Racist Homosexuals....?

Question

This is a very serious inquiry, so please, no stupid answers. Ok, my best friend is gay, we've known each other since elemetary school. So basiclly, he's like my brother. A few months ago he started dating a guy who's originally from Georgia. A few weeks ago my friend (Thomas) told me that he thought that this guy was "The One". I was so happy for him when he told me this, being that Thomas has had his heart broken before. Last weekend Thomas decided to set up a double date so I could meet "The One". Early on in the evening I noticed that this guy was very reserved and quiet when it came to interacting with me. So anyways, a few cocktails later we all got into a debate about the U.S. crime rate according to race. He said something to the effect of, " Everything in this country will be better if Beaners and N1ggs were just sent back to where ever they came from". I nearly chocked the olive in my Martini. So, what I'm asking is, is encountering a racist homosexual common?

Thomas seems as surprised as I was. Before the convo became a full fledged food fight, my date and I graciously excused ourselves. And as Thomas tells me, he left the Southern "Gentleman" by himself at the restaurant soon after I left. Thomas told him that there was no way in hell that he was going to end our friendship because of his ignorance. Now Thomas doesn't know if he should continue the relationship because many of his friends are Hispanics, Black and Asians. I figured that a gay person would be more understanding because they know what it feels like to be judged because of something you can't control (race, sexual orientation etc.)

Answer 1

I'd like to say that that doesn't happen, or that it doesn't happen often, but...it does. I'm not sure if it's as often or less often than in the straight population, but it's not...rare. That over is a bit odd in generaly, but there are numerous and plenty racist gay people. I don't get it either. :(

It IS a major block between two Movements that could potentially be allies, as well as discouraging to many potential activists: the Queer Movement is largely seen as a white movement. And, in many ways, I completely understand that. They want to shove an image of two white lesbians with 2.5 kids living in suburbia in an attempt to "normalize" for people, but that's not the full picture. I could ramble for a couple hours, but the short answer is: an overt, slur-throwing PERSON is obviously going to be more rare than someone who in general holds racist attitudes, but no, they're not unheard of.

Answer 2

I have never encountered that. It's probably where he is from. It is an excellent reason not to date people from the South. Most homosexuals I have encountered are some of the most caring and accepting people I've known.

What did Thomas say when his "One" said that? Did he just let it slide? That was incredibly inappropriate and if they really want to have a respectful relationship Thomas should tell him that that sort of comment is never appropriate.

Answer 3

A word to the wise, one greatest racial weapons is to try to make or make someone homosexual/gay it is one of the oldest methods of racial demoralization since the introduction of slavery to the west, one of the best ways to mentally deconstruct any human being is to in fact is turn his head , it has been known for racist ideologies sterilize and try to prevent non-white cultures from procreating , during the course of history there have been documented cases of non-white people have attempts made to turn them homosexual/gay this has also been depicted in movies where the black or white person have been sexually abused for interracial relationships or interracial friendships, in actual fact it was a white pride/power ideologist who said and I quote: If any persons not white supports white power, they should expect to be abused, I am not saying all are racist no and the choice not to date a white woman or a black woman is not a sign of racism, on another note the reasons these abuse scenes are in movies is because they are an actual practice of life, example American History X, Ozz Prison series, A Time To Kill, Paris Trout, to name but a few depictions of real life, saying this none of what is introduced to the human mind can be permanent and it is only a matter of time since they are simply prolonging the inevitable, once you free yourself of these people all will be as before you will be loving your woman and giving her your and beware jealousy is the oldest thing and the original sin, juts remember it all lies.

Answer 4

damn, that's a good question, but although i can see your point, i think you are focusing on the wrong thing. I mean don't focus on the fact that he is a racist homosexual, focus on the fact that you might want to mention or bring this to your friends mind before he decides to spend his life with this guy based on the fact that he may not know him as well as he thinks. Then if he decides that the racist views didn't bother him, then bring up that question to your friend, ya know?

Answer 5

Sadly ignorance is universal. People have a tendency to forget their own struggles with identity when faced with the opportunity to put another down. Or maybe they figure since there are people out there who are hurtful to them for who they are they can return the favor to another person. Either way it's sad. My conclusion is people are lame and inconsiderate and rude.

Answer 6

Pick any element of society and you are bound to find a distasteful attitude in amongst it.

I would like to think that there would be proportionately fewer racists among a population of homosexuals - simply because they know what it is like to face prejudicial criticism - but yes they do exist.

Answer 7

Being a racist has nothing to do with ones sexual orientation. If you are a racist, you usually blame other people for your misfortunes and you have fear and hate in your heart instead of love and understanding.

Answer 8

In my experience, homosexuals are very accepting of others of all backgrounds. After all, they are often first hand victims of discrimination and know how it feels. In any case, though, hatred of any kind - no matter who it comes from is intolerable. I wonder how your friend reacted to the inappropriate comments of "the One."

Answer 9

To be truthful, I've never met a racist homosexual. I mean at least as far as I could determine.

Answer 10

Gay folks are as diverse as any other group you could pick. I'd think it's less likely, given what most of us have experienced. But anything is possible....