Is marriage a dead institution? If two people truly love eachother, shouldn't their love keep them together instead of a binding contract ordained by the state? I really don't see the point, other than carrying on a tradition. Also, I heard that there's more non-married couples than married couples, according to census reports. Can we as a society live and love without marriage?
2007-03-01 04:37:38 · 13 answers · asked by joshnya68 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think so.
Love is not what keeps a marriage together. Well, not romantic love as we see depicted in movies or TV.
Commitment is what keeps a couple together. It's not even marriage that keeps them together, as we have almost 50% of marriages eventually ending in divorce.
So, I say if you are not willing to formalize that commitment, then how strong is that commitment? It may be very strong. However, I believe in most cases it is not.
2007-03-01 04:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not dead. People are just being given bad advice by their friends and peers. Marriage isn't about throwing a parade for friends and family and getting to wear jewelry. It is about supporting each other through life's trials, even when they are very personal.
You see so many people respond to questions here with "get a divorce". That's seldom the right answer, but it is common because people love to see others in misery. They resent that two people can pull their relationship back together, not for the kids, but for each other, when the hecklers jumped ship at the first signs of strife.
2007-03-01 04:54:18 · answer #2 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's such a players opinion. Try and find a quality girl with that attitude! To be honest you sound very young and immature. People who have values, morals, ethics and integrity make marriage a covenant. And they are not running around with a bunch of STD's or crabs either. By the way married people are healthier than single people ... another census report that you so naturally did not mention. Society is falling apart because people's values are in the toilet and they have no honor or respect for one another. But when your 50, with high blood pressure, diabetes, gout and need someone to enjoy life with ... hopefully they will care, respect and honor you enough to be there for ya! Good Luck.
2007-03-01 05:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by Summer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, what's "dead" is the ability of two people to be emotionally mature and live together harmoniously.
If you have a sufficient sense of compromise, sympathy, patience, and forgiveness, you can usually live and get along with others - marriage per se isn't necessary. For those who understand committment, marriage is a minor detail.
It is people who - for one reason or another - are afraid of comittment that shun marriage. They're the kind to bail out the door at the first sign of trouble. They're the kind to desert you if you become seriously ill.
Divorces aren't usually over things like cheating or abuse; they're about stupid $hit like not putting the CDs back in order.
It takes people who aren't totally self-centered to make a relationship work.
Marriage - for those who understand all that - is not confining in any way.
2007-03-01 04:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
No I do not think marriage is dead, I think peoples concepts have changed and a lot more things have become the norm so it appears that it is dead but no not quit yet.
2007-03-01 06:26:23 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage dies after about 3 years. If you get married, I suggest marrying someone you can at least be friends with once the passion dies off....and it will.
2007-03-01 04:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lilith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps one should examine the need for a 2nd and 3rd wife or husband to brng into the marriage so that when you're in crap with one, or even just don't feel so connected you can find some consolation in one of your other spouses.
2007-03-01 04:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by Skinnymark 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, marriage is not dead! I am married, and it is wonderful! Dont get me wrong, we have our ups and downs just like unmarried people. I love being married!
2007-03-01 04:45:03 · answer #8 · answered by Kari R 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Of course, but I need to be married to my husband, so he can carry the insurance for us, because I'm staying at home with the babies. If we weren't married, I couldn't be on his insurance. Sometimes, there are reasons like that for getting married including the reasons of being in love. There are some practical reasons. Plus, I wanted to be married so my kids and I will have his last name. That was important to me. Outside of that. It wouldn't matter to me.
2007-03-01 04:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
One good thing about marriage is security. When you just "live" with your mate, and god forbid they die, you get nothing. Their family may act like you never existed, meanwhile, everything your mate had, you two built together.
2007-03-01 04:44:07 · answer #10 · answered by CJ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋