My friend dated a guy twice..she met him through eharmony but didn't bother to tell anyone. On the second date, she said she was with a g/f because she was nervous to saying she was with a guy. (her fiance died 2yrs ago) & she didn't want to upset anyone. When confronted with the lie, she tried to tell another one to cover it up, then confessed to lying.
She said last April, she'd tell if anything 'active' was going on. I asked her if she had registered with eharmoney (back in April) she said 'no', now all of this has come out & she has admitted to being registered since last April. On the 2nd date, she spent the night at his place, saying she felt very comfortable & didn't want to drive after drinking (smart idea). I don't know if even that's the whole truth or not. I don't feel as though she's being honest about it, it it could have cost her a valuable friendship with anyone else.
I'd like your opinion. Should be be trusted????
2007-03-01 05:06:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Her late fiance was my best male friend. She said she thought we'd have a hard time dealing with her 'moving on'..but there's never a good reason to lie. Strangely, she was having a hard time with her father's death. She dated the guy on a Monday...her Dad's funeral was Friday, & she was set to date this guy again on the Saturday. She also channels..talking to 'her angels' and consults a psychic on a regular basis. She goes so far to say that her late fiance guides her..and wanted her to register with eharmoney. I knew him very well and he'd never tell her such a thing. Also, this psychic says he's telling her to do it too..and my friend goes along with what the psychic tells her. I think my friend should seek professional counselling. She becomes defensive if you have a different opinion from her regarding this sort of thing. Help!!..what can I do?
2007-03-01 05:10:41 · update #1
Prior to her date on the Saturday night, the guy from eharmony learned his former g/f (he remained friends with her) was terminally ill, and says he needs to put my friend on 'hold'. This is fishy...we all think he dumped her, especially if she talked to him about her 'angels'..etc.
2007-03-01 05:13:44 · update #2
the fact that she lies about things like this means she isn't to be trusted.
Why doesn't she just tell you the truth? There is no reason to keep this secret.
2007-03-01 05:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ask yourself this. Why does your friend feel it necessary to lie about this? It seems that you DO have an issue with her moving on. If you were truly her friend, you would approach this in a different manner. You would be there for her in a supportive fashion, not an accusatory one.
It is always hard when someone loses a loved one, but especially hard when a life was planned with that person. Realize the long road she has travelled and be constructive toward that. Don't chastise her for her foibles, celebrate her achievements.
2007-03-01 05:53:39 · answer #2 · answered by catsovermen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is just exercising her right to her privacy, which is fine. At the risk of offending you, you make yourself sound like a stalker type of person because you are too into her private business. It really doesn't matter what she's doing in her private time. It's her life. She does not have to report her every move to you or even tell you anything. Do you have a life? It sounds like you don't.
2007-03-01 06:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by movedon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't intend to sound rude, but i think you should stay out of her business and stop judging her.Shes gone through enough hardships in her life already. She doesn't owe you an explanation for everyone she dates. It has nothing to do with trust. It has to do with it being none of your business.
2007-03-05 18:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by chicklette0008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say no she shouldn't be trusted unless she can prove that she wont lie to you or anyone else about anything ever again. I know sometimes you have to lie but if you don't have to why lie. So in my opinion, no she shouldn't be trusted.
2007-03-01 05:13:02 · answer #5 · answered by Happily Taken 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say stop asking her about her personal privacy. You seem to want to know everything about your friend. Just observe to your business and leave hers alone then she won't have to lie...
2007-03-01 05:12:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend does need professional help and she needs you to help her out through this difficult time.
2007-03-01 05:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by roxy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure why she would be lieing about dating? for some reason she doesn't want you to know, stay out of it.
2007-03-01 05:12:06 · answer #8 · answered by Question Addict 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i will ask you to be patient with her. give her some time to sort herself out and don't ask about her private life. if she doesn't still change then she shouldn't be trusted.
2007-03-01 05:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by Daisy l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be trusted?no.
To be helped?yes.
She's in a terrible depth of her life.
Be truthful to her and please, guide her.
She seems to lost her direction after all.
2007-03-01 05:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by middle of mind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋