My Mom is cheating, what should I do?

Question

Hi!! Well for the past couple months my mom has been going out lately which she never used to do, then she got her own cell phone and I was like cool. I was happy that she was having fun for once. I wasn't suspicious at all until I would hear her talk on the phone with men, and she'd call them baby or say "I wish I could say more" or she'd say "You too baby" . But that was just part of it. I didn't think much of it. There's so many other clues.... I can't even list them all
like.. today she had a day off of work. Then she tells me "Um sweetie I have to go to work today cuz they need me and Mary isn't there and blah blah blah..." so about 2 hours later I call her work and ask for her, and they tell me she isn't there...she makes very ellaborate lies up
Another thing is, I think I've met the guy she's "hanging out" with. She tells me to never tell my dad about him. Hmmmm
Anyways, please don't tell me that this is none of my business because I'm worried about my Mom and my family. Thnx

Answer 1

Honey it is very definitely your business to worry, but unfortunately as a child there isn't much you can do for your parents. If your mom is having an affair, it's VERY unfortunate that you have to know about it, I'm sure that hurts. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your mom, if talking about it with her is an option. If not, see if your school has a counselor you can talk to your call the teen hotline at 1-800-992-9239. What ever you do, try not to hate your mom, I'm sure there is some reason why she feels she needs to do what she's doing and you really don't know all of the details. Good luck and you can talk to me whenever you want, my email and IM aren't blocked so if ever you want to talk, just send me a message.

Answer 2

I think you might want to have a "heart to heart" talk with your Mom about this problem. Tell her that you think that there might be something going on that is not good for the entire family and you don't know what to do about it. She will (or should) ask what you mean, and then you can start by asking her if she is having an affair and go on to talk about how you are worried about a family split, or other things like that. You could also talk to a counsellor and get their opinion (even one of those toll-free numbers where you don't need to give your real name or anything) This sounds like it is bothering you and you need to talk about it to someone, preferably your Mom. There might be some other perfectly normal explanation for what she is doing, but give her the chance to tell you before you make some assumption or accusation based on your feelings and not true facts. Good luck!

Answer 3

I'm not going to say 'don't worry about it', but I am going to say 'stay out of it'. This is not your business. If you have a concern or a suspicion, then you need to talk to your Mom. Tell her what you are thinking, and how you feel, then drop it. Whatever goes on between your Dad and Mom is their business, not their childs.
This happened to me when I was 19, and the hardest thing for me was to think that my Mom was a separate person and not this goddess I had thought she was. It was a long drop to reality, but I realize it's true; parents have a relationship that is not something kids can understand.
Be honest with your Mom, but don't say hurtful things. I don't know how old you are but try to realize your parents are adults and make mistakes, just like the rest of us!

Answer 4

You really do just need to talk to your Mom. I would not tell you it is none of your business, for you were concerned enough to ask for help, about your Mom, your life and family. And remember, there are two sides to every story, keep this in mind when you talk to your Mom.

Answer 5

listen i know this is hard for you it is none of your business that is true but you have been put in the middle i would hint around to your dad if i was you he has the right to know but find out on his own what is going on you should give little bits of info and let him figure it out like say when you were talking to mama today ....... when you hear her say Honey or what ever she says good luck maybe you should talk to her to and let her know you know and that your daddy ant stupid either

Answer 6

ok FIRST how did you comprehend she is devious? Did you look them having sex or in simple terms kissing? in case you believe you studied them having sex sit down both your mom and ad down and say "dad I absolutely have some thing undesirable to allow you to comprehend, I observed mom in mattress with yet another guy". in case you believe you studied them kissing then tell your dad on my own and say "dad I observed mom kissing yet another guy i do not comprehend if it means some thing yet i assumed you should comprehend".

Answer 7

wow! you need to have a heart to heart with your mother (without your father around). you need to tell her how concerned you are. then you should have you, your mom and dad all talk it out. good luck!!