Losing virginity before marriage is right or wrong?

Answer 1

it is absolutely wrong.
those who keep their virginity never regret and benefit alot later.
keep your virginity and you shall never regret.

Answer 2

It can go both ways depending on the situation. I lost my virginity to my first husband before our wedding. He turned out to be abusive and controlling. Now I am waiting to be married before I am sexually active again. I think that you need to wait until there is a certain level of commitment before you should be sexual with the person you are involved with. You should definately wait to get to know the person on all other levels first. Get to spend time together as friends, then take the next step that feels right for you.

Answer 3

I think that if you are old enough to handle what might happen after you have sex with someone (baby) then you can do what ever you want to.

Personally I don't have a right or wrong value to this. The reason is because most people now a days aren't virgins when they get married. I think that as long as you don't carry a front like tell your parner that you are a virgin and your not or vice versa and they are ok with that then I don't think it matters.

By some relgion standards it is wrong for a person to have sex out of wed lock..the reason is because sex is suppose to be just to make babies. I know that of some religions say it is a sin to have sex while pregnant because you have already made a baby and any sex while pregnant is just for your own personal gradification. O_o

I also know that some countries it is still allowable for the parents to cut off there daughters down there parts...*sorta like a boy having a cercimsizion* so that they will get no pleasure out of sex and that they know that the purpose for sex is just to have children.

I read that in a story once....and the woman who it was about was to be sold for i think it was 10 goats or something like that.

Anyway my point is I don't think that it matters. Though I think that pre marital sex should at least wait until you are able to take care of a baby. Mostly because so many "children" are having sex and having babies that the parents of the child or the grandparents end up taking care of it because they can't get a job..ect...

In todays world it is almost the norm to have pre marital sex...I have met alot of women who aren't married to there babies dad but they are in a serious relationship. They tell me that they don't want to get married because everything is perfect as it is. Most of them now are common law marrages anyway.

I suppose mostly it is because marrage is seen as a trap in todays world because most marrages don't work out anymore..at least not in the US were we have such a high divorce rate. I mostly blame that upon people getting married to soon and not realizing what they are getting into ....

Marriage is a life time commentment and should not be taken lightly. It should only be between 2 people that wholly and completely love each other and truly want to spend the rest of their lives together. I also don't think marriage should just be between a man and woman but that is a whole other converstation.

So with that said. I think that sometimes sex before marrage is nessasary considering It is nothing to be taken lightly..and if you just want to have a one night stand you don't want to have to get married for it considering that would be pointless and alot of people will get hurt in the end.

Also...If a guy/girl is just with you for sex..then you don't need to be with them...If a guy/girl is just with you because you aren't going to give them sex before marrage..then you don't need to be with them..and if a guy/girl is trying to force you to have sex before marrage and you don't want to then you don't need to be with them.

If you are with someone that truly loves you then none of this matters and they will understand that. The issue might arise but it will die as soon as it is born. If not then you don't need to be in that relationship anymore.

That is my thoughts on that.

Answer 4

To each his own. I personally don't think its wrong, but some people do and I respect their opinion. I am just aware that some people who wait until marriage to sleep with their partner are very disappointed after the marriage takes place, its kind of like buying a car first without test driving it to make sure you like it. Some people aren't sexually compatible. Just my opinion though.

Answer 5

Personally, I would think it's right. I can't think of anything worse than marrying someone and finding out they aren't any good in bed. What a failure that would eventually be. Why go through all that heartache and eventual divorce simply because you are sexually incompatible when you could have found out way before the marriage?

That is my own personal opinion anyway.

Answer 6

Neither... It's like asking if eating dessert before dinner is right or wrong. Some people can handle it and enjoy the heck out of it, others not so much. There's no wrong answer.

Answer 7

Personally I think it's RIGHT. reason being is that you can please your partner better having sexual experience then getting into a serious commitment and not knowing what you are doing. I heard there is a certain country (won't mention which one) that it's the LAW that you can't marry as a virgin..I kid you not! Also I think that you should have several sexual encounters with the person you are going to marry before you actually do...this way you know better if you want to or not.

Answer 8

i would say no. to be honest i use to feel that way, but then my sister told me that sex is not a sin, and it's not wrong. she told me that giving of yourself to someone that you really care for and you would like to share your most precious possession with is never wrong. It's like sharing a piece of yourself and them sharing a piece of their self with you. Not only that but it is possible to be attracted to and care for someone on an extreme level where you want to be with them physically but not be right for them when it comes to the rest of your life. it happens. how many people do you know that got married and it was their first and only person, and they stayed married for like 30 years, then got divorced. so is it wrong for them to have the need to be physical with someone else after their partner of 30 years possibly decided they no longer want you based on your life together and not on the physical? Life is too short. i'm not saying sleep with everyone. I;m saying that i think it is something that religions and society made up to keep everyone under control, and so that we don't get diseases. oh, and what about the people who get raped? good point, great question.

Answer 9

Virginity is only related to marriage if you are religious. So the answer depends on your religious beliefs.

Answer 10

It is not necessarily a question of right or wrong but a question of what your personal choice is. If you are old enough to make a well informed decision and chose to safely have sex then that is your business.

Answer 11

if you loose your virginity before marriage, it is really your choice. if a man you are going to marry get upset or anything then he lives in an unrealistic world.