My bf at the time confided in me that he wanted to commit suicide and has thought this out, he didnt want to be here anymore and did not want to live anymore. I told him he needed professional help and you would even go as far as to make an appt w/ a doctor and go with him. But he declined and only wanted to confide in me. I felt he was genuine and tried to help him. He would tell me every other day that he was going ot go thru with it. Around when he would plan it. Sometimes he would feel so badly, he would hang up the phone and not answer when I called back, made me panick and have anziety attacks. He told me he purchased cianide over the internet. Well, after I helped him and talked him through his "depression", he left me to be with someone else. He was so cold and hurtful to me, how does SOMEONE do this??? Becuase if his behavior, I had to seek a therapist, because I didnt know people like this existed. He seemed like he desperatly needed my help, and now walks around like he was
2007-03-01 05:21:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
never suicidal, and what he put me through was nothing. I feel he messed with me head emotioanlly and mentally. I want him to pay for what he did to me. I cant seem to get over t, its been 8 months since then. I was with him for 2 yrs. IF he used me, it was the CRUELEST WAY to do it. He is a 29 yr old teacher and is very attractive and I THOUGHT he was just someone with a good heart but needed comfort. I dont look to be a "hero" in realtionships. I feel he layed this burden on me. I could have chosen to walk away, but what if he really did kill himself? I would have been devestated, because I walked away. I dont know how to cope now, and I dont trust anyone anymore.:(((
2007-03-01 05:25:11 · update #1
BTW, when I tried to confront him, he would not want to talk to me and finally he left me a message and told me if I need help to get it from a pychologist!! After all I did for him.:(
2007-03-01 05:43:33 · update #2
yeah.. that sucks big donkey balls... something like that happened to me too, and i tried to help him also, but the one that was being more affected was me... so after a year of this... he came with the same story.. im going to kill my self.. but this time.. i told him if u need help i will do it.. and he never bothered me again.. and he is not dead... and i heard he has been doing the same with other chiks.. so.. just take this experience to learn from it... and try to get over a person that didnt deserve you. Good luck!
2007-03-01 05:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by Maniaka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is teaching kids...now that is really scary. I am sorry he did this to you. my guess is the depression he said he was facing was because he didn't want to be with you any more and didn't know how to tell you.
If you really want to get back at him though here is the best way to do it. I would have gay magazines sent to the school that he teaches at in his name of course. It might cost you 20 or thirty bucks but it is worth every penny I would even send some to his house so his girlfriend see them and gets mad. Send a few different ones like sex toys and stuff like that he may even get fired over it. But you can never ever let him know it was you that sent them. As far as getting over him..only time will do that for you sweetie .It will get better in time and I hope you meet a great guy because you are such a sweet and caring person ..you really deserve it. Good Luck!!
momof4
2007-03-01 13:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by mary3127 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I would be grateful that he is no longer with me. When you spend so much time carrying someone else's baggage, it gets harder to deal with your own. I know this from personal experience. You are doing the right thing in getting help for yourself. Stop and think about the relationship you had. He put you in a position that made you carry his burdens without the power to help. I wouldn't be surprised if some of his cries for attention were simply another way to keep you focused on him. Let him out of your life. You will be better off in the long run. Find someone new to create a healthy relationship with.
2007-03-01 13:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by NaturalPhotos 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I admire you. I'm waiting on an answer to this question, because I sure don't know. I think he manipulated you and mentally abused you, but why, I don't know. Obviously, he has a lot of hate and resentment built up in him or he's not hooked together right mentally. You are blessed to be rid of him. Forgive him and thank him for making you a stronger person. For your own sake, let it go.
Oh Sweetie, let it go. Leave his punishment to the Lord. The best way to "punish" him is to put on a happy face and act like your **** don't stink around him and anyone who knows him. Let it go. Don't give him the satisfaction of knowing what he's put you through.
2007-03-01 13:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by Darby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What he did to u was really mean but u need to get oer it it might be hard but try to. Get a new man and try to forget about it that might be the only way to get through the rest of your life without worrying! And plus now he is all better and acts all normal maybe he didnt use u maybe u actually helped him! U need to stop worrying for your own good. And hes probably thinking your so sad because u need him and that makes him feel good. U need to show him and yourself ur strong enough to get over him and what happened!!!!!!! BEE HAPPY!
2007-03-01 13:34:15 · answer #5 · answered by chick180 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not actually sure what your question is, but if you are looking for general advice on how to deal with this siutation, I would say 1) continue your sessions with a qualified therapist, because he or she will have better things to tell you than anyone on this forum; 2) cut off all contacts with this guy, who sounds like an abusive, soul-sucking jerk; and 3) try to move on as best you can and find something positive to do and concentrate on. Best of luck- sounds like a very tough situation.
Also - keep in mind that those who truly love you will never depend on you utterly as their sole source of support, love, and energy. They will realize how much this would drain you and look inside themselves, and in other people, for support, as well as trying to provide you with the love and support you require. Even depressed people who love you are capable of doing this - you are not required to be in a relationship in which you give and give, and they take and take and never give back. That's not love, that's using you. Those sort of people need to get help from professionals.
2007-03-01 13:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by somebody 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Unfortunately there are people in this world like him. But, you should be proud of yourself for trying to help him through it whether he appreciates it or not. You did the right thing and that's what really matters, isn't it? I know it hurts and feels like a betrayal, but hold onto the fact that you are a good person and you can feel good about yourself for being such a caring individual.
2007-03-01 13:26:37 · answer #7 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When he was with you he was a whole different person.Now that he is better he is completely different.He wanted you then but now that his life has turned around he may feel that he must move on to be happy in life.someone who is so depressed may want things but when they recover they no longer want those things.I hope you understand what Im saying.It`s hard to think of the right way to word this.I know you feel hurt real bad but you can always have the pride of knowing that you saved a life.
2007-03-01 13:34:09 · answer #8 · answered by darlene100568 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's extremely mentally ill and it is a shame you got caught up in the situation. Frankly I feel sorry for his new girlfriend. That girl did you a favor - be glad that this has ended and you can move on.
2007-03-01 13:25:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just attention seeking. He was faking it to make you feel sorry for him. The guy is a manipulative asshole from what I can tell. Forget about him he's not worth it.
2007-03-01 13:26:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋