What stands out as a time when your marriage was troubled, and how did you improve yourself to help turn things around? What did your spouse do to help turn things around?
2007-03-01 07:18:51 · 10 answers · asked by Martin Pedersen 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We had a lot of trouble because of his mom lying about crap.And I finally put my foot down about her actions.I turned things around because I finally told him he had to do something with her or I was gone.By doing so I help get rid of some of the resentment I felt towards him because his mom was a pain in my butt.And he help fix things by getting her out of our lives.
2007-03-01 07:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A very deep question, not everything in life goes as you plan. I tried really hard to keep our marriage together after my wife cheated. But when one can't put their personal issues aside, it's pretty much over. Ad least in my case, so sometimes it's best to just cut your losses and let go. God is @ the center of my life and everything will just flow gracefully, because that is my destiny.
2007-03-01 16:07:28 · answer #2 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it also depends on if there's outside interference. others tend to forget that a marriage is between the two people. talk things over with your spouse, bring up the issues, hash it out. if there's more good times than bad in your marriage, then it's worth trying to save it. but both of you have to work at it.
2007-03-01 15:25:13 · answer #3 · answered by wendy b 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do things for the sake of doing them.
Last night just before bed I got some massage oil and gave my wife a 20-min or so back massage. No reason. Just so she would feel good. Then we went to sleep. I demanded nothing in return other than a thank you and her to be happy.
Hopefully she is.
2007-03-01 15:50:55 · answer #4 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately my spouse did nothing to make things better and I did all the work. I tried keeping my mouth shut thinking maybe it was just myself. I tried to be more romantic to bring the flame back. What do you do when you feel youve tried all you can? What stands out though? Hmmm. I went to church. I tried to be closer to my husband. Did everything he wanted.
2007-03-01 15:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by beaches 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feminine wiles. Maybe because I'm from an older generation. There's something to be said about treating your man with affection, admiration, and respect. It has nothing to do with being subservient, it's all about using your power as a woman.
One simple thing is to wake up each morning and ask yourself, "What can I do today to make my partner's life worth living?"
2007-03-01 15:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We tried counseling, alot, like 3 years. I tried to come home and be a better husband and father, cuz she made me feel as if I weren't. I did things that weren't the norm for me. She tried other things herself, but in the end, it turned out she has BPD. So without her accepting it and willing to get the proper help, everything we tried was nil.
2007-03-01 16:37:52 · answer #7 · answered by jude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
COMMUNICATE COMMUNICATE COMMUNICATE! AND I CAN NOT STRESS THAT ENOUGH! My hubby had an affair. Our marriage was failing at the time of the affair, its really a very long story. But anyway, I have decided to stay in the marriage and forgive him and if its one thing we BOTH learned is that communication is probably THE NUMBER ONE thing in a marriage, and sex and intamacy is number 2.
2007-03-01 15:30:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Prayer.
Also try to ask spouse what is wrong and go from there to work on the issues to resolve them.
Couseling can also work for couples when trouble is in the air
2007-03-01 15:30:08 · answer #9 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Violet Pearl.............very wise women.
2007-03-01 15:48:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋