im 17 and im still a virgin should i wait to have sex or doing now like my other friends
2007-03-01 04:29:41 · 27 answers · asked by airplanes 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
When the time is right for you to have sex then you will know..it won't be b/c your friends are doing it or b/c you feel left out ...Sex is a big responsibility for males and females and you have to be prepared to face an unplanned pregnancy EVERY TIME you have no sex no matter whether you use protection or not. There is always a chance and no method is foolproof except not doing it. So if you and the person you are having sex with are not grown-up enough to take care of a baby alone or together, then you should NOT have sex. So many young people have their lives sidetracked for years b/c of it...Good luck with whatever you decide....
2007-03-01 05:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by Proud Mommy of 6 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you always do what your friends do??
Hun when you wait, you fell sooo much better about yourself. As for when you hurry to get it over with especially at such a young age you will think differently about sex in the future people will look at you like your some kind of hoe..
I would suggest you wait til you are older and actually in love with the person, or wait until you get married trust me you will be glad you waited.It's all worth the wait keep that in mind.
If that still doesn't stop you then think about HIV, AIDs, STD's, Pregnancy, babies, diapers, clothes, food, medical bills, doctor visits, day care, low paying job because you got pregnant and couldn't afford to stay in school because you had to get a job to take care of the baby, think about having sex and accidently getting pregnant and the man that helped you get pregnant up and leave you alone without so much of a goodbye, Think about being stuck having a kid at such a young age you can't go out with your friends and have fun like normal teenagers because you will be stuck at home watching the baby..
Also keep in mind that condoms aree not 100% effective neither are birth control. I have known many many woman to get pregnant on either one of these and on both at the same time.
Condoms nor birth control does not protect against HIV,STD, or AIDS either.
I hope you make a wise decision and decide to be different from your friends, It's not cool. Being a virgin is the better route to go and you also get to be different, men will also respect you more and you will actually be appreciated..
2007-03-01 14:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by Kasja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not a question we can give you a sure reply!
Every guys is different from the others and sex is a very personal stuff. Although for boys the situation is different from the girls where the first approach becomes more important because will take the virginity, you can do it when you like. It would be prefereable if you did it with a girl you're loving or is giving you excitment. Such experience is alike the first love, the first car or the first job, remaining in the memory!
2007-03-01 13:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by whole_feelings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you believe. If you are not ready for sex or anything else, don't do it. Just because your friends are doing things, doesn't mean you should feel pressured into it. Sex is a very big step, and you want to make sure it is with the right person. Also, make sure you use protection. If you do have a steady boyfriend, and you think you are ready, it may be a good idea to go on birthcontrol. Even if you are one bc, still use a condom. It's even more effective if a condom and bc is used to prevent pregnancy and std's. If you have a very open relationship with your mother, you may want to talk to her about it also. I hope my children will be open with me, so that I can make sure they are using adequate protection to avoid pregnancy and std's.
Kenny: Waiting until marriage is a religious belief, and masterbation is also a sin. So, if you are going to tell someone to wait until marriage, then I don't recommend suggesting masterbation as an alternative. All sins are equal. And in todays world premarital sex isn't morally wrong to everyone. I think it's great if someone wants to wait, more power to them.
2007-03-01 13:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should just follow what your mind and inner voice asks you to do. There is no definition of wrong or right. If you think having sex will give you happiness which will last for a long time and you are comfortable with the idea then go on. If you have even 1% of guilt then probably you should not do this. I advise you to be confident in whatever you do taking full responsibility of your own life.
2007-03-01 15:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by Liberty tower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need to ask this question, you are not ready to take a relationship to the adult level of being sexual.
My mom used to say "...and if all your friends jumped off a bridge, would you??" Silly as it sounds, it's right - you are considering doing something because of peer pressure, just like smoking, drinking, stealing, skipping class, getting piercings, etc. etc.
Shouldn't you be making this decision based on your own personal readiness to commit to an adult relationship??
Final note: unless you are ready for poopy diapers, midnight feeds, daycare, preschool, soccer, parent teacher interviews, homework, softball tournaments, school dances, disciplining another human being, and the possibility of becoming a grandmother at 34 years old, don't have sex. The only 100% effective method of birth control is to not have sex. Anything else, and you need to accept that a child could be the consequence of your actions.
2007-03-01 14:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by JS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait until your married. It's more special that way to give up to your husband instead of some random guy you don't even know. Also you won't get pregnant if you wait and won't have to worry about getting AIDS or and other STDS.
2007-03-01 14:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't really need to ask yahoo users. Ask yourself if you are ready. I am 18 and thought I was ready. I was even taking b/c. One day I missed one pill. Not even a month later I had horrible cramps, a little fever, & bleeding before it was my time of the month. I miscarried. I wasn't ready to have a baby. I was already taking care of my baby stepchild. I was depressed for months. I never even had the chance to know I was pregnant or even get to love him. This probably will not happen to you but it's possible. I never thought it could happen to me. Birth control doesn't always work.
2007-03-01 14:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by stepmom of 1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Save yourself. You arent ready. 17 is way to young. Save it for when you fall in love. There are so many consequences to having sex.
2007-03-01 14:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When the time is right you will know. Everyone has their time. It's not a question you ask about. It's a feeling you have. Don't feel pressured just because your friends are doing it.
2007-03-01 23:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by andyt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋