Do you think this is reasonable, He also said he would pay for it.
2007-03-01 05:04:18 · 56 answers · asked by Amy-xox 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm 15 if that matters
2007-03-01 05:04:42 · update #1
wow, this guy really sounds like a star! it doesnt matter how old you are, its still your decision. Do you want to have the baby? If so then have it. If you WANT an abortion, then thats what you should do, but dont let some immature little wanker persuade you to do anything you dont want. And may i suggest, even if you do go ahead with it, dont get back with him anyway. He sounds like an unsupportive ******** and doesnt deserve you.
2007-03-01 05:22:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
First of all - I hope that you that you take this the way that it is intended- I do not know you but my heart goes out to you- I do not want to be harsh- but I must speak the truth to you in love. You know that you put yourself in the position to get pregnant. So now you have a responsibility to more than you and you BF. There is a baby involved- that child that you are carrying has no say in this- but you are responsible for that child- who cannot speak for him/her self. I counsel teens and women who are pregnant and the fact is that the boy friends that say they will stay with the girl if they have an abortion- is not true. BF's leave because the women who have had the abortions become emotional and the guys cannot stand that. He offers to pay for it- do not fall for that too- you pay far more than money for an abortion- a baby is killed plus you can have physical risks and emotional risks that last a very long time- far more than the money outlay. I just re-read your question- he said he would get back with you if you had an abortion? So you arent together now? Think about that. How faithful would he be if he left you in the first place? I do not know if you email but please email me if you choose too- I would like to talk more. Take care,
2007-03-01 08:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes very unreasonable. He did half the work so how dare he even suggest that without you suggesting it first. If he doesnt want kids then he should have thought about that before. He isnt going about this the right way. At the end of the day it is your decision as the baby is in your body. I think that it is now down to you. What will you do if you want the baby but you have an abortion then he dumps you anyway. You have a good think about
what you want and good luck sweetie.
2007-03-01 07:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by carinaburke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might get back with you but you shouldn't want to get back with him. If he loved you he would support you and also your baby is part of you so he would love it too. It sounds like you want to have your baby, if you do then you really really shouldn't have an abortion. Never have one because someone pressured you into it - it will affect your whole life either way. You don't want to resent him for taking away your baby and if you break up then you will feel awful. No contest - he's not worth it! 15 is young to have a baby but there's nothing wrong with it. You will get lots of help and support to look after the baby when it arrives, if not from your family then there are heaps of charities etc. out there who will help you a lot. If you decide to go for an abortion or adoption really really think it through first. Try to talk to an adult you can trust about it - maybe a teacher or a dr? If you don't want them to tell your parents then they will not be alowed to without your permission. Another really good place to call would be childline. They can give you heaps of help and advise - a chance to talk through all your options with someone who won't judge you or anything like that but who will help you to make a desision that's right for you. They will also be able to help you to get in touch with other people who can help you.
All I can say is that you need to think this through and make a desision that's right for you - it's your body and your baby - don't let anyone push you into anything, take your time to decide. Good luck xxx
2007-03-01 05:27:28 · answer #4 · answered by Cathy :) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not reasonable at all... if he loved you, he wouldn't want to put you through all of that! I am speaking from experience. I thought my boyfriend loved me... and I had an abortion because I didn't want to loose him. Within 2 months of the abortion he left me! Now I am left with nothing.... my ex.. like yours can just walk away and get on with their lives. They wont have to think twice about you, the pain they caused you, or the loss of their child. All of that however will stay with you forever. If there is one ounce of you that doesn't want an abortion, then don't do it. And don't take that guy back no matter what. Trust me, theres isn't a day that goes by that I haven't wished I died in that theatre that day.
2007-03-01 10:56:39 · answer #5 · answered by Samantha C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You really need to talk to someone who understands your problem. Mum or Dad if possible, if not there are a number of organisation's that can help. Understand that your boyfriend can be prosecuted for underage sex, and if he is pressuring you at this time he isn't worth hanging on to. This is a decision which will affect your whole life. I am not suggesting you keep the baby only you can decide, but do realise that in a few years time you may deeply regret an abortion and it's too late then.I ended up in a similar position only I was the father, I loved my girlfriend and there was no question of abortion. It was our baby and we wanted it. My baby now has two of her own and I never regretted my OUR decision. Please ask Someone you trust for help, it's the only way, talk it out and then you make the decision. For what it's worth if he does not love you enough to support you through this he is not good enough for you. Good Luck.
2007-03-01 05:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He should help pay and if that's the decision you can deal with, it's really all your choice. Keep in mind that many states now require parental permission for an abortion. Also keep in mind that at 15, the likelihood of being with this boy forever is very, very slim.
Do it if you feel it's the right choice for you, not because of your boyfriend. As I said, the chances you will be still together in 2 years, is very slim.
2007-03-01 05:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by KathyS 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not reasonable. You have to do what YOU feel is right. Do you honestly think that he would stay with you even if you did have an abortion? He is only 15. I seriously doubt it. He is just giving you empty promises to get you to do what he wants. He offered to pay for it? He just wants to buy his freedom.
Don't let him push you to do something that you don't want to do. I guarantee you that it will haunt you for the rest of your life. Think long and hard before you make this decision.
Good luck!
2007-03-01 05:39:52 · answer #8 · answered by Chewie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to live with your decision for the rest of your life. You are young, your boyfriend today may not be your boyfriend tomorrow, even if you have the abortion....he could still leave you. A child however, is forever! You have to decide what YOU want, now what your boyfriend wants. You are very young and you will have a lot of challenges raising a child, possibly alone. I hope if you decide to keep the child, your parents will help you, or family, ect.....but never go by what your boyfriend wants. He might not stick around no matter what you decide. Its sad he even put you in a position to chose him over the life of your unborn baby. Whatever you decide, make sure its what YOU want though! Good luck to you.
2007-03-01 05:29:19 · answer #9 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are numerous arguements for and against abortion, and the final decision must be up to you.
Abortion is not simply an operation, and there will be consequences whether you have the procedure or not (both emotional and physical).
If you are able to talk to someone else, someone who is emotionally unattached to the situation, they would be able to give you more advice or support.
If you want to have the baby, then you should have it, don't let your boyfriend force you to do something you don't want to do.
Speak to someone, discuss all your options and make an informed choice, after all this choice will affect the whole of the rest of your life.
2007-03-01 05:22:20 · answer #10 · answered by bty498072 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in a very similar situation when I was 17, and I actually did go through w/ the abortion, my b/f basically forced me to do it and made me feel like there was no other option and I did NOT wanna lose him, so I was weak and did it. I was a fool, our relationship didn't last much longer after that anyways and I regret everyday what I did, I am now 21 and 8 months pregnant and with an amazing guy, and I feel like I was lucky enough to be given at 2nd chance at this. Just remember this is a decision that you will have to live everyday for the rest of your life, is he worth it?
2007-03-01 05:20:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋