I met a very nice lady,about 4 months ago. We live about 35 miles away from each other, we try to see one another every 2 weeks..She is a very busy person(full time job,5 yr old kid and college).......But my question is when ever we meet I like to give her flowers, I also gave her a Valantine gift. We are going to meet this weekend and I would love to give something other then flowers. Should I be giving her present or gift everytime I see her or am I over doing it?? One more thing I seem to be the one thats doing all the paying when we go out!! I dont care about paying I just dont want her to get use to me paying or think I should pay eveyrtime we go out !! What do u think i should do?
2007-03-01 07:20:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No more gifts, Only for VD, Xmas and b-days. Try to stay home and do some things at home, going out gets very expensive after a while.
Now, her being a single mother and going to school may not have a lot of money to spare to invite you. So be considerate of her situation.
If she really likes you, she should understanmd that you cannot take her out all the time You can do other things such as going to the park and have a picnic, hiking, going to a museum or a zoo.
When I go ourt with my bf, I pay sometimes (when he lets me!) but that's because I'm considerate of him and I can afford to treat him once in a while.
Good luck
2007-03-01 07:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give her gifts every time when u meet but only some special days like b-day, Valantine day and sometimes buy sth. for her kid, this will impress a single mother deeply. Also, don't buy her flowers every time. U may send her flowers or cards or your words on internet, and buy her some practical things like perfume, candles, coffee, etc. http://www.opentip.com/ Try to know what she really need. Also, why you pay every time? This is very dangerous. You have set your tone at the beginning and it very hard to change. Let her know its also her responsability.
2007-03-01 22:37:18 · answer #2 · answered by liuzi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-05-19 05:35:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it sounds like you already set the "tone" for your relationship. She is now accustomed to gifts and to you paying for everything. To test the waters, tell her that you are a little short on cash and ask her if she minds when you two get together next if you can split the costs. Any reasonable, non "gold-digger" would say yes, if she freaks, then that should give you a warning sign that maybe she has a problem. Also, as far as the little gifts, no, you shouldn't need to and she shouldn't expect them. If you don't give her a gift and she mentions it, that should be the second "strike"
Good luck!
2007-03-01 15:28:04 · answer #4 · answered by itsjustme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should giving her gifts everytime you see her. If you want to give her something - a card with a few words expressing your feelings. Maybe she is a little old fashion with the male paying for going out - maybe suggest dutch sometime if you have a problem with paying all the time
2007-03-01 15:26:36 · answer #5 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my husband and I were dating the best gift was this purple and pink blanket from Pottery Barn ... I love it to this day! I would wrap myself up in it and always pictured him holding me when he was away. He always brought over flowers and treated me like a lady, still he opens my car door and place's his hand on the small of my back when we are out. You should always pay. Spoil her so she has no desire to look elsewhere. But I am old fashioned so you decide what's best if you think this girl is deserving I think it's ok ... but if she's really kinda selfish you may want to keep looking. Good Luck!
2007-03-01 15:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by Summer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
quit giving her gifts and pay for the dinner....
2007-03-01 15:24:18 · answer #7 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋