I'm getting obsessed some times and it causes problems on my social life.
2007-03-01 04:30:52 · 12 answers · asked by George Elliot 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm not sure how old you are, but if you're between the age of 12 and 99, male and breathing then that's cause for thinking about sex all the time. It's normal, especially if you're on the young end of that spectrum. Don't worry about it, life has a way of giving more to worry about then obsessing about sex. If it truly becomes a problem and interferes with normal life/work then it would be a good idea to discuss it with a counselor/therapist.
2007-03-01 04:49:23 · answer #1 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me more like just nervousness and guilt. The truth is most men and women think about sex many times a day, in fact anytime you see someone attractive it pops into your head to some extent...that's part of being human it's not obsessive.
If you, for example, rubbed against strangers' butts or slapped them uncontrollably, that'd be over the line. But, on the other hand, if a girl wants you chances are she'll want you make her feel like a bad girl at least some of the time...if she doesn't, you need to start hanging around women more honestly in touch with their sexuality and/or who like you more.
If you come up to a woman and think "oh my...I'm thinking about sex she's so much better than me"...that's not sexual obsession that's insecurity. You have to think something more along the lines of "I'm good, she's good, and she should be happy to be with me...but, if she rejects me, that's her prejudice not my problem...it'd only be my problem if I were a bad lover, which I'm not".
If some girls you approach say things like "you call that a pickup line, you horny chump?" even when you say simple things like "hey, what's up?" (and some girls will do this), just say "I'm out for a good time, and if you aren't, you might want to spend time fixing your makeup anyhow it's smearing." To an extent (not to the point of abuse, of course), reminding women they aren't perfect either helps put you both on equal ground. Many women will get over their superiority complexes and simply admit "you're right...so how are you?"
Once you actually get a girlfriend who respects and adores you in all ways, including sexually, you'll realize you have a lot to give that way and shouldn't feel so guilty about it.
So talk with confidence, keep in good shape, and don't let women get the impression you think they're above you...and you'll be fine. Also, if you're not in shape (or honestly think a woman is better than you because a woman you like and know is in better shape), don't suffer in an inferiority complex, get to the gym and do something about it...maybe even date some other girls you aren't crazy about to get your skills up (I know this sounds cruel but experience tells me being able to be a good lover more than justifies the means).
Best luck man!
2007-03-01 04:39:20 · answer #2 · answered by M S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haahaa.. well buddy, It's Life and this is Your OWN "Control".. Get a grip! If you think it is too much? if u talk to friends and they don't think same way...) then think about seeing sumone for help.. try doin things, not git lost in this,, cause until it's gonna happen, that's all it is,, a dream
Hey, I heard one... a guy thinks bout it like every 7 seconds.. LOL ( sure that's a joke in itself) I sure Hope they have Control too!! Sighhhhhhhhhh..
Good luck and Like I said, If you can't get over it, and do other things, then maybe for now, it is a problem.. I am not sure of yer age even, If yer a teen, It is normal to fantasize, yes.
2007-03-01 04:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by GBabes333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the beginning., i comprehend u say u love him, yet unprotected intercourse is a foul theory, not purely STI's, yet being pregnant too. in basic terms be sure you're taking a seat with him n have a severe communique the place u clarify that it cant take place consistently, and that it ought to be a spontaneous component. If he does somewhat love you, he will appreciate you for that. additionally, somethin else to think approximately is probably a contraceptive pill/injection in case you somewhat dont like making use of condoms. good success hunny x x x x
2016-10-17 00:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This requires a professional session to find what the root of the problem is.It can be from insecurity to jealousy.
2007-03-01 04:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by smashmouth3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I get a song stuck in my head, I sing it out loud and that seems to help get rid of it.
You can't stop thinking about sex....is it due to you not getting any or not enough?
Try the method I do with the song.....do it and do it out loud! Ha!
2007-03-01 04:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about it. It's not unusual and the more you focus on it, the more of a problem it'll be.
Like saying "don't think about that pink elephant in the room." Then all you can think about is pink elephants!
Aren't you thinking about pink elephants right now? And sex, of course. Just not together please.
2007-03-01 04:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by gtravels 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have much of a sex life. I only got one erection. It lasted from when I was 12 until I was 35.
2007-03-01 04:52:22 · answer #8 · answered by charlie at the lake 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
How many times a week does someone ask this same question?
2007-03-01 04:40:01 · answer #9 · answered by SkewsMe.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch one of those sex ed videos you know the one where they show the lady giving birth...the one they show everything...i think that will make you think twice
2007-03-01 04:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by kauaichic420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋