my niece lives with me and i have smacked her face tonight i feel so guilty. She is 12 years old and i found out she has been smoking that is not what she got her face smacked for tho i have since found out she and her sister (whos 14 and lives with her nan) and a few of her other friends were outside this house and the lady what lives there came out and asked them to be quiet because her baby is in bed which is very poorley and waiting for and op and my niece told this poor woman to f--k off and get beck in her house do you think ive over reacted im so annoyed she is in her bedroom grounded now for 2 weeks x
2007-03-01 06:04:15 · 14 answers · asked by andrea.barrett36 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i do regret smacking her face but she was so smug about it
2007-03-01 08:31:48 · update #1
and she lied to my face even tho she knew i had found out what she had done
2007-03-01 08:32:52 · update #2
No, you did not overreact. I think you underreacted, personally...
2007-03-01 06:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by polarbear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could have with-held the slapping, but twelve years old! That is a shame if I ever heard one. She deserved every bit of it. Maybe she should see a school counceller. If she is cooperative (seems not) develop some kind of system so she will watch her language. And I would ground her until she improved. And I would make her apologize to the poor woman. This girl needs to get in line, she's lucky you're even caring for her. Good luck.
2007-03-01 08:42:00 · answer #2 · answered by ~S~ is for Stephanie! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you did the right thing but i wouldnt have smacked her she needs some discipline maybe counseling and you have to watch who you let your kids hang out with nowadays...when you are around your friends you think it is cool to be rude and arrogant...depends on the friends you choose...there is nothing wrong with trying to fix this problem now because it could get a lot worse in the future and i know this is harder because it is not your own flesh and blood and you dont feel like youa re in the position to be doing this...but you have taken the responsiblitly and she might learn some good from what you do...good luck
2007-03-01 06:10:46 · answer #3 · answered by LUCKYGIRL 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you didn't over react. I got whoppings when i younger than that. I'm 15 now and if I was a mom/aunt/grandma, I would've done the same thing. A lot of people don't agree with that but that's because they rather send their kids to their room or take away privileges when the fact is they laugh at that stuff, its really pathetic, one good smack isn't abuse.
2007-03-01 07:24:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel so guilty. I agree that violence isn't the way to go but you probably acted out of impulse. At least your niece now knows you won't tolerate her rudeness and disrespect.
Grounding her is a great punishment, as long as she doesn't have tv, phone, radio, computer, etc. in there.
Forgive yourself. We all do things we regret. Hopefully you both learned from this.
2007-03-01 07:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you did not overreact, you had every right to do what you did and personally i think she deserved it. No youngster should ever speak to an elder like that.....I would walk with my child over their and make her apologize for what she said. As for the grounding you did the right thing i would make sure that child has nothing in her room. What my mother did to us when we were younger was ground us to our room for weeks straight could not step foot out of the bedroom unless we were going to school or the bathroom and she made us right a 3000 word note saying exactly what we did or said over and over and over again, then she gave us chore after chore, i mean we had to clean the house from top to bottom....
When my mother caught me smoking, she made me suck on a bar of soap or she would poar liquid soap in my mouth and make me sit their for an hour, once she even made me EAT a pack of cigarretts...
2007-03-01 06:19:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kasja 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You didnt over react, your neice shouldnt be treating others like that, she needs 2 start respecting those around her. If i were you, i would have grounded her for more then just 2 weeks and if that dont work then i would send her to boot camp for a while if that dont help any. Good Luck!
2007-03-01 06:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by tommi_ghurl_2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that violence is not the way to solve the problem, but what is done is done. When you've both had time to calm down, sit down and talk with her. First talk about the lack of respect that she showed your neighbor. Ask her why she made the comment. The smoking is a different issue. One that I recommend you get help with. Maybe check into some free family counseling. You would both benefit.
2007-03-01 06:13:30 · answer #8 · answered by NaturalPhotos 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah, thats crossing the line. hell, i would've got a lot worse for something like that. 12 year olds shouldn't be talking to adults like that. Seems like she has some serious discipline issues that you need to fix. That was really uncalled for. Even at 17, I would never say anything like that to an adult, much less in that situation.
2007-03-01 08:32:57 · answer #9 · answered by milan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't over react. now for me i wouldn't hit her cuz that would only teach her to hit her children or other People when they do something wrong. but i would definitely ground her, with nothing in her room but a bed,bed sheets and her clothes. that was not right coming from her. she should not of been so rude to that lady. i would make her go apologize to that lady.
2007-03-01 07:14:52 · answer #10 · answered by wonderbunny22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no u didn't overreact! that was totally on called for behavior and u did right by addressing it now while shes still young enough for u to discipline effectively if u let her do that kind of thing now it will only get worse to where u cant help her u did fine good luck
2007-03-01 06:14:58 · answer #11 · answered by ** 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋