to have sex with a married man, you are old enough to take the consequences for your actions. Thank you and may GOD help you.
2007-03-01 07:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one. Best thing to do is hide it for a while if its really serious between you two. Next thing I would do is bring up a similar situation without implying that you're part of the story and ask her what she would do or what she thinks about that situation. You will get a better idea on how she feels. If shes not cool with it then your stuck girl cause if you guys continue she will eventually need to know.
2007-03-01 07:36:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive. You are in an awful mess. She will not respect you. In fact, she deserves more. How can you call yourself a friend? Is that how you would want to be treated??? Why are you doing this? Of course he's telling you that he loves you? He has some young, sweet thing that is making him feel young and good and not looking at reality. Go find yourself a guy that can give you himself emotionally. You are thinking with your hormones.
2007-03-01 07:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa A 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know that you are so wrong, right? The stepdad too.
You are breaking up an entire family. I feel for the wife and your bestfriend.
It doesn't sound like you are any type of best friend at all that would do that.
Just remember....'What goes around, come around,' and you will definitely get your share.
How awful...
2007-03-01 07:36:04 · answer #9 · answered by Ms Brown Eyez 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
you should she was your friend before you were her dad's lover and the decision u two (u and the dad) make will affect her. I think though you should talk to the dad and let him know you are going to tell her that way you can decide on a mutual way to tell her ( both tell her together or u tell her alone) but be advised she will have a reaction just be prepared
2007-03-01 07:35:09 · answer #10 · answered by Im da Example 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No....don't tell her, stay away from him. Let things cool down for a while. If he's willing to leave his wife for you......what is going to stop him from leaving you for someone else? Don't let yourself get hurt. You should have red flags popping up all over the place.......be careful......Best of luck to you.
2007-03-01 07:38:42 · answer #11 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋