2007-03-01 06:33:51 · 35 answers · asked by blondie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He ought to at least once a day....if he does indeed love you. Sit him down and talk..............see what the problem is before it gets bigger. You might be surprised!
2007-03-01 06:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being the hopeful romantic that I am, I say it at least twice a day! Definitely right before we go to sleep, for we never know if we don't wake. The other would be sometime during the day. Usually when she is standing at the bathroom sink readying for work or at the kitchen sink preparing for dinner, I would come up from behind and wrap my arms around her and hug while whispering to her so. A relationship needs that kind of feed to sustain a healthy and happy lifestyle. I did it for 7+yrs prior to marriage and for 10+yrs everyday since. It only makes the heart grow stronger and happier knowing that someone can care so much for you in such a way. Even after so many years, I will always feel like a newlywed to her and for her!
I hope you will reach the same level of euphoria one day with your own. =)
2007-03-01 07:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by indyhype 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust him you should not be too concerned. What does he say when you tell him I Love You? Is he affectionate with you? If he is acting like he always has towards you in every other way, I would just be patient and then after a little while I would talk to him about it. I have been married 30 years and we say it every day but sometimes that much frequency comes with time. Be patient honey and continue to trust your husband unless he gives you reason not too! Best wishes and love to you both!
2007-03-01 06:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't love you this week. (lol) It's nice to hear isn't it? When was the last time HE heard it? How does he show you he loves you?
You want love? Pick a day in the week (its unexpected) to farm the kids out somewhere, take the day off work, cook something or pick up a meal, put it in a roaster, in the oven to keep warm.
Polish yourself up; chill the wine and turn on YOUR heater. When he comes home and sits down put your arms around him and say, "dinner is going to be ready soon... do you want dessert first?"
At random, anytime, anywhere, throw yr arms around him and tell him you're so glad to have a great man like him in your life.
Guaranteed: I bet you will get it back in truckloads for a long time coming...
Contact my page and let me know if I win the bet!
2007-03-01 06:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by choose happiness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are good at expressing emotion like that. My husband tells me at least once a day, but some men NEVER say it because they were raised in an environment where it's just assumed the wife knows.
What has been the norm for him in the past?
2007-03-01 06:41:41 · answer #5 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally do not think that it is a big deal.
Mine would tell me he loved me every night before he went to sleep and several times throughout the day, or whenever he went out the door. Since I was raised in a family that did not speak our feelings, I felt creepy every time he said it more than once a day. I learned to adjust, but I know that alot of people are uncomfortable SAYING it frequently, and others are uncomfortable HEARING it frequently.
I guess this is one of those that is what YOUR relationship dictates.
2007-03-01 06:53:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a norm, every couple's relationship is different. It's more important that he show you that he loves you, than to just say the words. If he was telling you he loved yuo a lot, then quit, just ask him what's up. Don't sound accusing, just remind him that it makes you feel warm and fuzzy insude when he says the three magic words. But remember, actions speak louder than words!
2007-03-01 06:48:20 · answer #7 · answered by georgiagrits1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The norm!? Girl, your in for a rude awakening! There is no norm but the one that society drills into you with all the romantically inclined BS you are fed from day one! If you're concerned now, just wait for when you will be lucky enough to hear it every two years.
I have been married 20 years and although my wife's typical female brain still wants to hear those words, what I have done, and still do, through my concrete actions more than amply demonstrates my love for her and she is satisfied to hear them whenever I say them.
Get used to it and concentrate more on his actions and not what comes out of his mouth, for we are known to utter such things just to keep from hearing so much flack!
2007-03-01 06:44:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
All the Time
2007-03-01 06:39:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no norm it should be natural thing to say. and shown in a natural way.
however if his pattern of behavior has changed then you should enquire if there is anything that is wrong, so to catch the problem if there is one early.
a woman has a seventh sense and normally they are quite accurate in there feelings, dont leave it for too long.
speake to him, let him know how you are feeling and try to resolve it as quick as possible so you and your husband can move forward.
good luck
2007-03-01 06:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by Adolf R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every person is different. Have you still been telling him that you love him? If so, how does he respond? When you are talking to him, GENTLY bring up that you like hearing the words "I love you" and mention that he hasn't been saying them to you quite as often. Allow this to be the opening.
2007-03-01 06:40:12 · answer #11 · answered by Tara S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋