only mental, financial & spiritual. We do not get along and the lines of communication have been broken a long time ago. In addition to this he has been incarcerated, involved with drugs and is now disabled. For most of our marriage he was either incarcerated or in the streets. We were married in prison by a 7 day adventist. Was I even married to begin with?
2007-03-01 04:43:28 · 8 answers · asked by songstress 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you were married and put yourself out to the world as married, then you are married.
Take your complaint to him first, then to the church if he doesn't respond. Matthew 18 describes the church discipline process. The process is not meant to punish, but to bring the offender back to God.
However I Corinthians 7 indicates that we are to remain with an unbelieving spouse as long as it pleases the unbelieving spouse. The idea is that you can win them to God with loving behavior.
Before a bunch of folks get on my case for staying with an abuser, and remaining a physical or emotional punching bag, I'm not saying that at all.
In fact, I'm saying don't put up with that behavior. Get a legal separation if you need to to protect yourself.
Tell him you are there for him, but there is behavior that you will not tolerate. He is free to live in peace with you, but he has to be a team player, and demonstrate that he is willing to do things God's way if he is ever going to come back home.
Hold him to that, make him demonstrate this, for a long period of time to see if his heart is in it. It's not unreasonable for you to want to see 6 months or a year of clean, sober, kind, loving and productive behavior before you let him into your day to day life again.
For whatever reason, you chose this man. So, I encourage you to try everything possible to make it work. If he doesn't want to make it work, then let him be the one who leaves.
That way, you can approach God knowing you did everything humanly possible to safely keep your vows.
2007-03-01 04:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your marriage is legal. While you don't present Biblical grounds for divorce, he surely hasn't been the picture of a Biblical husband. Is there any possibility of getting counseling together? Your issues sound difficult; don't downplay the types of abuses you withstood. It all does its damage and hurts. But since you asked for a spiritual take, are you sure you have done all you can to get the marriage on track? Has he gone to a drug rehab? Have you sought counseling? Have you done any co-dependency work on your life? How do you know that if you leave this man, you wont make a similar choice in a mate in the future?
I wish you wisdom and clarity in your journey and I pray that God directs your path.
2007-03-01 13:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by Heffiner 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you were married. Did somebody force you to go to the prison and marry him? If you said "I do" by your own will, then you're married, period.
I can understand that you want out, or you wish you never got into that relationship to begin with. There's nothing wrong with feeling that way, BUT please don't start by trying to stipulate that you were not really married. If before God you said "I do", you are married period. If you want to divorce him, it is a sin, sins are forgivable but not to be taken lightly. However, do not talk yourself into believing that somehow your marriage was not official. What reasons would you list to argue that your marriage was not official? Because it was done in prison? Well, marrying someone in prison is a stupid thing to do, but God exists there too, and if you made a vow, then you made a vow.
2007-03-01 12:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were married legally, but not by mind, heart, and soul.. Ask yourself, why did I get married to him in the first place? Chancces are, if you don't remember, or find it was a stupid reason, then go through with the divorce.. Start a new life and be with someone who really cares for you for who you are.
Mentally; You are confused and maybe should seek counseling.
Financially; Sounds like you should go through with the divorce.
Spiritually; This is up to you. No one else can tell you.
2007-03-01 12:48:53 · answer #4 · answered by Kiara 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you are married ,i dont understand the point of him being disabled does that have anything to do with the divorce,does he agree,you said now disabled was he not disabled when you were married has your marriage just been breaking down recently there are to many questions for a spiritual answer
2007-03-01 17:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A spouse should hold you second only to God himself. Treating you in an abusive manner is not a Godly love.
If you filed a marriage licence and it was signed by a recognized cleric you are married.
2007-03-01 12:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by Question Addict 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you get married in the first place?
2007-03-01 16:41:24 · answer #7 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like alot of drama to me. I could not live that way.
2007-03-01 12:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋