2007-03-01 07:28:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Deforces are painful experiences for the whole family. As you probably already know, YOU are the cause of your parents' deforce. If you hadn't come along, they probably wouldn't be getting deforced now. Study your shortcomings and try to figure out what you did that caused the deforce. Join a "children of deforce" support group.
2007-03-01 07:31:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
I'm a divorced parent with children younger than you are. The fist thing is to understand that it might just be the best thing to do. Don't think it is something you done to cause it or that you can fix it. You will still your dad or mom and they will still both be there for you. They will make sure that you will be fine and will spend time with you. Its unfortunate but the divorce rate in america is really high these days. I say that to say that you are not alone so don't feel like it only happened to you.
I'm sorry to hear that. Just pray about it and ask God for understanding.
2007-03-01 15:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by curtis t 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find a good support group. There are probably groups in your area for kids of divorced parents. Check with your school counselor - they might have referrals for you.
Also keep in mind that your parents are still human. Even though you may not be happy about the situation, don't take it personally. There has to be at least ONE good reason they're not together anymore, and you need to respect their choices, even if you don't agree with them.
And try not to be too bratty. They're going through enough as it is, without you acting out and being a pain in the butt. Try to be tolerant and not too judgmental.
2007-03-01 15:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Myparents got a divorce,when i was 2years old.. My mom has remarried . . It really isn't that bad once you get used to the idea.
The only bad part is stepparen'ts.. When i was at home my stepdad would treat my moms kids different from his. Now thati'm 22 years old and have kids of myown, he has more to do with me, and heloves my kids like they are his biological grandkids. Just don't worry.There are advantages and disadvantages of paren'ts divorcing.Justdon't let it drive you crazy.Be strong about it..
2007-03-01 15:39:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What problem are you having? Exactly which issue are you having trouble with?
Pedantic people: It is not neccessary to know how to spell divorce before learning to deal with divorce related issues. If you are that much superior, then why bother answering 'mere mortals'? And have a heart, lola is probably upset.
2007-03-01 15:31:03 · answer #5 · answered by Dharma Nature 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you need to realize that their problems have nothing to do with you. You are not the cause of the break-up and could have done nothing to stop their divorce.
Secondly, you cannot allow yourself to be put in the middle of the break-up. Do not allow them to get you play favorites and do not allow them to say negative things about the other parent with you around.
2007-03-01 16:43:30 · answer #6 · answered by Ted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself where they went wrong, so you and your bros/sis's can learn from it. It's not always what it seems. With me and my wife we clash because she is an eldest born (dominate type) and I am a last born (resentful of leaders type).
I hope that you know this isn't your or another siblings fault. I would die for my kids (sometimes.) Because of my kids I will never regret marrying my wife no matter what happens between us.
Hang in there honey. They do love you. I know that.
2007-03-01 15:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you could help by finding someone to teach you to use the force. When you have mastered the force, you can teach you parents, in essence, reforcing them.
Good luck!
2007-03-01 15:39:38 · answer #8 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
take it for what it is, don't let them get you involed in thier disputes, realize it has nothing to do with you, and try your best to keep a good relationship with bolth of them
2007-03-01 15:32:00 · answer #9 · answered by MATTHEW B 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First, you should learn how to spell "DIVORCE" before you learn how to deal with it
2007-03-01 15:38:37 · answer #10 · answered by ~♥The Hon♥~ 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋