I have been married to my wife for 7 years and have been contemplating taking a mini-vacation by myself. I'm sure she would like to go, but I just really want some time alone - away from everything. I don't have bad intentions and my marriage is great, but I've just been yearning for some time away from my regular life. Is this wrong of me, or do I at least owe it to myself to give myself a little break?
2007-03-01 07:05:05 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk it over with her see how she feels. If its gonna cause a problem then i wouldn't go. You would be surprised at how we feel when you talk to us straight up.
2007-03-01 07:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is tell her the truth. Tell her you are very stressed and just want to get away alone. But make it a trip that guys do, like a fishing trip; a hunting trip; hiking; but I wouldn't go alone. I would ask a married buddy to come along, but have separate cabins. You'll have plenty of time alone to think and sorting out what is bothering you. Don't try to take a mini vacation is a way that a woman would love like a weekend at a Bed and Breakfast; Las Vegas; etc. That is my advice, otherwise your wife is going to be upset and also suspicious. Why make waves?
2007-03-01 07:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a great relationship, go for it!
Until my marriage fell apart last year, I would go 3-5 times a year (been married 6, together 8) by myself. My husband would take my things out to my car and ask me to bring him back a shirt.
2007-03-01 07:12:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
short answer is sure, you're already depressed and this could have long term outcomes. you may desire to: (a) stumble on a metamorphosis of environment (im no longer too sparkling approximately what your aims are so i cant suggestion you extra than that)... discover yet another buddy/family contributors member which could assist you (b) provide up the alcohol abuse... dont improve dependence to it. it is going to destroy your destiny worse than cigarettes, the two mentally (pass wiki Korsakoff's syndrome, alcohol dependence), bodily (pancreatitis, pancreatic failure is amazingly painful, liver failure, all varieties of maximum cancers danger worst being laryngeal maximum cancers) and your existence (you will no longer get an outstanding activity or entice good employer by utilising being a boozer). Alcohol is barely an particularly short-term answer on your temper swings. (c) its stable which you nonetheless attempt to discover something stable in existence. actuality is: existence is perceived as as a rule adverse stories by way of way we are programmed. We have been made to examine from our errors that's key to our survival. for this reason the physique will prioritize adverse stories on a similar time as make you crave for extra advantageous stories which will seem sparse. stable ingredient is that some human beings can retrain themselves and 'trick' their strategies; turning a adverse experience right into a miles less adverse one or a favorable one even. working example, over the years you will quickly understand that on a similar time as the girl who refused you became into heartbreaking on the time and a genuine knock on your self assurance, it became into great to have widespread her in the 1st place, to have expressed your needs than to no longer attempt in any respect and to take it as education for many extra different females to come again. (d) no longer be fixated on one ingredient at a time. ie. this is amazingly hassle-free to fall right into a catch of fantasizing of a manner out by utilising putting all your bets on a single ingredient or blaming each and every thing onto a single experience. The repercussions of this could be undesirable and longlasting. do no longer try this. Be arranged continuously. actuality is absolutely everyone seems to be certainly on my own in this international, this is barely made extra relaxing in the employer of others. (e) you are able to attempt a faith. If there is not any longer something to thank for, a minimum of there's a objective responsible.
2016-10-02 05:03:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it is kinda rude to go by yourself. I mean if you went out camping and fishing and your wife didnt want to go, then by all means go. But taking an actual vacation and leaving her behind when she wants to go, thats pretty selfish. How about her? She deserves to give herself a little break too. Damn selfish basta__!
2007-03-01 07:48:14 · answer #5 · answered by Kari R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude we all need some ME TIME. But getting her to understand that is a hold different ISSUE. Believe me you will come out of it being the bad guy for not wanting to spend time with her. GO FIGURE. Go for it you owe it to yourself.
2007-03-01 07:16:09 · answer #6 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs private time some time or another. Encourage your wife to take solo vacations too.
2007-03-01 07:13:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were your wife I would tell you to go and have a great time, and I would also expect you to give me the same priviledge, So, go have a good time !!
2007-03-01 07:12:48 · answer #8 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband does it all the time..Goes to the lake and camps out all weekend...I think its fine as long as you call your wife a couple of times during the day.
2007-03-01 07:09:44 · answer #9 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If she has complete access to you at all times. If you don't have a cell phone, buy one. Otherwise, you sound suspicious
2007-03-01 07:11:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋