How would you feel if?

Question

you got caught in several shameful lies. And they were exposed to someone you once cared for deeply and not only to that person but to that person't family and friends? Do you think people's lies eventutally catch up with them and make things much worst? Do you think someone such as t his person will have lerned his lesson and also, do you think he will evenutally come clean and apologize for it, because right now he is avoiding those that he hurt the most.

Answer 1

Lies are hard to live with but I know many kinds of liars. Some people are such habitual liars but they are good. They get so caught up in the lie that they actually believe the lie was the truth. These people begin to live the lie. Your friend may be one of those. I have known liars to get caught and they often do not care or wont let themselves care. If your friend is a decent person, he is probably ashamed of what he did and has no idea how to undo the damage. He may need someone to talk to to help him make some plans on repairing these relationships. On the other hand, he may not give a rat's a--. I have known both types; penitent and unpenitant. Try to determine where you think this person is and if you feel like it, try and help.

Answer 2

Once a liar, always a liar. Have you ever heard of a pathological liar? They are the ones who lie so much, that they believe their own lies and try to get other people to believe them too. I think that it is easier for liars to lie again after they get caught, because they're already feeling like fools.

pathalogical liar 23 up, 3 down

A person who lies so often, they start to believe that if they say it then it must be true. And they expect everyone else to believe them as well.

A person who just can't help but tell the exact opposite of what is the truth. You will know that nothing but prefabricated bullshit is coming out of their mouths WHEN THEIR LIPS ARE MOVING! They lie about everything from if they cheated on you to what color the icing was that topped their poptart for breakfast. And they can be perceived as being passionate when telling lies, because along with a fake life of lies comes the job of being an actor. A Pathalogical Liar will even continue to repeatedly tell lies, EVEN after the fact that they DONT DO IT WELL, is pointed out to them time and time again.

Someone who claims they own a boat..and dont...aka the titanic. just a bull **** artist.

One that constantly tells lies

Someone who lies just to hear themselves lie. They tell different stories to the same friends in a group, and expect the group not to find out they lied. They lie to make themselves feel better, and its usually over dumb ****.

Is that enough explanation for you? Don't trust him.

Answer 3

Anyone over 21 has told shameful lies and been exposed. So, don't listen to some of these poeple, like the once a liar always a liar person.

Everybody has lied to someone. Everybody has lied to a lot of people about a lot of things. Some lies are worse, some are not so bad and some are understandable lies. There are degrees in the severity of the lies, only children believe otherwise.

This person is ashamed which is why he is hiding out or hiding away. He has two alternatives. To come clean with all of the people affected by his lies, which I doubt includes an entire family even though the entire family knows about them. That course takes character. Or, he can go about proving he wasn't lying by arranging history to prove him right, or putting into place whatever needs to happen in order for him to be vindicated.

What this person doesn't know is that the character he shows in fessing up will remain with him. It will warm him and comfort him even if this entire family rejects him for what he has done. Also, people like to forgive others for their mistakes, it is human nature to forgive and to lie. It is easy to forgive someone for doing something they themselves have done. We have all lied. If it is just the lie itself that has been exposed, that's one thing. If the lie he told acutally hurt poeple, in a tangible sense, that's something else.

People are people. Actions only have the impact that one allows them to have.

And, finally, everyone is a liar. Human beings cannot abide a void in our knowledge of something so we make up things to fill in the gaps and satisfy our need to know. Any sentence that starts with probably or maybe or I think or well, is followed with pure story, made up, one hundred percent fabrication. Keep that in mind.

I would like to add that pathological liars stand apart from society, they aren't who I am talking about right now. These are dangerous people who ruin lives and are sociopathic in nature.

Answer 4

once a liar, always a liar.

i have a friend who is a habitual liar, he can't help himself, he thrives on deception and concealment, even when there's no need for it. i think it's got to do with being afraid to face reality, and being afraid people won't accept him for who he is, he therefore constructs his own reality and if no one likes it at least their not rejecting him directly.

if someone has been caught in a number of terrible ("shameful") lies then unfortunately there's no hope for them. it takes a particular kind of person to be able to lie that often, and to such an extent.

when people lie the truth often comes out later, so even if you think your lie is a better version of the truth, and even if you had altruistic motives, then the revelation of your deception often outweighs what the lie was about and destroys any trust - showing a liar up as a deceitful woeful individual.

i think that these things often come home to roost, and the habitual liar will come unstuck. you reap what you sew, and if you live by the sword you must be prepared to die by it ... those might be cliches but they're true.

i feel sticking to the truth, no matter how painful, is always the better path as people at least respect you for it and it's usually easier to work through a problem ... the reason being that no matter what you've done people feel that they can at least trust you, which is a major thing.

for example, if you cheat on your wife and tell her then she'll be hurt, but might be prepared to listen to why, and work with you to fix any problems in your relationship ... if you lie about it and she finds out later she'll never listen to a word you say and the relationship will be well & truly over.

Answer 5

I think this guy realizes and knows what he's done.. ( why is avoiding everyone?). Hard to face the ones you lied to, when they now know. Hope he chooses to now, face it and also smarten up with that kind of crap.

Let's hope more do the same, others who choose not to be truthful, may get into the same bind, best to deal with it and get facts straight, then to keep lying and gettin deeper. Come clean and feel better that at least ya don't have That hanging over you.

Life is crazy enuff, then to cause trouble for yourself with your lies.. also WHY is he lying?? yeah time to smarten up, but I can't see him in a hurry to appologize, that's another Big hurdle for him!

Hey he's been caught, let it be now, don't expect too much more from him.

Answer 6

I do think that lying will eventually catch up to you if it's a habit. I'm sure you haven't heard from him because he is ashamed and embarrassed that he got caught in his lies. If he is a good person at heart, he will eventually face those he hurt and apologize. If not, then I would say that he will probably go back to his lying ways. Wait and see what happens.

Answer 7

he might come clean or he might not if you care for the person maybe you should talk to the person. people make mistakes no matter how big or small and too many lies, most of the time, catch up to you..if they dont then in the after life i am sure they will

Answer 8

I think lies eventually catch up with people but, depending on how much of a concience the person had when they started doing it,they may not "come clean."

Answer 9

Lies will always catch up with a person.

Maybe he's avoiding everyone because he's ashamed of himself right now. Give him time, I'm sure he'll come 'round.

Answer 10

This sounds like some sort of personality disorder. If it is, then he'll never be able to overcome it on his own. He will first need to accept that he has a problem (most likely won't). If he can, then he will need to submit himself to intensive and lengthy psychotherapy. He has to first unlearn the ways he's learned to cope with problems and learn more acceptable ways. It's a formidable task.

My advice, get away from him - he's no good for you and never will be (Ooops, I jumped to a conclusion, didn't I?).