Any Bi-Girls help me out?

Question

So here's the deal...
i found a girl...and we are both into each other. We both admit that we are sexually very openminded, but are both nervous about our first encounter...she will be coming over tonight for the first time just to hang out and whatever happens, happens. The problem is that we are both really shy at first, and i dont want the opportunity to just pass us by because we're too quiet. What are some good ideas to get things going...
usually in my dates with guys, they are the aggressive ones and therefore makes me open up, but i guess i need to step-it up this time...but i have NO idea what to do. I don't want to be too pushy, and i dont want it to be ackward...i want it to be HOTT....so help me out a little if you can...thanks!!!

Answer 1

relax. it will only get ackward if you are tense. i bet you had some kind of fantasy once where you were the one in control, aggressive, getting him to do what you want. Otherwise, try to imagine the scene. Get in character. I think role playing is only fun when you get to play various parts. I am sure you have some alpha cells in you. You simply assume you don't based on how men saw or wanted to see you. Forget. Shyness can be very sexy too if you stay calm. breathing exercises before she comes can be good

this is going to be great. make the first move and don't worry about too much or too pushy. if you pay attention to what her body tells you, you will have no problem. maybe you two get a bath together. hot bath... any toys to play with? toys are nice. massage could be good start. have fun, girls.

Answer 2

An alcoholic beverage is always good to relax the atmosphere! Also, do an activity that requires close proximity - like watching a movie on the bed in the bedroom. Also, if the vibe is right - do something overt that says what your intentions are that is non-offensive (like, lighting a couple candles.) Good luck - and have fun!

Answer 3

A bottle of wine split between the two of you should help to ease yours and her tension. I think that the shoulder message is a great idea as well because it gives you a reason to begin physical contact. You can have it be just a message or you can expand it from there you get to be in control.

Answer 4

Do little things, lay ya head on her lap or vise versa. . .actually last night, this girl was over my house, and we been hanging out or what ever. . .well she was there and while i was in the bathroom she sent me a txt message on my phone, and it said, so how about a kiss. .i looked at her and she smiled, yea its kinda childish or young but at the same time cute, and all i had to do was walk up to her and kiss her, it was her way of letting me know that a kiss is what she wanted and it was ok if i wanted it too. and from there things will continue, if you want them to...
Hope this helps. .

Answer 5

My last girlfriend started things by saying....

You look tense, bad day at work? Here, lemme give you a little shoulder massage.

And things progressed nicely from there.

p.s. I was her first grrlfriend. And I told her up front that I wasn't gonna make a move in case she felt uncomfortable, I was leaving things ALL up to her.

Answer 6

this is similar to what happened to me, i went to this girls house, we just watched a movie, had a few glasses of wine to relax us as we were both nervous and just chatted, we got on so well and then she asked if she could kiss me. id been waiting for hours for her to ask. what you want is more than likely what shes wanting to so just ask or say id love to give u a kiss.....hope that helps a little

Answer 7

brush the hair away from her cheek, move in and kiss her... the rest will be a voyage of exploration.