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Ok, I have a 12 year old that is interested in boys already! ~faint~ A boy who is a year older than her 'asked her out' and now they are known as a 'couple'. This worries me for the simple fact that I didn't even think about boys until I was about 14 or 15. Before then, I just wanted to play and hang out with my friends.

Kids now are trying to be so adult, they have no idea how precious childhood is. :(

Also, my daughter and her 'boyfriend' so far have only talked on the phone and hung out a little at the mall and the park once. How can I keep her from moving too fast? I have had the 'talk' with her already. Thanks everyone.

2007-03-01 06:30:01 · 16 answers · asked by sarah2282005 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting Adolescent

*edit* Thanks all for your great answers and for the one that said 'forbid her to date' no, I don't think that is going to work! LOL

2007-03-01 06:49:08 · update #1

16 answers

At 12 a date in my opinion should be at the most a bowling game with the parents involved. I guess Im just old school but my 12 year old is not a father or sexually active.

IMHO

2007-03-01 08:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by momof3 6 · 2 0

As society and the media change so will the age of "firsts" first crush, first boyfriend, first kiss. As a parent this might seem scary however it is important to talk to her not only about the basic sexual education but also when to know to back off. Believe it or not many teenage relationships are becoming abusive. It is important to teach your daughter that she has every right to say no and stop when she isn't comfortable with something. You should also make sure she has the resources to look things up when she is too embarrassed to talk to/ ask you about something.

A great book for this is "Our Bodies Ourselves- The Boston Women's Health Book Collective.

There are also plenty of helpful websites such as:

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/

http://www.scarleteen.com/

Also about the dating issue... There is no real way to go around it. I would just try to be as supportive as possible of your daughter and let her know you are there whenever she needs you.

Hope this helps!

2007-03-01 21:24:19 · answer #2 · answered by artisdestiny 2 · 0 0

My parents use to let me go to the movies with boys when i was that age. I would invite 2 friends and have him bring 2 friends and we would met at the movie theater and my parents would pick us up right after the movie. The most i did at that age is hold hands. at that age kids are just interested in the idea of having a boyfriends/girlfriend. I wouldn't worry unless she is trying to be alone with him.

2007-03-01 14:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by melly12 2 · 0 0

Kids these days start getting interested in guys around the age of ten, sometimes nine. I'm thirteen, and my cousin is ten and she's already prank calling guys saying she's seveteen.

There's nothing you can do to stop her from moving to fat, these days everything a parent or teacher says doesn't effect our judgement. Like for example, I have a friend whos already 'done it' no matter what her parents told her and the teachers at school. Unless you want to baracade her from the world, shes going to do what she wants.

2007-03-01 15:38:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I am 27 years old and had my first "boyfriend" at 12 as well. He asked me to "go-out" with him and at that time all that meant was holding hands during recess and he'd buy me a light-up Rose at the skating rink on Saturdays, hahaha. My parents never allowed him to come over and I was not permitted to go to his house. We were allowed to see each other at school and school sponsored activities only. I think we ended up "going out" for about a month and then broke up. I think what she's doing is totally normal and would guess the rest of her friends are also going out with someone or waiting for her to break up with him so they can go out with him, haha. I wouldn't worry too much about it. It seems like you are very aware of what's going on in your daughter's life and can step in quickly if you don't like what she's doing. Good Luck!

2007-03-01 14:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by krista_focus 2 · 0 0

I think it is great.. as long as you both can be open with one another all the time, there should not be a problem. And since you have had the talk.. it should be really easy for you both to stay open with one another. I think it is healthy. Just make an effort to meet his parents and see how they feel about the relationship also. As long as it does not become.. a thing where she has to see him all the time.. then it should be fine.

2007-03-01 15:05:56 · answer #6 · answered by luvthbaby2 4 · 1 0

i was 12 when i first liking boys and most people had started a while before me.....ahhhh dominique leturgeon...(he was french!!) and he was 13...though i'm pretty sure no matter how much i liked this guy...i wouldn't have went out with him...a bit young...this was 4 years ago

don't worry, i don't think she will do anything stupid (i hope) but just keep an eye on her.

2007-03-01 14:46:19 · answer #7 · answered by Wibb 2 · 0 0

I think what they're doing now is the most I would let them do unsupervised. Pretty much the same things you'd let them do with friends. I definitely think 12 is too young for an actual "dating" relationship.

2007-03-01 14:34:29 · answer #8 · answered by a heart so big 6 · 1 0

it seems to be getting younger and younger. You need to tell her that she is still very young, and that she has her whole life ahead of her. I wouldnt try and keep her from this boy, but try to get updates about the relationship. They are young so it is probably going to be very inocent. Im asuming that kissing is going to happen, but nothing like sex. I dont think that you have to much to worry about!

=D

2007-03-01 14:45:54 · answer #9 · answered by Catlin 2 · 0 0

you should let her learn but dont let her get out of control..if you hold on to tight she will become out of control let her have some freedom tell her that one night out of the week then can go out together and maybe another night hang out at your house and watch a movie like movie night and date night then she will see your tring to be your mom and freind and she will love you even more for leting her do this.but let her now what she can an can not do.... goood luck!!!!

2007-03-01 14:35:47 · answer #10 · answered by MOMMY2BEWITH#1 2 · 0 0

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