So my brother's wife has announced that she would like a separation but not a divorce. She doesn't say how long, just that she wants to move out. They have a four year old daughter. My brother says if they separate, he will just file for divorce. My sister in law had called me to try to convince him to not file. I said, " I AM SWITZERLAND BUT I THINK THAT YOU ARE MOVING OUT BECAUSE YOU WANT A DIVORCE and that you should think about the effect upon Alice. " I have not said that to my brother. What do you think?
2007-03-01 07:06:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He has to decide this himself. From my experience, he should ensure that he retains custody of any children.
She is free to go, and be allowed liberal visitation, but neither he, nor the children should leave the marital home.
2007-03-01 07:18:11 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your brother suggest marriage counseling and that she stay in the home. Her moving out will only cause more problems and make it tougher to resolve the issues. If she does end up moving out, make sure your brother either keeps your niece with him or immediately alerts a lawyer -- in the future if there is a divorce, his chances of getting more than usual visitation or even custody will be greater. Good luck!
2007-03-01 07:20:36 · answer #2 · answered by itsjustme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just needs time to work some things out. Just because she wants a separation does not necessarily mean that she wants a divorce. Isn't it better that she wants some time to see if she thinks the marriage can be saved rather than just ending it. He should give her a little bit of time.
2007-03-01 07:12:37 · answer #3 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the reason for the separation. Why does she want it? I would never advise someone to get divorced unless it was truly a done deal.
2007-03-01 07:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by mlock123 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally would go to my brother and talk to him.I would try to get him to realize that she is just using him.He is her backup plan.She probably has a new man on the side.And she just wants to string your brother along just in case her new man doesn't work out.I would advise him to tell her it is all or nothing.Either she is all in or all out.But anyway she looks at it her game is over.
2007-03-01 07:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but that's your brother's business, not yours. IF he wants to divorce her, he'll say so. n
2007-03-01 07:13:41 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when two people are married, their problems are their own, STAY OF OF IT!
2007-03-01 07:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. This is between them. Don't let them pull you into it.
2007-03-01 07:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by megan261980 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell your sister-in-law that it is not your business and that conversation is between she and your brother.
2007-03-01 07:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it.
2007-03-01 07:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by Wondrin Dude 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋