I was married at 17, and I think people are getting married too old (they're too set in their ways to be able to integrate their homes properly, etc.)
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2007-03-01 04:18:54 · 10 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just a thought inspired by one of the comments. Maybe marriages are more likely to last a lifetime at 30 (compared to 17) because you have significantly less of a "lifetime" left??? (lol... just a thought).
Great answers so far, keep 'em coming. Don't worry about arguing with me. I love debate. I'm not offended by anything. Well, at least most anything....
2007-03-01 04:38:41 · update #1
I agree that people are marrying too old. Women now a days are putting their careers above ANYTHING and EVERYTHING else. Then they TRY and TRY for a baby and wonder why it is so hard to get pregnant. It is because they didnt start soon enough. I have been married since I was 20. And it sure has been nice growing with my husband. =)
2007-03-01 05:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by Kari R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although you are right about being set in their ways by the time they are say 30..but statistics say that a marriage is more likely to last a lifetime if you wait to get married at 30 or over..Please don't take offense to what i am about to say... But i don't think anyone knows exactly what they want at 17 yrs old..Believe it or not that is a pretty young age to get married when the average life span is 95... At 30 you know more about what you want out of life...As you get older your worries, wants and needs change
2007-03-01 04:28:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree. Infertility is at an all time high, due to couples marrying so late in life ... then wishing to have a child, but, sometimes it's too late (for the women) and they have to resort to IVF. I mean, I'm all for waiting until a person is ready to have and child and commit to marriage ... but too many are waiting far too long, and end up frustrated at the fact that finding a suitable partner is much more difficult, when you're older.
2007-03-01 04:31:52 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Carol♥ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think people shouldn't feel pressured to be married by any certain age. Nowadays it's more socially acceptable to wait longer to get married if that feels right, whereas I think a generation or 2 ago people felt like they were hopeless old maids if they weren't married by 28. Well, I'm 28 and I'm only now thinking I could possibly feel ready for marriage. You have a point about being set in one's ways, but worrying about details like property should be a minor annoyance compared to getting married to someone you want to spend your life with. A counter-point would be that if you wait until you're older you know yourself better, and know what you want from life and from a mate better.
2007-03-01 04:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by a female 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think age has anything to do with it, when someone is ready to make that commitment then they do it. I know when I was 17 I wasn't ready to be married I was still in high school worried about my clothes and my boyfriend to be married. I am still unmarried at 30 and at times I freak out, but I know that I have found a wonderful person who truly makes me happy and loves me. I have searched my entire life for him and have had a few failed relationships to know what I want. He is it. I am not pushing the issue and we both know that we will marry one another, we are just enjoying the ride until we get there.
2007-03-01 04:31:26 · answer #5 · answered by Tabitha 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think people are marrying too old because they are putting their careers before their happiness.
Then they wait forever and end up marrying just because they still want kids in their lives.
But they wait so long, that by the time they have kids, they are at a higher risk of having complications and the child having birth defects.
People have become more career oriented and into a "me first" lifestyle where they put themselves before relationship. Sucks!
I got married at 20 and still have a very successful career and a husband with the same.
Wouldn't change a thing for the world!
Hope this is what you were looking for! ♥
2007-03-01 04:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I got married when I was twenty -- and we started dating when I we were 18. We were married even before we made it official. I knew he was/is the man for me. Should we have waited? Maybe, but age is relative -- and making a life long committment is hard at any age.
The only thing I think we should have waited to do was have kids (I had my first baby at 22), so we could have travelled and got a house before we started having babies. We're still together, through ups and downs, but I'm glad we've weathered the storm. There is no one on this earth that I could ever imagine sharing my life with. Good luck to you and your spouse.
2007-03-01 04:29:47 · answer #7 · answered by HeIsMyAllinAll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There r good points in favour of marrying young, most important being ur being open to adaptability with the spouse.
2007-03-01 04:48:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
haha funny you.. i was tinking ppl are getting married too early ... i m stil in sec sch when i m 17 yea..
2007-03-01 04:29:39 · answer #9 · answered by smiles-I v a 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
honestly i think if it is true love age is no factor
2007-03-01 04:25:54 · answer #10 · answered by brandi g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋