Those who grew up in a Filipino family?

Question

How is marriage and the relationship between husband and wife different in the Filipino culture as opposed to Western? How is the role of the woman different?

Answer 1

in our culture, the filipina wife takes care of the husband like prepares his coffee, cooks his food, prepares his clothes and make sure that everything is ready for the husband before going to work. the wife's duty is to take care of the family, the husband and the kids. we might have servants to help us in the chores in the house but the wife still makes sure that everything in the household runs smoothly. as much as possible i dont want to give my husband any problems coz he has alot already from his work. the wife sees to it that the children are well taken care of, helping them in their homework and making sure that the kids are doing well in school and as a mother responsible to raise the kids with moral values and good discipline and respect for their elders. the husbands duty is to provide for the family like food, shelter and every basic needs of the family. the wife is submissive to the husband and respects the husband and support him in making decisions. the role of the woman is entirely different compared to the western. we take care of our husband, we give him respect and let him be the man that he is. in return our relationship with our husband grows stronger each day because of this. when the husband makes the decision, it is respected by the wife and the kids. we've been brought up with love of God and respect for parents and respect for our neighbors. our mentality is that we are successful human beings if we raise our children well. and that means, good citizens and peacful loving people. as a wife, we dont argue with our husband when he's angry. for my part, i like the brainstorming of ideas but i try not to argue. in general, a fiipino wife and husband tries to make the marriage work for we dont believe in divorce. wives endure whatever the shortcomings of our husband for once we are married, we are married for better or for worse...

Answer 2

Wives in a Filipino culture are very submissive when compared to the western. Though majority of Filipinas are working/career woman just like their husbands nowadays- but you'll be surprise that they still have the energy to do all the remaining household chores at the end of the day. This time-men helps too in the best that they could coz that's where Respect and Love to their partners comes along.
Their are still the so- called " Martyr" wives but that is beyond the true meaning of being submissive.
With regards to decision making- most of the time the husband has the last word( that they copied from their wives..)

Answer 3

the prime reason why filipina women are submissive to their male partners is the social culture that has been existing even before the spanish occupation.

philippine society like most asian countries is MALE DOMINANT, as in "its a man's world out there", i grew up believing this because this is the environment that tradition created.

that women's prime purpose in life is give to birth and (become a mother), take care of siblings, and serve the husband; no offense to my filipino brothers - but this is ancient history and yet still exists majorily

the wife or the mother is labeled as "ilaw ng tahanan", which means the "light of home"; implicating that mothers eluminate the household and its family member for them see a clear path.
simply put: mothers tells you the right, good things to do

while the husband or the father is the "haligi ng tahanan", which means "the foundation or footing of the house" , as if saying that the household will collapse without the male counterpart (can you feel the masculinity there? LOL)

basically the relationship set-up is similar to any culture even for the western side, its just that the tradition has had slow changes or shall we say "conservative".

not that i complain, i am a father and a husband myself; but i think, some changes could be good

Answer 4

I think that in the Philippines the woman is more subservient than in Western cultures. The women in the Philippine society is generally expected to be homemaker, stay at home mom while the husband is the breadwinner. Although the role of the woman is expanding and she too can now have a career, I think it still takes a back seat to the man's wishes and the family's needs. In the US, a woman is just as much a man's equal in the work force, and the home front. Basically, I think the women's role in western cultures is far more liberated.

Answer 5

Usually the husband takes care of the wife and the family. Old stuff. Unlike in the western both wife and husband have to do something for a living. Filipinos are more old custom and its a good thing coz you can really feel that they care for each other.

Answer 6

we live in a very feudal/patriarchal community where males dominate the family. meaning they are the ones to provide income for the family while the wife stays at home and look after the kids, do household chores and should be submissive to the husband. it still being practiced by many but for now, women have grown to have opposing views on that matter.there are those who no longer give in to that idea.

Answer 7

I did not grow up in a filipino home but over the years, I have been very picky of choosing the right life partner for me. I have made my comparisons to the filipina woman mentality to the american woman's way of thinking.

I am speaking of my life experiences, I know that my point of view is different than others.

I don't hate american women at all because I can have one if I really wanted one.

I really like filipina women because they know how to fulfill their role as a woman. They know why God created women from the beginning.
Some american women,but not all have a mind of her own and will do things without her husband's knowledge.
The american women is too liberated and it makes them feel like they have power over the man. That is not good for a life time of love and commitment.
To me, Filipina women have old fashion values and that is a very good trait to have for life partnership.
Me and my (filipina) wife really enjoy each other. After 3 years of marriage, Our feelings for each other is growing stronger and stronger as time passes. Its a good fly in the sky and we are ready for rough turbulence as they occur. We are set for life.
Thank God.

Answer 8

Why Do Families (And The World) Lack So Much Love?

Mostly, it’s because Husbands Don’t Love Enough


Two days ago, I had an ecumenical meeting with the President Gloria and various religious leaders in the country (even Muslim leaders). That was where I spoke to Bishop Ruben Abante, the head of the Alliance of Baptist Churches in the Philippines. We were talking about how to solve the problems of the world. Naks.
That was when Bishop Ruben gave me a word about families that blew my mind.
He said, “Brother Bo, the Bible says in Ephesians 5:25, ‘Husbands, love your wives, and wives submit to your husbands.’ Have you ever wondered why the Bible doesn’t say, ‘Wives, love your husbands?’” “
Why?” I asked.
The Bishop explained to me that the responsibility to love the family rests on the husband's shoulder. The wife and the kids are only to respond to that love. In the same way that the Bible says in 1 John 4:9 (my life verse) “We love because He first loved us,” we respond to God’s love for us.
That was powerful. I began to reflect on all the broken families I’ve counselled through the past 28 years of my life. Most of them (not all) were broken because the father didn’t love enough. And as I reflect on all the broken people I’ve counselled, I can see the same pattern. In most of these individuals (again, not all), I see the lack of a loving father in that person’s life.
Fathers, you have a pivotal role in the life of your wife and children. You are to aggressively, assertively, deliberately love them—and they will respond.
But the good Bishop was not finished. He said, “Why didn’t God say, ‘Husbands, submit to your wife?’” “
Why?” I asked again.
He said that once that love is there, submission is the natural response. He asked, “Why is there so rebellion and disobedience among children today?” He explained that kids need to see their mother submit to their father as a model to follow. (We didn’t have time to talk about situations where the man of the house doesn’t love. Should the wife still submit? That difficult question I hope to answer it in another article.)
But let me share with you my experience.
I love my wife. I do it aggressively, assertively, and deliberately.
And she submits to my leadership. I have a vision for the family and I’m bringing my family to that vision—and she supports me.
But what does that mean in daily life?
That I’m king and she’s my slave?
Gosh, you should visit my home.
Because I love her, I want to serve her. And because she follows already my general direction, I realize that 90% of life’s decisions are about the trivial stuff. Because I love her, it’s my joy to say, “Yes” to her. So in reality, I follow her 90% of the time! She isn’t my slave. She is the queen I pamper.
That, my friends, is marital headship-submission in daily life.
May your families be filled with love.
Husbands, take responsibility in filling your family with love.
Wives, support and submit to your husband.
And together, we can fill the world with God’s love.


I remain your friend,
Bo Sanchez

Answer 9

im america women stay home until the kids are ready for a babysitte or ready to stay home alone.

in he philipines men work women stay home