to bars after they're married?
2007-03-01 07:01:48 · 35 answers · asked by Geronimo5 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes its perfectly ok.
Its an escape.
I have been married now for the past 7 years. I love my wife and the life we have together, but every here and there, each of us needs some time either alone or with friends where we can let loose in a different way.
It all really boils back to tribal instincts. Men party with men and women with women, unless they are together. Then its naughty.
I go out once a month with my friends. There are 4 of us and we each take turns picking what we will do. Sometimes its barhopping, sometimes bowling, movies, etc. Its just a tension easer and a release.
Jealousy leads to fear, fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, and hate leads to the dark side. Don't be jealous and suspicious, its only going to cause more problems.
2007-03-01 07:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by royalpainshane 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Bars are not just for picking up women. They are a place to socialize. I don't see anything wrong with married men wanting to go to bars with married or even single buddies. Many sports bars are a great place to watch the game(or race) tell jokes, let off steam about problems, and even drink. Women like to do things without their husbands around once in awhile, why shouldn't men feel the same way? If there is trust between two married people there should be no problem(as long as he doesn't stay out all night and smell like a cheap hooker when he comes home). As long as it doesn't happen constantly(once in a while is not out of the ordinary) there shouldn't be a problem. Otherwise the wife should use the same time to catch up with her female friends.
2007-03-01 07:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Of course it's ok for married men to go to bars with their buddies, married or not. It's also ok for single men to go to bars with their buddies, married or not.
Why wouldn't it be? People go to bars for all kinds of reasons. You can play darts, drink, shoot pool, drink, have some food, drink, and just spend time with your friends while you drink. And yes, you can check out females.
I see no cause for why it's not ok for legal adults to go to bars with their friends, and I'm very confused about the last question. What difference does it make in the group who's married and who's not married? Yes, some men go to bars to pick up girls. But some men also go to the supermarket or the laundromat to pick up girls.
Bars aren't just for single men or single women, and they're not couples only either. I get off work before my girlfriend does, so I feel no guilt in hitting a bar with my colleagues (married and single) on the way home for a beer and a few games of pool so long as I don't drive drunk. Yes, there are females at the bar as well; so what?
Perhaps it's just a guys' night out, which shouldn't be particularly threatening to any healthy stable relationship. Tell him to have a good time and give you a call if he needs a ride home.
2007-03-01 07:21:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That depends on you.Are you secure in your relationship to trust your man? Not all married men are at bars to pick up women.If you asked the same question,only reversed the gender,then I'm sure there would be just as many negative answers as positive ones on this subject.
My hubby doesn't drink,but does go out once a week with the "gang" to sports events or just to eat out together.So do I and my girl - friends..There is nothing wrong with separate outside activities,as long as you don't forget where your heart lives..It does a relationship good to have "time out" away from each other once in a while...
2007-03-01 07:20:13 · answer #4 · answered by ladybug 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys like to hang out. I don't think that bars are the best places for married men to be without their wives, but sometimes that's the only place they can go to throw darts or shoot pool.
I think it depends on when they're going to the bar. Are you talking about happy hour after work, or until 2am on Sat night? Married men do NOT need to be out partying without their wives on weekend nights - it's ASKING for trouble. Men are VISUALLY driven and there are just as many women out there who are looking for a cheap thrill as there are men!
2007-03-01 08:52:05 · answer #5 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly i do think it's ok for married men to hang out with their other married buddies regardless if it's at a bar. I know it's hard for us women to believe, BUT we're NOT on their mind 24/7 they do think about other things besides women... like their careers, sports, fitness, outdoor activities etc. SO if they want to go to the bar OR where ever maybe it's JUST to have a guys night out and discuss MANLY things LoL Give 'em some credit... he IS hangin out with other "off the market" guys. He could be hangin out with single guys and all of us ladies know what "THEY" are like LoL
SO yes! is my answer :^)
2007-03-01 07:12:45 · answer #6 · answered by Britni Lee 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Guys and men and dudes... basiclly anything w/ a penis and balls go to bars cause thats where the beers at. If they're married then their married theres nothing wrong with that. if their cheaters then thats the girls fault because they should know better than to mess with a married man. BUT guys and bars is like peanut butter and jelly.
2007-03-01 07:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because absence makes the heart grow fonder for one, if you're around someone all the time you will get a little tired of them, married or not.
It's also about socially interacting with other people. A married couple doesn't need to be around each other all the time, no one needs to be around another person all the time.
Thirdly, some people just like to go out and drink.
2007-03-01 07:07:54 · answer #8 · answered by geckoguy5000 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No not unless there wives are with them. Bars are for single people, and alot of unmarried women find married men attractive and will flirt. Besides everyone knows what happens when guys drink too much, they get flirty, and mouthy, and never know what they will do...
I trust my man so I would not mind it as long as he went with other married buddies instead of single men because we all know how they are.
Besides my man does not want to go to bars without me because he doesn't like going without me.
2007-03-01 07:21:03 · answer #9 · answered by clints_wench 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Of course it's ok...They just need to go and let out some steam from the everyday bs. If you dont trust him when he goes out with his buddies then you need to rethink your relationship or who his friends are. As long as he comes home within a normal time and is not shitfaced then let him go. You should have a girls night atleast (1) time a week to do the same thing. You will feel more relaxed, time apart is good. Also, its good to see how he reacts to you going out without him. It can really test a marriage.
2007-03-01 07:12:06 · answer #10 · answered by Daph 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋