Why is that even though it seems (having grown up in the south) that everyone thinks being gay is wrong? I understand the religious part..but I have known that I was not attracted to girls the same way my friends were since I can remember...even before I knew what it was..or that there was a whole group of people like me...actually to be hones at the time, I didnt even really think of it being wrong, untill middleschool when it became clear..very clear by everyone elses name calling. Now at 22, I have a better grasp on who I am..but really have the big question of...how can it be wrong? Am I just brainwashed and truly it is wrong...and I am going to hell because I didn't go with good judgment? or is there really no hell, and I have to live life like it is suppose to be..being a good person..honest, loving,...but loving all people..even guys.?...any thoughts? ps sorry its so long..just alot of thoughts coming out.
2007-03-01 06:28:14 · 17 answers · asked by A&F8629 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
There is Nothing wrong with you or your feelings!
This is the way you are, you were born this way!
No, there is no hell.
We all return to God (he/she) is the main source of energy.
Don't let religious fanatics ruin your life, or dictate to you how YOU should feel and behave. Only You can do that. Follow your own heart, soul and mind.
2007-03-01 06:35:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 4⤋
First, I really want to let you know, I felt the same way for a while.
I can't tell you if it is right or wrong for you. A lot of the points you bring up are up to your own deep, moral and spiritual beliefs. I can only tell you what I believe, and I hope that this will help.
In many places, people will say something is wrong simply because it is different to the norm. For a long timme, black people were "Wrong". Women being equal was "Wrong". And in many places, being gay is "Wrong". Usually, the people telling you want is wrong are the ones who are wrong. Decide for yourself. And, yes, you have been brainwashed to think it is wrong. Mass concensus forms personal attitudes.
Hell is your own spiritual belief. I believe people are sorted between heaven and hell by whether they try to be good or evil. so IMO, as long as you are trying to be a good person, you will go to heaven. If you do things you believe will send you to hell, then you are being evil and will go to hell. But I don't believe Homosexuality is wrong, and I doubt you will be sent to hell for it. Be a good, loving, caring person, and you'll ascend.
So think about if you are trying to be a good person, and if you really feel being gay is wrong. I could tell you it's all ok, but you wouldn't take that as truth. Decide for yourself.
2007-03-01 06:54:59 · answer #2 · answered by Xavier 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong. You are on a journey just as the rest of us. There will be a great deal of discovery. You do what you feel is true and right in your heart. No one knows any more or any better than you do about who will and will not be judged and whether or not heaven and hell exist. Live your own truth.
You already know some of who you are and what your path will be - the rest is yet to come. Try not to meet it with such anxiety, but welcome it. Self-acceptance is difficult for everyone. But, you will get closer as the years progress.
2007-03-01 06:40:37 · answer #3 · answered by jocelynt27 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Catholic Catechism 101. Who made you? "God made me."
So who on earth can pass judgment on what God made?
If you can show love to another, then love - that will never be wrong.
Regardless of what the established Churches say, in their interpretations and re-interpretations of mistranslated words, from languages no longer spoken, comprising stories that were long time spoken only (anyone ever hear of Chinese Whispers?)
God is Love and if you can reflect that in any small way to someone else (man or woman) then you can't be doing wrong.
2007-03-01 06:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is not "wrong".
As long as you truly like guys, and are not reacting to some early event or messages that make you 'think' you do, or that you, personally, 'should'. (kind of complicated, but it does happen to some children).
Homosexuality is simply wrong according to some people, as you yourself say. Look, there are even religions that have taught that HETEROSEXUALITY is wrong, like the 19th century Shakers!
There are religions out there which do not condemn homosexuality, that even support Pride events. Or have no thought on the matter one way or another.
2007-03-01 06:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by Lawrence 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-02 05:01:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to love another man. Just live your life and don't worry about those who are judgmental.
2007-03-01 07:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by jasgallo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people have been taught to hate by their families, others by their churches. No matter who teaches you to hate, hating others for being exactly as God made them - whether that is LGBT or straight - is wrong.
If such a hater claims to be a "christian," is is also hypocritical.
Neither inborn, natural orientation is more "right" than the other - they are both just human variations. Love between consenting adults is never wrong, and is never a sin.
2007-03-01 06:33:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋
Being who you are and loving people is not wrong. Be true to yourself and love yourself. Your sexual orientation does not matter. Love is all that matters.
2007-03-01 06:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by Kharm 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question by admitting that it's wrong. GOD stated homosexuality is an abomination and that is correct. There is no way you will be able to carry on life and therefore it shouldn't be. If you can tell me that what you feel for guys has nothing to do with sex, then I can believe that you were born that way. The problem is, you can't truthfully admit it has nothing to do with sex and therefore it's wrong. You need to understand that having sex is only for creating life. You won't be able to do that. You know that your lifestyle is wrong and you will have to deal with that come judgement day. We all will have to answer for ourselves on that day. Until then, I would suggest you read the Holy Bible and open your heart to GOD. It's never too late to repent of your sins. In Jesus name, AMEN.
2007-03-01 06:38:03 · answer #10 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 6⤋