2 days before the middle of my cycle I had unprotected sex. The day after the middle of my cycle I had sex with a condom with someone, I checked the condom after, and there was no tears or leakage in it, but being so close I am a little concerned. And please no horrid comments, for all those who want to judge, I really dont care, we have all made mistakes
2007-03-01 07:27:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
The first guy is most likely the dad. He may have given you a baby, but perhaps a nice parting gift as well----such as an STD. Remember to always make your partner wear a condom. And good luck to you and the baby.
2007-03-01 07:46:47 · answer #1 · answered by Super Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I was in this same situation, before I get into all of that I would suspect that the man with whom you had unprotected sex with is most likely the father. I know it's frustrating and you probably feel a little ashamed of yourself, but please don't. Everybody makes mistakes and you are not alone. When I was 19 ( I am 25 now ) I was at that time in a relationship with a guy for 4 years. I went camping with my parents for a weekend and hooked up with another guy just for a weekend fling. Well needless to say I had sex with my boyfriend the night before I left and had sex with the other guy the night after. The difference there, was my boyfriend and I had never had unprotected sex until that night, and I had unprotected sex with guy # 2 also. Well lo and behold 4 weeks later I find out I am pregnant. The first thing going through my head was how am I going to tell both these guys I am pregnant and they may or may not be the father. But quickly realized it wasn't how am I going to tell them it was I HAD to tell them, and soon. They both handled it well, so for 9 months it was a waiting game. After my son was born, I had a paternity test done, my boyfriend whom I ended up staying with took the test instead of guy # 2. The results came back that he was not the father. Which meant that guy #2 is indeed the father of my son. Well, my boyfriend quickly became mean, and abusive to me. My son's father was quick to be by my side through everything. Needless to say I left my boyfriend and I am now happily married to guy #2. We had another child since then and I am now 34 weeks pregnant with our third son. Just be honest, and make sure you get a test done, just to be safe. Keep your chin up, everything will work out for you. Remember that everything happens for a reason. Best of luck to you and congrats on your baby.
2007-03-01 16:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by peyton31602 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person you had unprotected sex with is almost certainly the father. Judging by your cycle is often effective, however, I got pregnant 3 days after I had my period. Odd, but true!!
If you couldn't see any leakage in the condom, it sounds to me like you are worrying as you don't want this guy to be the dad.... it is more likely you're pregnant through unprotected sex rather than depending on the reliability of your cycle.
Good luck and congrats!! ;-)
p.s: I don't judge anybody, I wouldn't want them to judge me!
2007-03-01 15:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by Krissyinthesun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No judgement here...have sex with whoever you want! There is no real way to know unless you get a paternity test done after the baby is born. Condoms don't always work, and there is no way to know when you ovulated. Its more likely that its the unprotected sex that resulted in pregnancy, but no way to know for sure. I'm sure that's not the answer you wanted to hear, but its the truth.
On a separate (still not judgemental) note, please be honest with the two guys. The father has a right to know if he has a child (or if its not his child), even if it means your relationship with him suffers. Guys kinda get screwed when it comes to stuff like this.
2007-03-01 15:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by Erin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one you had unprotected with! Let this be a learned lesson about having unprotected sex, i mean i hope that the person that you had unprotected wit you care for because looks like the two of you are stuck
2007-03-01 16:03:07 · answer #5 · answered by Mizz. J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bestfriend did that also. She decided that the guy with a condom would make a better father so she let him believe its his baby & the other guy doesn't know. Without a DNA test you won't know 100%. Good luck with whatever you decide.
2007-03-01 15:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by Angela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have to say the unprotected one. But evemn though it doesnt look like there was no holes to you, there may have been. It only takes a little bit! If i was you I would have them patternity tested. Once the baby arrives that is
2007-03-01 15:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by Nancy Lou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably the one you had unprotected sex with, but you never know. Eek, I hate to say it, but you'll probably have to do a DNA test to know for sure. Best of luck with that situation!
2007-03-01 15:32:27 · answer #8 · answered by grayhare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely the first guy.. but a DNA test should be done for certain.. good luck and congrats!
2007-03-01 15:33:52 · answer #9 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably contestant #1, but only a DNA test will be able to tell you 100%.
2007-03-01 15:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋