One of my best friends is really starting to annoy me. I hang out with him a lot but i just don't know how much more i can handle. He is really controlling and gets mad if i don't want to do what he wants me to do. I like this guy and he knows it and so he won't let me go in where this guy works by myself- he thinks it's funny that the guy thinks we are dating. I just can't stand being around him right now he is so annoying and i don't know what to do
2007-03-01 04:37:58 · 25 answers · asked by Lena 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you are that annoyed with him, you should talk to him and let him know how you feel. If he doesn't want to listen maybe it is time that you find a new friend.
2007-03-01 04:41:35 · answer #1 · answered by Steph 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there are a few issues that he's not telling you. Just open up the lines of communication a bit more. It would be a shame that you all stopped being friends partially because this new guy came around.
2007-03-01 12:42:18 · answer #2 · answered by wrtrchk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your relationship is nothing more then a friendship and so he needs to stop getting mad to make you feel bad and controling everything you both do together...just let him know how you feel and if he can not stop his annoying habbit just stay away from him a few days...maybe he'll get the message
2007-03-01 12:46:33 · answer #3 · answered by ashlee s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a control freak and assumes you are his girlfriend because you submit to his demands. Tell him to his face that you are NOT his significant other and if he wants to still be friends, to butt out of your business and give you some space. He will not get it through his head that you are not his girlfriend untill you tell him straight.
I would avoid hanging out with him until he finds himself a real girlfriend, as he obviously has his sights set on you. You need to break the cycle. If you don't want to do what he wants to, don't hang with him. When he sees you are no longer putty in his hands, he will seek out others that will be.
Good luck :-)
2007-03-01 12:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by Captain Jack ® 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your friend has a crush on you. He thoroughly enjoys advertising to this other guy you like that you are taken. He probably wants to go out with you himself, but doesn't know how to tell you because you've slotted him at that "just a friend" level.
Approach him directly about this issue. See what his reaction is. He's trying to control the situation because he is insecure about where he stands with you, and wants something more.
2007-03-01 12:44:36 · answer #5 · answered by stargirllll4311 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG i have one of these!!! what you need to do is really sit down and talk with him... because he might not know he is doing it, and i bet he really does like you, weather he knows it or not!!! he has some type of feelings and you need to talk with him and figure out why he is being like that! dont end the friendship yet... sometimes those are they best kinds of friends to have around in the end!!! good luck!
2007-03-01 12:42:02 · answer #6 · answered by Saritah Bonita 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can never stop being friends, however you can limit your exposure to this person. It will take work. Control issues are never easy to deal with, but with time and patience it will work. Just be honest and go out of your way to be absent from his company.
2007-03-01 12:43:23 · answer #7 · answered by whitehairblueeyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to break all ties with this guy and get your life back , hes in the mode if he cant have you then neither can anyone else he sounds like a control freak who is mentally abusing you, get rid of him.
2007-03-01 12:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by veronica a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's trying to make your friendship more than it is. You should set him down and be honest and then distant yourself from him. I think that should be best. He seems awfully controlling and possesive, not qualities you need in a friend or a boyfriend.
2007-03-01 12:42:55 · answer #9 · answered by brandyswilkes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oftenmost girls may be kind of willing victims, feeling some latent joy in being held as a hostage or as an emotional robot by so-called guy friend.
Oftenmost some girls may not really want to grow up and to become fiercily and brightly proud of their own independence and in their own style. If we interfere in their life by wanting to help them, they will somehow feel a kind of blunt resentment towards us for our having concretely interfered in their life and having told them that they should do so and so to become more free and more bright in their own body and in their own soul.
Even when they ask us for help, they may have wanted to do so in order that we may listen to them and so feel that they are interesting. Of course they are interesting - they are interesting in the way that we may take them as good examples of what it may mean to be connected to a blunt annoying guy whose style and pride appears to be affected by a distorted warped up sense of selfhood.
Good luck to you on your own path unto more freedom and brighty joy!
2007-03-01 13:15:22 · answer #10 · answered by pasquale garonfolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋