My boyfriend's ex wife is always calling and harrassing us and making threats...her latest one is that she is going to press charges for putting pictures of his daughter and him on my myspace website which btw is set to private for only friends and family to observe...she also has allowed his daughter to have a myspace site and she is only 11..and has falsely said she is 15....Did I do anything wrong???
2007-03-01 05:16:57 · 13 answers · asked by Jennifer H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Firstly, she should probably the correct the age error. If the daughter lives with her mom, then her mom wouldn't dare sue herself for letting her daughter falsify her age. If she lives wither her dad, you should look into the mysace terms & conditions and see what they say.
Secondly, if his ex-wife decides to even try to pursue legal action, it will cost her money and that would just be rediculous. She wants control and she's doing that by using his daughter against him. I very much doubt that she would actually try to sue so don't worry about that. You, your boyfriend and his daughter have a seperate life from hers and she feel threatened, but that's too bad. What I would do is be the bigger person (for his daughters sake because she'll see what you do) and be appropriately agreeable. Don't make concessions and be consistent. When she calls, call her back when you know she won't be home and leave her a message (which she would use if you ever did go to court for anything) that says, simply, "(boyfriend) and I would appreciate if you did not call our residence for any reason other than to discuss (daughter). Thank You." Always end it politely. Then, when she tells you to remove the pictures say "no;" one word that can't be mistaken, but say it politely, and when she says she'll sue (here's the agreeable part), just say "Ok, nice speaking to you." It's 3-fold; (1)the daughter see's you being the bigger person, (2)even if she does tape your conversations or keeps your messages, there isn't anything to use against you (the more you say, the easier it is to mess up-keep it simple) and (3) politeness is the best way to piss someone off...'kill em with kindness.' It works.
2007-03-01 05:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by msannawilson 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not from where I am sitting it seems like your boyfriend's ex needs to get her head on straight. Next time she calls document the call. Both the duration and what was said and take it to the police and charge her with harrassment. Also she is violating the rules of myspace and should be reported.
2007-03-01 05:21:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be jealous and over-protective, but this is her kid we're talking about. You shouldn't post the kid's picture anywhere without the mother's permission.
It's best to act as carefully and as respectfully as possible when it involves other people's kids. If you're in this relationship for the long haul, it's better to have a calm relationship with the ex-spouse, if at all possible. Respect their wishes if they are reasonable.
2007-03-01 05:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by §Sally§ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You are just in a sticky situation, and I know...I am dealing with some pretty similar stuff. She is jealous. It is your boyfriend's job to handle it, not yours on both things...your myspace page and his daughter's. This is NOT your battle. Remember that.
2007-03-01 05:21:55 · answer #4 · answered by Keep It Sane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use of the telephone in any harassing manner is illegal and yes you can press charges and have her locked up for that. Just contact you telephone service provider and also the police.
2007-03-01 06:03:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
screen your calls honey, if she is dumb enough, she will make the threats on your answering machine, and that way you can make a report to the police, if she e-mails, you can show those e-mails as well, if her a.s.s. shows up in your door, have some means as to record that conversation, record and log every type of threat that she does, that way you have enough evidence for the police to do something to help you, or put a restraining order so that she will back the *f up. good luck.
2007-03-01 05:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you didn't do anything wrong... this is a common problem with ex's whether it's male or female... the best thing to do is STAY out of it... Let your boyfriend and his ex deal with their problems by themselves. You don't want to add fuel to the fire and the way she sounds, she will use anything she can against your boyfriend and you don't want to be the one that he can blam for anything.... TRUST ME!!!!
2007-03-01 05:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by ***Girlie Girl*** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's still just insecure and bitter. She will find any stupid way to try and press charges, and knowing how stupid the american justice system is, you might as well take those pictures off and put them up somewhere else, like yahoo photos and name the pictures/albums differently.
2007-03-01 05:22:38 · answer #8 · answered by www.japanvideogames.com 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with one of the respondents on here. It is your boyfriends job to handle this.
2007-03-01 05:26:37 · answer #9 · answered by sickblade 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give her any reason to get the kid taken away,document everything she does to you so you have your proof, maybe she will grow up some day,and leave you guys alone
2007-03-01 05:22:17 · answer #10 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋