Wherein you failed to do something you could have done, and should have done, but didn't?
I certainly was on May 2, 2005, and I have lived with tremendous guilt ever since.
No matter how often several doctors have told me the initial symptoms were so vague and unremarkable that even they would not have guessed something was wrong and would have waited, I nonetheless feel I should have acted immediately.
I hold myself responsible for the consequences of my inaction, for the cost was all too dear and painful. I know she forgives me, as I would her. I cannot forgive myself.
Do not allow this to happen to you. Regardless of how foolish or angry you may have felt in the past for having done so, act immediately.
I seek neither your sympathy or condolances. I seek only to advise that we are not only resonsible for our actions, but also our inactions.
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2007-03-01 04:36:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Thank all of you for your flippant answer, I really appriciate it.
Except Jesabel. There must be something wrong with her.
Hey, zeroartmac, whose says I'm Christian back beater?
Just wait until your spouse dies in your arms. ASSHOLE!!!
2007-03-01 05:17:27 · update #1
Joni B. Yes I know. Convincing my heart is the problem. I loved my wife.
2007-03-01 05:40:04 · update #2
Yeah. Unfortunately I know exactly how you feel. My time is about 2 o'clock in the morning when I wake and feel pretty good. Then the guilt hits, the sorrows come back, and the thoughts of things I should have done return.
Those are the worst. In many cases the things we didn't do are worse then the things we did do. Maybe in all cases.
Yes, I know how you feel. And it doesn't get any better with time. I have learned that it can get worse, but it is only because I allowed it to become a focus and a primary part of my life.
"Get over it" is a trite comment. But you have to accept your flaws as just that. You're not perfect. Nor am I. Neither of us ever will be.
I expect your wife would tell you the same thing.
But you already know that.
Take care.
2007-03-01 10:29:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
what EVERYONE should
always do...
IS to face whatever guilt issues YOU
personally have. Whether the guilt is "real" or imagined it still
impedes our healing.
This is SOMETHING EACH of us MUST do to help the grieving process.
You can NOT avoid admitting and THEN dismissing the issues.
Otherwise
they make YOUR whole life about "grieving". You can not change
anything from before someone died but YOU can learn from these
feelings and do BETTER with those still alive. Make THAT your
goal...less regrets that way.
In "non computer" life... sad but true~ those we are closest to
IGNORE us after awhile because we are DOWNERS... this only makes our
loneliness HARDER. Drives to big of a wedge between US and those that
count on us.
Repair your thinking to repair the grieving process.
People will notice the difference and you will have MADE their LIVES
easier.... this will come back to you as rewards.
2007-03-01 21:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by dbzgalaxy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I came on here today to close out my account and I came across your question. I have to say that getting over the lose of a love one is a pain that never eases and never really goes away.
the hardest thing is getting over the would of's and the should of's. we can not go back and change them they will always be there and we use these things to beat ourselves up with everyday for the rest of our life's.
we need to try and let them go for they cause more heartache for us and unease for our lost love ones. their sprite will never rest if we done let go of the would of's and the should of's for they will feel our hurt. i lost 3 grandparents all with in a year apart and i wasn't there when they past and i beat myself up for it til this day and have to fight back the tears, but i also know that they all love me as much as i do them and i let the would of's and should of's go and they will rest in peace and i will be able to mend.
2007-03-01 22:10:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, but I don't do the Christian beating myself up with guilt thing.
2007-03-01 12:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by zeroartmac 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
yes, a thousand times :(
2007-03-01 12:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forgive yourself; God already has! You didn't know.
2007-03-01 13:36:57 · answer #6 · answered by You liked me crazy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Thank-you ..I will keep that in mind!!
2007-03-01 12:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by Jesabel 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah...no biggie.
2007-03-01 12:45:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋